Ever since I can remember I've wanted to keep my maiden name instead of taking my husband's last name. Two of my aunts and several of my female cousins kept theirs and I've always believed that taking a man's last name is an outdated tradition. My fiancé, however is extremely opposed and argues that we should have the same last name as our children so that I have a stronger connection to them. Personally I could care less whether or not I share a last name with my children. I've brought up the possibility of him taking my last name or for us to create a new one but he's adopted and says that it's the main connection that he has to his family. We both came up with the compromise that I would hyphenate but neither of us are truly happy because he still prefers for me to give up my maiden name and take his and I feel like I'm selling out by giving into his wishes. I'm just afraid we'll both end up resenting each other.