So my friend just received this email. It's not as bad as some but it still seems kind of rude.
Hey Guys! I wanted to send out a rough itenerary so you can put this awesome shindig down on your calendar! Please let me know if you can come and also indicate if you would like to spend the night or not. Here is what we are looking at:
Saturday January 24th
5:30- Meet at Hotel downtown G********* (TBD)
6:00- Walk to dinner @ S*** *Everyone wear black and Bride can pick out her stand out color...white, gold, or red maybe?
After Dinner- Walk back to hotel to change
8:15- 10 minute Drive to "dance" class (there may or may not be a pole involved) *80's theme attire but still need some skin to grip that pole so go easy on the off the shoulder sweaters/ leg warmers;)
9:15- 10:15 Back to hotel to open lingerie gifts and play games
*The rest of the night is up to the bride!
Everyone will be in charge of paying for their own dinner (minus Bride of course)
If you attend the pole dancing class it will be around $22 a person. (price could change depending on how many people participate but I will let you know)
Everyone is welcome to spend the night at the hotel. We will just split the cost between whoever sleeps in a bed. If everyone wants to spend the night then we might can get adjoining rooms possibly.
NOTE: Bride's Sizes for pretty skimpy things;)
Bra Size 34 B
Lingerie: Small/Medium (size 4)
that was the invite
My friend was very concerned about costs and she said she didn't realize lingerie was required to give. I explained to her that it's not. Gifts are never required so don't feel obligated to get something. She is already getting gifts for the bride and groom for the bridal shower and wedding. She was also concerned about the hotel and pole dancing (especially since she is paying for both dinner and the dancing). I told her that she is not obligated to go or stay the night. If she wants to go to dinner and skip out on the rest, she is more than welcome to. Hopefully that does put her mind at ease.
I'm a little annoyed at the "everyone wear black" but I guess, if you want the bride to stand out that works, though most people put on that "I'm the bride" sash and well it's hard to misinterpret whose the bride.