Hi everyone.
First off I'm KUI because I decided tequila was an excellent way of dealing with this problem. I recommend against this solution, by the way.
Owing to some decidedly junior-high level drama, my mom is fighting with her group of friends again. This is problematic on a WR level because one of them was going to do my hair and makeup as well as my mom's hair and MOH's hair. Since my mom has been fighting with her friends off and on since September, I told her that this just wasn't worth it and I didn't want my wedding to be influencing the decisions she made regarding her friends. I'm pretty sure that this will shake down to me doing my own hair and makeup as well as my mom doing her own hair and possibly my mom and I doing my MOH's hair.
Now I'm not worried about my own look overmuch. As you've seen from my engagement pictures, I wear my hair very short. My job between now and April is to grow it out just enough to put a clip in it, probably something like a large flower. My mom and I are making it, details to come. I don't really ever do my own makeup, but I'd still rather do mine unless someone can give me a really good reason to hire that done.
My mom isn't worried either. She wears her hair the same way for every occasion and is very good with her own makeup.
I don't know what to tell my MOH. I promised her that we'd have her hair done if she wanted and she did. I'm kind of thinking about asking her what she wants to have done and seeing if we can do that easily ourselves.
And the further complication that shouldn't be my circus or monkeys is that my mom's friends have offered to throw me a bridal shower which my mom now doesn't want them to do and IDGAF whether I get a bridal shower or not. Now her brilliant idea is to ask my brother's GF to throw me a shower. I have no idea whether this is okay at all. DB's GF did offer to throw me a shower before when drama went down but my mom didn't say yes or no and I've just tried to stay out of it.
And I'm mad that my mom dragged me into another one of her fights with her friends. And I have no idea what I did to get involved in this or how to get out.
Now that I've used TK as LiveJournal, can someone help me girl? I'll never have the patience for liquid makeup, so what do I need to do to make powder work well enough? I don't have Ulta, I have Sephora and drug store brands as well as major department stores ... and go.
Also how do I learn how to do hair when I don't have hair of my own to practice on?
And is my mom about to stomp all over etiquette hell asking my brother's GF to throw me a shower when she offered before?
Re: WR: Hair and makeup help? Also a tiny dose of bridal shower
As for your MOH - just talk to her. Tell her what's going on. Maybe you two can make an evening of watching YouTube videos and trying different hair styles on her to see what works and if you're able to do it.
If you wanted the argument to 'just hire it out' here's what I have to say on it:
I had my hair and makeup done, the company I used came to my room and did it all there. I LOVED being pampered that early in the morning and I LOVED how my hair and makeup turned out. It was nice being able to sit in a chair and relax on my wedding morning. Honestly, Sephora is a little pricey - it MIGHT be cheaper for you to book a person to do your makeup than buy a whole bunch of products (unless you do plan on continuing to use the products). My makeup - for the people to come to the room and do airbrushed makeup was I think $85; if I just went with traditional I think it would have been $65 or $70. I attached a picture, it was the best I could find on short notice - I asked for 'natural with purple on the eyes'. The makeup lasted all day - they did give me touch up for lips and foundation (I didn't even use the touch ups).
@KeptInStitches I feel like it would be ok to explain to your MOH that the hairstylist fell through. At that point you can offer the suggestion of letting you and your mom do her hair (something simple like pinned up curls is easy for just about anyone to do even with no experience in hair styling). I think if I was your friend I'd be ok with that and not upset. It sounds like your mom has experience styling her own hair and would probably have most of the products you'd need like a curling iron or curlers, all you'd need after that is lots of hairspray and bobby pins. You can also give her the option of doing her own if she'd prefer.
I'm sorry your mom and her friends can't resolve their differences. You seem to be handling everything in the best way you can!
Certain makeup is reflective, and you'll end up looking like a super pale ghost in your pictures if you use it by accident (this has happened to me... I love mineral powder abnd have used different versions of it for years. I do a very good job at applying my own makeup... but in college, in pictures, I looked like Casper! I didn't realize why for a while.) So, at the very least, make sure you know for sure that the makeup you choose will look good in pictures.