OMG!! Going for a week w/o make-up

southernbelle0915

One of my FB friends shared this today. CLICKY 

Summary: a 29 y/o woman goes for a week without make-up after wearing a full face of makeup every day since 12 y/o, posts a selfie each day and documents how she feels about it.

It kind of made me sad. She talked about how she felt totally insecure, anxious, critical of herself, self-conscious and almost obsessed with what people thought of her. All because she wasn't wearing make-up. She more or less stated that make-up gave her social confidence. In the end, she ends up feeling more confident, but admits that it mostly comes from her boyfriend saying she looks pretty without it.

What's your daily routine? Do you feel insecure without makeup? Why?

emmaaa

I usually wear the ELF powder with blush and mascara on a normal day.

If I need more of a "full-face" I wear foundation, powder, bronzer, blush, eyebrow shadow, eye shadow, eyeliner, and mascara. I usually only do that for meetings at work and weekends.

I used to be really self-conscious without makeup on but have slowly started to feel better about myself. My acne flares up once a month so I usually wear full coverage makeup on those days.

I gradually started wearing less makeup during the week to get to the point I am now. It made me feel uncomfortable and naked without it but have gotten used to it.

Once I started to be fine with minimal or no makeup, I actually feel more confident than before.

beethery

I never wear makeup anymore. I work with family and generally do not have time between waking up to a work-related phone call and running out the door.

I wear makeup when I want to feel fancy, and generally do myself up at about a 3/4 Bianca Del Rio.

Like, oh gonna put on makeup today. This is the goal I want to achieve:

Chapstick and moisturizer is my daily deal.

Makeup? Oooooh child, we don't have time in the day to detail the whole list. my face gets in the door before the rest of me because I like to pack all of the makeup on.

penguin44

I used to feel naked without makeup, and then I went to a university with a ratio of men to women of 4:1. So didn't wear makeup all of college basically.

Now I work in a male dominated field. I usually wear powder or tinted moisturizer with some eyeliner and mascara. Maybe blush. I don't feel naked without makeup, but I feel more professional with a little on.

When I'm dressing up I wear foundation, powder, blush, eye shadow, eyebrow definer, eyeliner, lots of mascara... I rarely do all of that though.

jenna8984

I honestly think it's really sad that people are THAT self conscious about it. I wore liquid foundation and powder and all that crap from age 13-23. Then I just kinda said fuck this. For the last 5 years, I haven't worn it to work, haven't worn it on weekends when I meet up with girlfriends, don't even wear it for nice dates with DH, never. I have a bronzer powder and eyeliner that I put on only for special occasions like someone's wedding/ bachelorette twice a year.

I think age matters. When you're a teen and your brain isn't fully developed you care so much what everyone thinks. Once you reach your late 20's, most people have come into their own and learned to say screw other people's opinions, I'm doing what makes me happy. Not to say that older women shouldn't wear makeup, just they shouldn't have such negative feelings about themself without it.

ETA- This girl in the article acts like it's so heroic of her- most of us do this every day and it's not scary so you're not a freakin Saint for making it through a week.

climbingsingle

I really don't wear a ton of makeup day to day. I put on foundation, a little bit of eyeliner, mascara and concealer just under my eyes. If we're going out on say a weekend night and I want to look nicer, I'll add some blush or bronzer and lip gloss. 

I don't feel totally insecure without makeup. I will leave the house without it on. And I'm not one of those girls that goes to the gym with makeup either. On the weekends, I roll right out of bed and workout with nothing on my face. 

But I definitely wouldn't feel comfortable going to work without makeup on. I just feel put together when I'm wearing makeup. 

And I will say that my skin is totally different at 34 than it was at 29. The bags under my eyes are considerably a lot more noticeable. However, I break out a lot less because I use better products on my skin now. 

l9i

I used to wear a lot of makeup in college, more so my freshman and sophmore years.  I was a twirler so very used to a wearing lots of makeup I'd just tone it down for normal wear.  I then gradually wore less and less.  I'm not sure why but I just felt it was too much of a hastle with my busy schedule.  I now don't wear anything but moisturizer on a typically day.  If I have an occasional breakout I may throw on some concealer and powder. 

I feel very comfortable not wearing makeup on a regular basis.  I will still wear makeup for nights out or if I have a big presentation at work I'll put on some mascara and gloss. 

I never wore so much makeup that I felt like a different person with and without it.  I do have a friend that wears so much people don't recognizer her without it... I don't think that's a good thing...

 

lurkergirl

I do concealer with a little powder and mascara for daily makeup.  For going out I add foundation, blush, eyeshadow, and eyeliner.

I have circles under my eyes (always have, they're genetic) and light eyelashes, so I do feel pretty naked without at least a little coverup and a touch of mascara.

novella1186

The only time I loaded on the make-up was when I was in a super abusive relationship. Being told every day that I was ugly and worthless quite frankly made me feel extremely ugly and worthless, so I tried to over-compensate with tons and tons and tons of make-up, I'd wear really nice clothes, spend forever doing my hair, and none of it actually made me feel any better. 

These days I care way more about having healthy skin, so I don't put tons of crap on my face. For work I just put on some moisturizer and a little bit of eyeliner, and I feel pretty anyway cuz years later, I have my self-esteem back, my self-worth ins't based on what some psycho asshole says to me, and FI constantly tells me I'm gorgeous without make-up. 

Now when I see women or girls wearing a ton of make-up it makes me sad. Makes me think maybe they have terrible self-esteem issues the way I did, and I really want to tell them that they're more beautiful without all that junk on their face. 

climbingsingle

Speaking of makeup, have any of you ladies watched the Real Housewives of Melbourne? This woman Gina loads on so much makeup - I've never seen anything like it before. 

Jells2dot0

I have never really worn makeup. The most I'll have on is a little mascara if I don't get my eyelashes tinted and some concealer under my eyes because I always have that tired look. I know I feel insecure and awkward when I DO have a full face of makeup on! It makes me feel like I'm playing pretend and I'm trying to be something I'm not. I look at myself in the mirror and think "who is this person?" I can't even say it makes me look better, though I'm sure everyone else would say that it does! 

goldchocobo.defunct635829490514903826

There's something therapeutic about doing a full face of makeup for me.  I like taking the time to focus on myself and practice the art.

With that being said, I haven't been wearing much of the stuff because "MEH".  I used to wear foundation but now I just conceal the acne spots and use a bit of blush, a very light contour, and some mascara.  Some days I just slap on a bit of lipstick or some eyeliner.  My routine varies by level of apathy.

I can kind of understand the insecurity stuff though.  A few years ago, I had very bad acne.  I remember coming out of a dermatologist's appointment sobbing because I did this to myself and it's all my fault and I'm so hideous.  I covered the marks and scars even when I wasn't leaving the house and I refused to leave the house without makeup on at all.  This carried on for about 2 years.  Finally, the acne faded away and I get the occasional zit now but nothing like the pain and suffering I had in the past.  I have a good skin care routine now and I think that helps, but I can relate to the 'leaving the house without pancake face on is not an option" mentality.  First world problem?  Of course.  

Eye makeup though, I can take it or leave it.  You won't catch me doing a cut-crease/deep smokey every single day.

LittlePeachBlossom

I wear some makeup (as in cosmetics, not foundation) all the time. Unfortunately, I wasn't blessed with a beautiful natural face. I don't think I'm hideous. Just very plain and sickly looking without any makeup.

I have light eyebrows, minimal lashes, and genetic dark circles so without at least a touch of makeup I do feel not so pretty. 

At a minimum, I like to fill in my eyebrows and use eyeliner. This offsets my dark circles and makes me feel better. Like the "natural" I should look like.

Daily routine would be plain moisturizer, eyebrow liner, eyeliner, mascara, blush or bronzer and chapstick or lipstick with just a touch of color. If my face is red, I'll use a bit of tinted BB cream moisturizer. Sometimes I add neutral eye shadows. I definitely glam it up for a night out on the town.

I do get annoyed at times when people boast about not needing or wanting to wear makeup. Good for you, I'm happy for you. But don't judge us who don't feel great without it. I don't think that's fair. If I had your full eyebrows or long lashes, yeah I'd totally rock the no make-up look. 

southernbelle0915

goldchocobo said:

There's something therapeutic about doing a full face of makeup for me.  I like taking the time to focus on myself and practice the art.

I love doing this once in a while. Like when we go to a wedding or out for someone's birthday or whatever. It's really fun to sit there and play with different looks. 

I also like going to get my make-up done sometimes before a fundraiser or something. It's fun asking the MUA to tell me about what they're doing and why they're doing it so I can learn and just out of general curiosity.

And I supposed I should answer my own questions:

- My daily routine is a bit of powder if it's about to be that time of the month, mascara and chapstick. Some days I'll use pinks/browns (pink chocolate by Clinique) on my eyes.

- No, I don't feel insecure without make-up. I credit a lot of that to my upbringing. My mom never did the whole "now you're a woman and you need to put on your face before going anywhere, now do as I do and remember not to leave the house without it" that several of my friends' moms did. It was kind of sad and I saw them basically go from confident/not thinking twice about it, to being really insecure and thinking they weren't beautiful without it.

melbenso

The only time I put on make up for work is if I have a jury trial.  Other than that, it's only when I'm going out some place fancy socially.  And even then, my make-up routine usually takes less than 5 minutes: powder, a little blush, eye shadow, a little eye liner and mascara on the top lashes.  Occasionally I'll put on lipstick or lip gloss, but I usually stick with chapstick.

I went to an all girl's high school.  Hardly anyone wore make up to school.  It just got to be a habit.  In fact, DH was concerned, when I told him I was getting my make up done for the wedding, that he wouldn't recognize me.  I assured him, I was going to have very natural make up (and did), and that I just didn't want to have to worry about doing it myself.

theycallmelinz

I'm that girl who thinks I'm hideous without makeup. If I'm just around the house or running out to a store quickly I don't wear it, but for work or if I'm going to be out for a while, I wear foundation, powder, blush, eye liner, and mascara at least. I add eye shadows when I'm going out at night. I like playing with make up when I have the time, but I really hate putting it on every day for work. Regardless, I don't think I'd have the confidence to completely go without it. I swear I look like Mama June from Honey Boo Boo without it. 

Maggie0829

I wear makeup on a daily basis.  I use concealer under my eyes (always have dark circles), a powder foundation (liquid feels to heavy sometimes), blush/bronzer, eye shadow, mascara (a must). I also fill in my brows a bit because they are pretty darn blonde and thin.  When I am home or need to run to the food store on the weekend I will go without but wearing makeup makes me feel put together and presentable.  Just like I wouldn't go to work without brushing my hair I also wouldn't go to work without make up on.

LittlePeachBlossom said:

I do get annoyed at times when people boast about not needing or wanting to wear makeup. Good for you, I'm happy for you. But don't judge us who don't feel great without it. I don't think that's fair. If I had your full eyebrows or long lashes, yeah I'd totally rock the no make-up look. 

But I do agree with this.  We all do something, whether it be putting on makeup or doing our hair or painting our nails or spraying on perfume or whatever, that makes us feel pretty or good about ourselves.  So just because some of us don't feel 100% without makeup does not mean that those who do feel wonderful without makeup are any better.  There are some women who must have their nails done to feel put together and pretty, but I am not one of them.  And just because I don't feel the need to have nail polish on my nails to feel pretty doesn't mean that I am going to judge someone because they do have that need.

novella1186

southernbelle0915 said:

goldchocobo said:

There's something therapeutic about doing a full face of makeup for me.  I like taking the time to focus on myself and practice the art.

I love doing this once in a while. Like when we go to a wedding or out for someone's birthday or whatever. It's really fun to sit there and play with different looks. 

SIB

Ditto to you ladies. It's kind of an indulgence to go to Ulta or Sephora and buy new make-up that's a bit pricey, and then spend time putting on "fancy" make-up for a special occasion. I just don't do it too often cuz, life. 

Liatris2010

I used to wear makeup pretty much everyday. A light foundation or powder, blush, eye liner and shadow and mascara. Makeup makes me feel pretty and wearing it cheers me up. Now I only bother if it is a special occasion or I have to do a thing I dread (because wearing it makes me feel happier, more confident, it is my armor, if that makes sense).

When I was wearing makeup a lot, I always felt a little insecure without it. I was so accostumed to my face looking a certain way with the makeup that when I took it off I was a little disappointed. "Oh, this is what I actually look like." Now that I am used to my face without makeup, when I put it on I think "I am even better looking than I thought." It is a better feeling.

theartistformerlyknownas

Maggie0829 said:

I wear makeup on a daily basis.  I use concealer under my eyes (always have dark circles), a powder foundation (liquid feels to heavy sometimes), blush/bronzer, eye shadow, mascara (a must). I also fill in my brows a bit because they are pretty darn blonde and thin.  When I am home or need to run to the food store on the weekend I will go without but wearing makeup makes me feel put together and presentable.  Just like I wouldn't go to work without brushing my hair I also wouldn't go to work without make up on.

LittlePeachBlossom said:

I do get annoyed at times when people boast about not needing or wanting to wear makeup. Good for you, I'm happy for you. But don't judge us who don't feel great without it. I don't think that's fair. If I had your full eyebrows or long lashes, yeah I'd totally rock the no make-up look. 

But I do agree with this.  We all do something, whether it be putting on makeup or doing our hair or painting our nails or spraying on perfume or whatever, that makes us feel pretty or good about ourselves.  So just because some of us don't feel 100% without makeup does not mean that those who do feel wonderful without makeup are any better.  There are some women who must have their nails done to feel put together and pretty, but I am not one of them.  And just because I don't feel the need to have nail polish on my nails to feel pretty doesn't mean that I am going to judge someone because they do have that need.

All of this. 

I think it's sad that the article writer was SO SELF CONSCIOUS about not wearing it, but that's no reason for those who don't wear it to gloat (not looking at anyone in particular here, just in general). 

I wear BB cream and a little under-eye concealer every day to even my blotchy skintone out and protect it from the sun, and almost always wear mascara (definitely always if I'm going to work; I look dead without it). About half the time I wear a little black eyeliner. I don't bother with bronzer/blush or eyeshadow unless it's a special occasion, and then I'll go all out with the smokey/cateye/false lashes/the works.

falsara

I've never worn a lot of makeup unless I have an event. When I was cheerleading I only put on makeup when I had to be in my uniform. Now I only do a lot if I'm going on a nice date, if there is a work function or something.

Most days I'll wear a CC cream and eyeliner maybe concealer if the bags are prevalent. If it's a weekend and I'm not going anywhere I'll do nothing and I always have chapstick.

For days when my skin just doesn't look good I'll put on a mineral foundation over the CC cream, then add blush, eyeliner, a tiny bit of shadow and some mascara. This is what I put on if I have a date also.

pinkcow13

I used to wear makeup when I was younger. I was never really into foundation because it always made my face itchy. I always wear moisturizer with SPF. In the summer, I might wear bronzer, maybe eyeliner, and lip gloss. In the fall/winter, if I wake up early enough I tend to wear eyeliner, maybe mascara, and lipstick.

I recently bought BB cream, and a contouring kit (for my fancy days). My main routine though, is moisturizer and tinted lip gloss or lipstick.

flyingfoxes

I wear eye makeup every day.  I never wear foundation/blush/lipstick, and will only use bronzer if it's a special occasion - I just don't like that mask-y feeling on my face.  I have pretty good skin.  Wearing full-on makeup for the wedding is going to feel so strange but I'm looking forward to it!

southernbelle0915

Maggie0829 said:

I wear makeup on a daily basis.  I use concealer under my eyes (always have dark circles), a powder foundation (liquid feels to heavy sometimes), blush/bronzer, eye shadow, mascara (a must). I also fill in my brows a bit because they are pretty darn blonde and thin.  When I am home or need to run to the food store on the weekend I will go without but wearing makeup makes me feel put together and presentable.  Just like I wouldn't go to work without brushing my hair I also wouldn't go to work without make up on.

LittlePeachBlossom said:

I do get annoyed at times when people boast about not needing or wanting to wear makeup. Good for you, I'm happy for you. But don't judge us who don't feel great without it. I don't think that's fair. If I had your full eyebrows or long lashes, yeah I'd totally rock the no make-up look. 

But I do agree with this.  We all do something, whether it be putting on makeup or doing our hair or painting our nails or spraying on perfume or whatever, that makes us feel pretty or good about ourselves.  So just because some of us don't feel 100% without makeup does not mean that those who do feel wonderful without makeup are any better.  There are some women who must have their nails done to feel put together and pretty, but I am not one of them.  And just because I don't feel the need to have nail polish on my nails to feel pretty doesn't mean that I am going to judge someone because they do have that need.

I'm sorry if you took this as judgmental, competitive or boastful. I hope neither of you think anyone is judging you for wearing make-up. Originally, I did not post about my personal routine, but it includes makeup almost every day.

My thoughts on the buzzfeed article are that I feel sorry for this girl. Without makeup, she felt totally insecure and anxious. Whether she was wearing makeup directly affected her self-worth. She thought makeup influenced how people thought about her. She even questioned whether someone refusing to hold the door open for her and someone bumping into her without saying 'excuse me' were the direct result of her not wearing makeup!

All that depending on a few products she puts on her face. I felt and still feel sorry for her. Not because of my routine or anyone else's routine in comparison to her's, but because of her feelings about herself (not just her looks) being almost entirely dependent on makeup.

I think people are certainly able to observe that type of outlook, think about its effects on her as a person and feel sorry for this woman, without comparing her to themselves and thinking they're "better" or "boasting" or "gloating". It's not a comparison or a competition.

doeydo

My daily routine is shower, brush hair, and dry hair if it is cold outside.  Ta-da.

goldchocobo.defunct635829490514903826

novella1186 said:

southernbelle0915 said:

goldchocobo said:

There's something therapeutic about doing a full face of makeup for me.  I like taking the time to focus on myself and practice the art.

I love doing this once in a while. Like when we go to a wedding or out for someone's birthday or whatever. It's really fun to sit there and play with different looks. 

SIB

Ditto to you ladies. It's kind of an indulgence to go to Ulta or Sephora and buy new make-up that's a bit pricey, and then spend time putting on "fancy" make-up for a special occasion. I just don't do it too often cuz, life. 

Chocolate Soleil Bronzer is expensive as all out, but it smells AH-MAZING and was a total game-changer for me.  The Naked 3 Palette is a constant in my routine as well.

I'm at the point in my life where I would rather buy higher quality makeup (Too Faced, Nars, Kat Von D, Benefit) that works for me on a daily basis than buy 50 Wet n Wild palettes I will never use.  

theycallmelinz

doeydo said:

My daily routine is shower, brush hair, and dry hair if it is cold outside.  Ta-da.

I'm so jealous. Even drying my hair takes fooorrreeevvveeeeeeerrrrr but I look like I stuck my hair in a light socket if I don't dry it straight. 

mrsb53

During the work week, I wear powder and mascara. Weekends, I don't wear any unless I'm going out. For fancy events, I'll add eyeshadow. That's it!

hellosweetie1015

I only recently started wearing makeup again. I didn't go through middle school the same way most people did, so I never really got the whole "if you don't wear makeup you can't be pretty" thing, haha, plus my mom never wore makeup when I was a kid so it just never really was a thing for me. I cannot stand a whole lot of junk on my face, but I bought a pad of ELF eyeshadow (it's got, like, 40 colors! I paid $5!!! I couldn't NOT!!!) so I'm having fun with that. I mix the darkest colors with a little water for liquid eyeliner. Mascara and lip gloss happen occasionally. 

I am that girl who feels so much better about herself when her nails look great, though.

KatWAG

I put on a "full face" (foundation, eye shadow, brow pencil, eyeliner etc)  of make up every work day plus blow drying my hair and flat ironing it. If I didnt I would scare small children. I wear make up becasue I need it. I dont really want to go to work looking like I have black eyes because the dark circles under my eyes are so bad. And my office is business professional so tossing my hair in a ponytail isnt really acceptable.

The good news is that I have been doing it for so long, I am really fast at it.

The weekends are a different story: mascara, concaler and chapstick. For my hair, I use moraccoan oil and half blow dry it.

flantastic

Today, I happen to be wearing mascara, tinted moisturizer and tinted lip balm. But that's only because I work at a school and it is school picture day and I know that pictures do turn out better with a bit of makeup.

I might put on the same amount of stuff if I'm dressing up semi-formally or above. Otherwise, I haven't worn makeup on a daily basis since senior year of high school. I just got fed up with it, and then once I got use to how I looked, it looked strange to go back... so I didn't.

Sometimes I'll put concealer on something, but that's rarely a necessity. I haven't been able to find said concealer for the last several months, and I haven't considered it enough of an issue to get more.