NWR - gift dilemma

butterscotchjbeans

Today is DH's best friend's birthday and we are invited to a small party at his house. He wants to buy him a gift card to a restaurant. Or just a visa one.
I think that's very impersonal and I want to put more thought into a present.
My top ideas were a bottle of Jack Daniels, a wallet, and that's as far as I get. He is gay, so I am even more confused when I think of what kind of wallet he will want more or how can I help my husband make this one a special one?


Thank you in advance for your help.

huskypuppy14

Your husband should choose the gift because it's his friend.

I think gift cards for restaurants are great. And what in the world does him being gay have to do with anything?

JaxInBlue

Agree with huskypuppy - especially about gay not having anything to do with it.  But I also propose a compromise.  Get a smaller bottle of liquor and tie gift card to it or put the gift card in a wallet. 

I understanding wanting to give a thing - but I also think your husband knows his friend's taste best.

Liatris2010

Husband's friend, husband's choice. Who cares if you think it is too impersonal? You are not giving or receiving the gift.

Does the friend being gay matter because gay people are pickier about whiskey and wallets? I don't understand.

STARMOON44

"Husbands best friend"

Husband's. Not yours. You get no say leave it alone.

AddieCake

I don't understand how his gayness affects his wallet choice.

mikenberger

Lol is there a gay wallet section? Or wallets for gays? Does it spring out rainbows and play YMCA when you open it?

Honestly. That's about the most ridiculous thing I've read all day. And I've been on Reddit for about 3 hours.

Its your husbands friend. Let him do the gifting.

larrygaga

Maybe she just wanted to bring up that she's friends with a gay person. They are rare and unique like unicorns!

huskypuppy14

I take my best friend out to dinner every year for her birthday. We like it and we get to catch up. Obviously OP you must think that's a terrible gift.

Most of my other friends just get cards.

doeydo

I agree with PPs, that your husband should decide the gift since it is for his friend. 

Regarding the wallet statement, I wouldn't make kind of general statements like that like gay people all wear hipster/different stuff or what have you.  I love you butterscotchjbeans, but maybe a statement like "his particular style is more _______ so I am not sure" would come across better in the future.  

mileybangerz

If he's gay, you should buy him a bright pink purse instead of a wallet to buy into the stereotypes. Because apparently gay men don't carry wallets like straight men do.

jacques27

1.  I know lots of hipster heteros and unfashionable gays.  Try focusing on the individual person's style instead of your perceived stereotypes of what their sexual preference might dictate.

2.  If you don't know the person well enough to feel confident that you can pick out a gift in their "style", then you shouldn't be giving them that gift.  Or just save his friend the time and drive the gift over directly to Goodwill for him.  There is nothing wrong with a gift card - at least it's something he'll likely use.  (Also, unless he's 16, he probably owns a wallet or he doesn't like wallets and doesn't use one on purpose.  It's unlikely that it's just never occurred to him to get one and he's just been waiting on someone to give him the perfect hipster gay wallet.)

3.  Not your friend.  Butt out.

AddieCake

I don't think you needed to mention he was gay at all. Hipster, fine. The gay part wasn't relevant.

slothiegal

butterscotchjbeans said:

Today is DH's best friend's birthday and we are invited to a small party at his house. He wants to buy him a gift card to a restaurant. Or just a visa one.
I think that's very impersonal and I want to put more thought into a present.
My top ideas were a bottle of Jack Daniels, a wallet, and that's as far as I get. He is gay, so I am even more confused when I think of what kind of wallet he will want more or how can I help my husband make this one a special one?


Thank you in advance for your help.

I'm not sure why you made any of this your business.

And I'm not even going to touch your incredibly offensive "he's gay!" statement.

huskypuppy14

butterscotchjbeans said:

@huskypuppy14‌ I think dinner and catching up is amazing , my friend and I do it too. But this is a party. I think taking the host out for dinner would be rude.

Obviously, you wouldn't do it the day of the party. It would be for another time.  I don't know why that would be rude.

slothiegal

butterscotchjbeans said:

@doeydo‌ you are right. I should have said he is more of an eccentric, hipster kinda guy who happens to also be homosexual. So I was lost. Therefore decided to do the liquor bottle with the gift card holder. @mileybangerz‌ I didn't say he was a drag queen. Although if he was I would have totally bought him that pink purse. @larrygaga‌ yea girl. That was what I was trying to say but came out sounding wrong, and for other people they just tried to look for the wrong in this post.

Ugh.  Also offensive.  Girl, you try buying Miss Bianca del Rio a pink purse and tell me how well she takes it.

larrygaga

butterscotchjbeans said:

@doeydo‌ you are right. I should have said he is more of an eccentric, hipster kinda guy who happens to also be homosexual. So I was lost. Therefore decided to do the liquor bottle with the gift card holder. @mileybangerz‌ I didn't say he was a drag queen. Although if he was I would have totally bought him that pink purse. @larrygaga‌ yea girl. That was what I was trying to say but came out sounding wrong, and for other people they just tried to look for the wrong in this post.

I was 1000000 percent sarcastic what planet are you from

lyndausvi

who knew a GC to a favorite restaurant would be a too impersonal gift for a gay guy?

larrygaga

theartistformerlyknownas

Obviously you go to walletsforgaypeople.com. They're specifically designed to fit into gay hipster pockets, which are shaped differently than hetero pockets. Your unicorn friends should have told you this.

misshart00

Im more curious why OP is even here and posting when she asked to have her account deleted a month ago.

misshart00

butterscotchjbeans said:

Im more curious why OP is even here and posting when she asked to have her account deleted a month ago.

Because they couldn't delete my account for some reason. So since it was still open, "why not".

I just think its odd that you managed to have all your drama filled post history deleted, but are still hanging out like nothing happened.

lyndausvi

misshart00 said:

Im more curious why OP is even here and posting when she asked to have her account deleted a month ago.

good thing we all have good memories.

beethery

butterscotchjbeans said:

Im more curious why OP is even here and posting when she asked to have her account deleted a month ago.

Because they couldn't delete my account for some reason. So since it was still open, "why not".

Horse apples. We had this discussion on another thread following the shitshow you started on that account that lead to your poor attempt at flouncing.

As I explained to you a month ago, mods cannot delete accounts, only Admins can. Part of an honest mistake, Lynda deleted your content with the intention of complying with your request to delete your account. 

You then were able to log back in (because your account hadn't been deleted yet) and continue posting your nonsense.

You apparently had a little heart-to-heart via PM with another poster where you told her you came back because your account hadn't been deleted. This is funny, because you would not have known your account was still active if you hadn't come back to the boards to read what people might be saying about the thread.

KP eventually was able to delete that account when she returned to work the following Monday.

THEN, you logged back in with another account you had, messaged an admin, changed the account name to butterscotchjbeans, and slowly started posting again because your thirst for attention is never-ending.

Did I miss anything? Because I feel like I got it all.

The memory of the internet is long, and there are discrepancies that you're relying on regular posters to forget. That's going well, obviously.