FI and I recently received our STDs that we ordered. It doesn't have too much information (full names, wedding date and city) but it does have one of our engagement pictures on it, which I purposely didn't share with anyone because I knew I wanted it to be used for this purpose.
When we received the STDs, I took a picture and sent to the VIPs only (mother, grandmother and FMIL) just because I thought they may like to see the finished product as they gave feedback into which photo should be used.
FMIL doesn't respond to my message, however I receive a notification minutes later that the photo has been uploaded to Facebook and both me and FI are tagged. I panicked and texted her politely asking her to please remove it, as we aren't going to be sending them for another couple of months and don't want everyone to see them now. Additionally, there are several people on our shared friends lists who will not be invited - I don't want them to have to see that and then not receive anything (or worse - assume because it was shared online that they too will be invited)
She did take it down, but then told me that I was being silly and paranoid and I immediately felt bad. I know she's a little offended that I asked her to take it down and I can only blame myself for sending it in the first place.
I feel like a control freak but at the same time, I am so relieved that the picture is gone. What's the point of paying for the printing and postage if it's just going to be posted online for all to see?
I would appreciate some feedback on the etiquette surrounding this. I am thinking I was allowed to be annoyed but shouldn't have asked her to remove...
I know I could have avoided this altogether by not sending her the picture in the first place, but I would have never thought she would post it online. Is there any way I can fix this at this point? Or just chalk it up as lesson learned?