We're getting married next September and will be sending out our save the dates in January, hopefully, though it may be Feb.
I ordered a return address stamp from Etsy to use for our return address on the STD's. I was planning on using the stamp when we mail out our invitations as well, and for the RSVP cards. Here is the stamp https://www.etsy.com/transaction/251729308
My Mother told me that she thinks the stamp is not formal enough to use on invites and that the RSVP cards should be mailed to her anyway. My parents are paying for the food, open bar and valet at our wedding. We are paying for everything else. Do RSVP cards need to be sent to my parents or can they be sent to us?
Does anyone see anything "wrong" w using the stamp?
We haven't even picked out or invites yet, but we do want them to look and feel formal. Most likely will be on thick card stock. The person doing our invites cannot do raised print, which we wanted, but wasn't a deal breaker, since I love her work.
Thoughts? TIA
Re: return address stamp-OK to use on invites?
Our wedding is not black tie or "black tie optional" (which I know is not a thing but people use it anyway) but we are having a fairly formal wedding (seated 3 course dinner open bar, live band, valet).
We haven't discussed it, but I assumed that I would be the one communiating the final counts to the venue.
Thanks for your input.
We've spent over $600 on 50 invites and they're very nice. I did have our return address printed on the RSVP envelopes. Even though we're going to be hosting a very nice event, I guess I just don't care if my guests get the cue to wear super formal attire. They'll have to meet certain dress requirements because of the venue's policy but it doesn't make a difference to me if they're wearing khakis and a polo/suit/tuxedo or cocktail dress/gown/sundress/tutu.
And also, I can't imagine that my guests' impression of what the event will be like is gonna be swayed by the use of a stamp on the back of the outer envelope that they're going to throw away. It's stricly for post office usage.
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fka dallasbetch
Thanks for all of your input! My Mom is hard to please, so I assumed she was just being difficult on this too
From what I've found from my brief calligrapher research thus far, they can charge anywhere from $1-$4 per envelope. We're sending out around 90 invites. $1 per envelope wouldn't be bad but $4 seems too high for me.
Strictly speaking, enclosing RSVPs with invitations isn't correct. Invitees are supposed to get out a pen and paper and hand write a response to your invitation. But HELLO 21st century
I have never received a wedding invitation that didn't include an RSVP. My point being, the rules are already being bent, so why not use a stamp?
The style of the particular stamp you're showing is informal. Is the font on your invitations similar? If yes, I'd use it. If no, I'd have another stamp made.
Since your parents are paying for a substantial portion of your wedding and it's important to your mom, I'd have the RSVPs sent to your parents. If she insists that they be hand addressed, though, she should take care of that. Or, you could have a stamp made with a fancier font.
You should hand address your invitations, but the return address is usually printed, often on the back flap of the outer envelope. It is fine for RSVPs, too.
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fka dallasbetch
It's that it's a stamp that takes away from the formal look,not the style. It's a very pretty stamp and would be great to use for the thank you. Another point for not using it on the RSVP envelopes is that you aren't Mrs. Smith yet at the time you are sending them out. If you use Mrs. Smith, then people may start wondering if this is a pretty princess day.
Oops! If you had said that earlier, I would have given a different opinion. For a formal invitation, your return address should not just list your first names. This is improper for ANY personal mail, much less a formal wedding invitation.
I would use just the return address, without any names, on the envelope flap.