I know I'm probably being unreasonable.
My fiance and I have been together for two years. We just had a child together, and he proposed after I had the baby.
His cousin has been with her fiance for barely a year. They got engaged immediately. Like, stupidly immediately. Wouldn't be a problem, except...
His family is really close. They've compared the two relationships for their entire duration. The whole time we've been together, it's been "Who's getting engaged first?!" or "Who's getting married first?!"
Needless to say, she got her ring first. Fine, whatever...
To make things even more fun, she knew exactly what theme I had always wanted. Since her wedding is first, you better believe she snatched up the theme I wanted. OK, fine! You can have it! I can have a spectacular wedding with a different theme, I mean, I'm no bridezilla...
FINALLY, nine months later, I get MY ring. So exciting to finally be .marrying my best friend! First thing I do is try on wedding dresses.
Immediately I find the dress of my dreams! It's actually flattering on my postpartum body (which is nothing to complain about, but I've still got some weight to lose). I fall in love with the dress, and hastily purchase it. Perhaps too hastily..?
One of my fiance's aunt's begs me to show her pictures of my dress. I've never been a super secretive person, so I oblige. Her smile quickly fades... "..Ooooohhhh...that's not... is that... that looks... a lot like her dress..."
Devastating. That's all I can say. I spend the next forty minutes bawling (coming from someone who normally has a level head), as she reassures me that "it's not a big deal," and "you guys have different body types, it'll look totally different!" ... OK, but you recognized it right away, didn't you?
The next week or so is a constant battle in my head of pros and cons, whether or not I should keep the dress or compromise (AGAIN!). Ultimately, I decided to keep the dress. Hers is white, mine is ivory, so there is a slight variation. Also, she's bigger than me--and I have been steadily losing baby weight.
All is well in bridal planning land. I make more cute plans, including using a wagon to have my fiance's younger brother pull my son and my infant niece so they can be a part of the wedding.
BUT WAIT! Last night, I find out that this girl ALSO PLANS TO DO THE SAME FREAKING THING!!! Why. Why. Why. WHY does every single plan I have end up being "stolen" by her?! And the worst part is, I would technically be the one stealing the ideas!
But I had no idea she had planned these things, or picked the same exact dress I wanted, I just find out after the fact. And both weddings will be attended by a lot of the same family, they'll definitely notice that, hmmm, my ideas are A LOT like the bride who got married before me...
I know I'm probably being unreasonable. I hate that I kind of hate her, because she's a very nice person. But I can't even have fun wedding planning, because the family keeps telling me her plans, and they end up being the same as mine. They keep telling me to go ahead and do the same plans anyway, cause "nobody is gonna be at both weddings!" which is a total load of dump, lots of people are gonna be at both.
I just don't know what to do.