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Re: Words of wisdom over on The Nest!

  • edited June 2015
  • levioosalevioosa Southern California member
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    LabLove86 said:
    I know we've discussed this before - but I'm curious as to what Tarpy does with her life. What is her SO like? Does she work? Is she a miserable person to be around IRL? 


    I can't imagine she's a fun person to be around {Not that I am 100% of the time either - but I like to pretend that I am most of the time. . . .}
    I can't imagine her SO (although I've never seen her mention anything about one . . . ) must be submissive/push-over/some word I can't think of right now - because almost anything would be grounds for immediate dismissal. We know he/she wouldn't be able to have any skeletons in the closet because - to the curb!


    This is mostly what I'm like when I read her posts:

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    No, no, you have it wrong.  He has done ALL THE THINGS.  That's why she's so qualified to give advice. 


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  • levioosa said:
    LabLove86 said:
    I know we've discussed this before - but I'm curious as to what Tarpy does with her life. What is her SO like? Does she work? Is she a miserable person to be around IRL? 


    I can't imagine she's a fun person to be around {Not that I am 100% of the time either - but I like to pretend that I am most of the time. . . .}
    I can't imagine her SO (although I've never seen her mention anything about one . . . ) must be submissive/push-over/some word I can't think of right now - because almost anything would be grounds for immediate dismissal. We know he/she wouldn't be able to have any skeletons in the closet because - to the curb!


    This is mostly what I'm like when I read her posts:

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    No, no, you have it wrong.  He has done ALL THE THINGS.  That's why she's so qualified to give advice. 
    I'm starting to feel like her relationship failed miserably and she got left for being such a giant bitch, so she has now turned into one of those pissed off bitter people who think EVERYONE'S relationship is bad and should end, which is why she just says to leave the husband all the time. "Oh he had a beer? DANGER! LEAVE!" 
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  • PrettyGirlLostPrettyGirlLost A Land Filled with Unicorns and Cat Hair member
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    After reading that, all those women are just as BSC as TB. Not one of them went "wow, that sucks, but PSTD is a serious condition you shouldn't throw around, one night is NOT indicative of a drinking problem, and immediately leaving him and getting a divorce is a huge overreaction"

    if you'd leave your marriage that quickly I have to wonder why you would get married.

    Exactly! I wanted to post in that thread so badly. I feel like that board needs a dose of rationa thought but I don't want to just jump in and start posting.

    "Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."


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  • PrettyGirlLostPrettyGirlLost A Land Filled with Unicorns and Cat Hair member
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    Aww man... I went over there to be amused but actually found that post very upsetting :(.


    Don't get me wrong- some of the responses are cray- having three drinks at an event does not make you an alcoholic, one bad episode doesn't mean you're an alcoholic etc.

    But am I alone in feeling that what the OP described was way over the line and disturbing?  Like there's being black out drunk... and then there's being black out to the point that you are unresponsive, violently ill, and verbally abusive.  That situation sounds terrifying and honestly would deeply shake my trust in my SO if that happened to me!  I have known some nasty alcoholics in my life but never have I ever had to deal with something of that magnitude, and in order to come back from something like that I would definitely have to insist that my SO never drinks again.  Maybe I'm just uptight about this issue (again, probably as a result of having known several nasty alcoholics in my life), but y'all can't seriously think that that isn't way over the line of acceptable drunk-ness?
    Yeah he was too drunk and he had alcohol poisoning and probably should have gone to the ER. Lots of people fuck up and get this overly drunk, and usually the experience is so awful they never do it again.

    This sounded like a one time incident which to me doesn't warrant a divorce or making him go to AA. If this becomes a pattern, that's a different story.

    "Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."


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  • beethery said:
    ........I won't say the name but Tampon the TN version of someone here....very black and white. "This is NOT the way it is done!"
    Look, H. Sapiens has only been really prevalent for 200,000 years, and they didn't start really drinking alcohol until about 10,000 years ago. We can all agree that drinking is not the norm and it is simply not how things are done. There are consequences to every action, and drinking will garner side eye among your circle and anyone who witnesses it. It is customary, and preferred, to drink water and nothing else.
    To nerd out - a newly published scientific study found that human ancestors were able to metabolize ethanol 10 million years ago. It is thought this change helped hominids adapt to life on the ground where there was a lot of fermented fruit to consume.

    That whole thread is ridiculous and the OP seems overly dramatic.



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  • This makes me even more thankful that TK is full of sane, logical, intelligent people who give such wonderful advice. I'd be fucked if you guys were like those guys. 
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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle NYC 'burbs member
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    This makes me even more thankful that TK is full of sane, logical, intelligent people who give such wonderful advice. I'd be fucked if you guys were like those guys. 
    Word. I stupidly rejoined a forum that I left about a year ago. I have NO idea why I did that. It just brought back some really painful memories. And they shit they said about me after I left - Damn! Totally harsh! So yeah, I'm with ya. 
  • beetherybeethery So sayeth the fuckin' Pope. member
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    edited December 2014
    beethery said:
    ........I won't say the name but Tampon the TN version of someone here....very black and white. "This is NOT the way it is done!"
    Look, H. Sapiens has only been really prevalent for 200,000 years, and they didn't start really drinking alcohol until about 10,000 years ago. We can all agree that drinking is not the norm and it is simply not how things are done. There are consequences to every action, and drinking will garner side eye among your circle and anyone who witnesses it. It is customary, and preferred, to drink water and nothing else.
    To nerd out - a newly published scientific study found that human ancestors were able to metabolize ethanol 10 million years ago. It is thought this change helped hominids adapt to life on the ground where there was a lot of fermented fruit to consume.

    That whole thread is ridiculous and the OP seems overly dramatic.


    I like new information!!! I just went off wikipedia for what I said since I needed it to be quick lol (also I was wrong on how long humans have been around, clearly)
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  • PrettyGirlLostPrettyGirlLost A Land Filled with Unicorns and Cat Hair member
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    beethery said:




    beethery said:



    ........I won't say the name but Tampon the TN version of someone here....very black and white. "This is NOT the way it is done!"

    Look, H. Sapiens has only been really prevalent for 200,000 years, and they didn't start really drinking alcohol until about 10,000 years ago. We can all agree that drinking is not the norm and it is simply not how things are done. There are consequences to every action, and drinking will garner side eye among your circle and anyone who witnesses it. It is customary, and preferred, to drink water and nothing else.

    To nerd out - a newly published scientific study found that human ancestors were able to metabolize ethanol 10 million years ago. It is thought this change helped hominids adapt to life on the ground where there was a lot of fermented fruit to consume.

    That whole thread is ridiculous and the OP seems overly dramatic.





    I like new information!!! I just went off wikipedia for what I said since I needed it to be quick lol

    And it's true that some ethnicities- asians, American indians, Australian aborigines- prdouce less of the enzyme that metabolites EtOH as compared to western ethnicities so they get drunk quicker and off of less volume.

    "Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."


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    There was a post on TN about a husband liking a particular form of pornography. And Ol' Tarpy was like

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    Unless it was child porn or like rape/abuse porn...she's probably safe.
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    I thought tampon was single I swear she mentioned leaving her own husband.
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  • PrettyGirlLostPrettyGirlLost A Land Filled with Unicorns and Cat Hair member
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    MagicInk said:
    Ok, I stopped reading at "he vomited all over himself and was unresponsive" bitch call 911! 

    Seriously, I had my wild party girl drunk off my ass days. If anyone had vomited and then was unresponsive, I called 911. No matter how drunk off my own ass I was, I called 911. I don't fuck around with alcohol poisoning. I had many friends go "OMG no don't call 911 we're underage! We can take care of him/her!" and I was all no fuck that s/he could die, we're calling 911, hide the booze while I'm on the phone.

    How can a grown ass adult see another grown ass adult being completely unresponsive after drinking heavily and vomiting and not think "I should call 911"?
    This.  I was an RA in college, I saw a lot of people on and off duty that had alcohol poisoning and we called 911.

    "Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."


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  • I'm new(er) to this board so I'm sure I've missed something in the past, but I'm really curious about this person.  Why is it that every minuscule thing encountered in a relationship is a reason to "RUN, get into therapy, and be single for five years before dating again"?  That seems like it's her only advice she gives.  I just imagine a very bitter person who went through a bad breakup and now sits clutching pearls until she has white knuckles, and who gives unsolicited advice at social gatherings.  If anyone played the older versions of the Sims, there was a little old lady NPC in the downtown areas who would slap Sims with her purse if she saw them kiss in public.  That's what I'm thinking of when I read her suggestions.

    Also, as to the alcoholism thing, that is NOT an alcoholic.  My uncle was an alcoholic, and I have a very close friend who is a recovering alcoholic.  A good friend of ours also is a forensics expert for the SDPD, and she talks about the alcoholics she sees.  Two blackouts over the course of what seems like a long relationship is not alcoholism.  Hell, FI and I go out a few nights, and we have more than three drinks*.  There have been nights where one of us (or both of us) have a fuzzy memory from the night before.  There are times we said dumb things.  We are not alcoholics.

    * Saying three drinks is excessive is ridiculous.  I'm sure for some people who do not have a tolerance, or are small, or are drinking on an empty stomach may encounter some inebriation at three drinks (I did the first time I ever drank).  But even the national guidelines for binge drinking say that 4 drinks for women is binge drinking.  We have been known to drink and have bartender friends.  We like it, and if three drinks are excessive, I can't imagine what she would say about us or our friends circle.  Shaming people for this seems hardly necessary.

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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle NYC 'burbs member
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    mrsdee15 said:
    I'm new(er) to this board so I'm sure I've missed something in the past, but I'm really curious about this person.  Why is it that every minuscule thing encountered in a relationship is a reason to "RUN, get into therapy, and be single for five years before dating again"?  That seems like it's her only advice she gives.  I just imagine a very bitter person who went through a bad breakup and now sits clutching pearls until she has white knuckles, and who gives unsolicited advice at social gatherings.  If anyone played the older versions of the Sims, there was a little old lady NPC in the downtown areas who would slap Sims with her purse if she saw them kiss in public.  That's what I'm thinking of when I read her suggestions.

    Also, as to the alcoholism thing, that is NOT an alcoholic.  My uncle was an alcoholic, and I have a very close friend who is a recovering alcoholic.  A good friend of ours also is a forensics expert for the SDPD, and she talks about the alcoholics she sees.  Two blackouts over the course of what seems like a long relationship is not alcoholism.  Hell, FI and I go out a few nights, and we have more than three drinks*.  There have been nights where one of us (or both of us) have a fuzzy memory from the night before.  There are times we said dumb things.  We are not alcoholics.

    * Saying three drinks is excessive is ridiculous.  I'm sure for some people who do not have a tolerance, or are small, or are drinking on an empty stomach may encounter some inebriation at three drinks (I did the first time I ever drank).  But even the national guidelines for binge drinking say that 4 drinks for women is binge drinking.  We have been known to drink and have bartender friends.  We like it, and if three drinks are excessive, I can't imagine what she would say about us or our friends circle.  Shaming people for this seems hardly necessary.

    YAY WINE!  VIVA MARTINIS!
    You are spot on. 
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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle NYC 'burbs member
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    edited December 2014
    And OH MY GOD. She's got a mind like a steel trap. She's saying she told someone to leave their SO back in 2011. Ladies, I barely remember what I told someone last WEEK. 
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  • beetherybeethery So sayeth the fuckin' Pope. member
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    @mrsdee15 AGNES CRUMPLEBOTTOM. WHAT. A. BITCH.
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  • beethery said:
    @mrsdee15 AGNES CRUMPLEBOTTOM. WHAT. A. BITCH.
    YES!!! That was her name!! I tried to make friends with her and bitch still slapped me.  

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  • beethery said:
    ........I won't say the name but Tampon the TN version of someone here....very black and white. "This is NOT the way it is done!"
    Look, H. Sapiens has only been really prevalent for 200,000 years, and they didn't start really drinking alcohol until about 10,000 years ago. We can all agree that drinking is not the norm and it is simply not how things are done. There are consequences to every action, and drinking will garner side eye among your circle and anyone who witnesses it. It is customary, and preferred, to drink water and nothing else.
    To nerd out - a newly published scientific study found that human ancestors were able to metabolize ethanol 10 million years ago. It is thought this change helped hominids adapt to life on the ground where there was a lot of fermented fruit to consume.

    That whole thread is ridiculous and the OP seems overly dramatic.


    Talk science to me, baby. ;)




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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 Ravens & Bohs & Crabs & O's member
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    My H got piss ass drunk at our wedding and proceeded to vomit on the hotel room floor. Guess I should have ripped up our marriage license right then and there.

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