A Vent & Question:
I attended the wedding of a close friend from college in early July. I gave a boxed gift, and I know a few friends there gave cards and other boxed gifts. We talked about if/where the gift table was and a few of us put ours there together (once found). A member of the bridal party told us where to put them. I have not received a thank you note. I don't expect a mailed one because they used email for the invitations (Paperless Post) but I do want to ensure they got the gift. So in this case I'm especially annoyed not to yet have received a thank you note because if they plan to do it by email (my supposition), then they can COPY & PASTE for each one with slight changes, which as we all know is easier than writing by hand.
My questions: it's been 4 months and a 1 week, do I contact them (really the bride, because that's my friend) and ask if they received it, or let it go? If she says yes, and something along the lines of "yes, thank you, it's wonderful, we love it", should I accept that as a 'Thank You'?
Side vent 1: I don't care if your thank you note has a photo of the couple getting married. I just want the acknowledgement you received what I picked out. I was presumably there to see the wedding, so I don't need a thank you card (which I will throw out no matter how lovely) with a picture. if I wasn't there & still sent a gift, then I really don't want to wait for you to get those cards, I just want a prompt note.
Side vent 2: I had a Bat Mitzvah when I was 12. I was very grateful to receive those gifts. I was able to write about 80 thank you notes in two days, within the month of the event. I have some serious shade for all the adults who can't do this, when my friends and I could and did at 12 or 13 years old.