where to address rsvp

MrsHtobe2015

wedding is hosted by brides parents but couple already living in their new home, where do you have rsvp sent

theartistformerlyknownas

MrsHtobe2015 said:

wedding is hosted by brides parents but couple already living in their new home, where do you have rsvp sent

The RSVP goes to the host(s).

MrsHtobe2015

thanks thought so

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I think it depends on a few things like how is the invite worded. Is it worded as "Jane & John Smith would like to invite you to the marriage of their daughter....." if that is the case, then I would have it sent to the brides parents house. However, things that can change that to be the couples address, if couple doesn't live in the same town the parents live in and the wedding is in the town the couple lives in. Because then the couple is probably taking care of all the items with the reception venue so it would be easier for them to receive the RSVP at their home, especially if there is a menu preference that needs to be submitted. Now if couple & parents live in the same town, I say give the parents a box or basket to put all the rsvp's in and the couple can go pick them up every few days. But if the invite wording is Julie Smith and Jim Jones and their family would like to invite you.... Then I would say have RSVP sent to couple's house.

misshart00

Technically, they go to the hosts. But I think it depends who is going to keep better track of them, who is doing the seating chart, etc.

huskypuppy14

This is really something you need to discuss with the hosts. My parents, my husband's parents, and the two of us were all the hosts. We decided to have my parents collect the RSVPs because 1) we were looking at houses, so we weren't sure where we would be living; 2) my Mom wanted to collect the RSVPs.

However, I was keeping track of the RSVP not my mother, so she would just call me and tell me who had responded. I also went to their house a few times and collected them. (They live 1 state over, about 1 1/2 hours away).

You have to do what makes sense for everyone involved.

annakay511

My parents are hosting our wedding, but my fiance and I already live in/own our own home. We are having the RSVPs sent to me, because it is easier for me to keep track of them. Not sure if that's the proper thing, but that's the practical thing!

cafarrie

I suppose all of us (DH/me, my parents, his parents) were "hosting" but all the RSVP's came to me.  DH and I did not live together before the wedding, so it was just to my address because I wanted to keep tabs on everything. 

l9i

My parents were the official hosts.  The RSVPs were sent back to me (FI and I had our own house).  We did this because 1) My parents are always in and out traveling or gone for work, etc.  2) They aren't the best with keeping track of mail and things get lost frequently.  3) I wanted to track them and I was doing the seating chart so I need the info eventually.

My mom thought traditionally she should get them but realized that wasn't really the best option.  She knows I'm way more organized lol

Maggie0829

It really depends on who is tracking the RSVPs, IMO.  Yes, they traditionally should go to the hosts but if the hosts aren't tracking the RSVPs then I don't really see the point.

For our wedding our RSVPs were sent to my parents even though I was tracking RSVPs because H and I were in the midst of moving right when RSVPs were due so we figured it was just easier to have them go to my parents address then try and figure out which address of ours to use.