Black wedding dress

jenna8984

@emelda2 Your dress is gorgeous!!

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I love non-traditional wedding dresses! I will be wearing one myself - not black, but I would have if I'd found the right dress (my fiance even asked me if I would be getting a black dress since I wear black all the time). Sarah Jessica Parker is another bride who wore black (when she married Matthew Broderick). 

classicalandedgy

@jenna8984 Thanks!  It is more my personality than a traditional dress.

weddingcactus

I absolutely agree that brides should be free to wear any color they want to their wedding. And black happens to be my favorite color, so I completely support the choice! I do agree that if I was going with a black dress, I'd find a stunning evening gown rather than a bridesmaid dress. I just think there are more/better options out there when it comes to black dresses. 

While I do agree that black is a color often worn at funerals, I think people would also be seriously clutching their pearls if a woman wore a stunning, sexy black evening gown to a funeral. And I agree that it's ridiculous to say that a man can wear black to a wedding, but not a woman. Certainly any deviation from tradition is going to shock traditionalists and possibly upset them. I think it's really up to you and your knowledge of your circle of friends and family whether they will make you feel uncomfortable in a black dress or if you'll still feel as gorgeous as I'm sure you'll look. 

Neiman Marcus has some fabulous black evening gowns.
Badgley Mischka

Carolina Herrera
Theia
Carolina Herrera
Zuhair Murad
Badgley Mischka

Saks Fifth Avenue also has some gorgeous evening gowns.
Badgley Mischka
La Petite Robe di Chiara Boni

hyechica81

what about getting a killer white or ivory dress with black details like this one 

http://www.alfredangelo.com/Collections/Bridal-Collection/1516/?pg=0 this one can be customized for the back and front trim to be any color you want 

http://www.alfredangelo.com/Collections/Bridal-Collection/2457/?pg=0

http://www.alfredangelo.com/Collections/Bridal-Collection/2454/?pg=0

phira

@hyechica81 Maybe because she wants a black wedding dress?

VulgarGirl

phira said:

@hyechica81 Maybe because she wants a black wedding dress?

But if she doesn't wear a big white poofy dress people will get confused about who the bride is supposed to be because people are really fucking stupid and can't figure that shit out without a big white poofy dress.

You shoulda seen how confused my guests were, two women, no white poofy dress, they weren't even sure they were at a wedding. I'm sure your's were just as confused @phira, there you were in a stunning blue dress but...where was the bride?

rox2112

I wore a black and silver ballgown for my first wedding. I loved it! I also wear black daily and rarely feel comfortable in other colors. Go for it! You won't regret it.

amelisha

weddingcactus said:

I absolutely agree that brides should be free to wear any color they want to their wedding. And black happens to be my favorite color, so I completely support the choice! I do agree that if I was going with a black dress, I'd find a stunning evening gown rather than a bridesmaid dress. I just think there are more/better options out there when it comes to black dresses. 

While I do agree that black is a color often worn at funerals, I think people would also be seriously clutching their pearls if a woman wore a stunning, sexy black evening gown to a funeral. And I agree that it's ridiculous to say that a man can wear black to a wedding, but not a woman. Certainly any deviation from tradition is going to shock traditionalists and possibly upset them. I think it's really up to you and your knowledge of your circle of friends and family whether they will make you feel uncomfortable in a black dress or if you'll still feel as gorgeous as I'm sure you'll look. 

Neiman Marcus has some fabulous black evening gowns.
Badgley Mischka

Carolina Herrera
Theia
Carolina Herrera
Zuhair Murad
Badgley Mischka

Saks Fifth Avenue also has some gorgeous evening gowns.
Badgley Mischka
La Petite Robe di Chiara Boni

These dresses are all gorgeous and I wish I had somewhere to wear them! I need to start attending more galas or something.

phira

@magicink I'm not sure my marriage is actually even valid because people didn't know they were witnessing a wedding. Oops?

hyechica81

i understand she wants a black dress but she had some hesitation when she was saying she might end up with a traditional one i was only showing her photos of white or ivory dress that had stunning black details on them i am not suggesting she get a traditional dress just that she keep an open mind 

i wore ivory it was my preference i made sure when started trying on dresses that i was only trying on dresses that could come in ivory 

http://www.venusbridal.com/bridals/venus/7891 i knew i saw this dress at the salon where i got my gown i went online and it comes in other colors you could get this dress in black and it looks like a wedding gown and its stunning 

phira

@hyechica81 I understand what you're saying, but the thing is, there is overwhelming pressure to get a traditional dress. I knew from the start that I didn't want white or ivory, and after we'd been engaged for a month, my now-husband had to console me because I was really upset and talking about how it might be easier just to get a white dress. And then he had to do it again after I bought my dress because I was thinking of selling it and buying a white one.

And it's not because I didn't really want a blue dress, because I really did want a blue dress. It was because I was so stressed dealing with pressure from a few friends and family members, as well as the stress of being a non-traditional bride. It was the same kind of pressure both of us faced when we were dealing with any other non-traditional choices we made (like when our DJ didn't understand that I wasn't changing my last name, or when we had to bring a separate spreadsheet to our venue because their questionnaire expected us to need certain things, and not need the things we did need).

So, saying, "Keep an open mind" in this context is actually more harmful than helpful. It's not appropriate to suggest that someone keep an open mind when they're thinking of deviating from the status quo. It would be appropriate if the opposite were true (if someone were posting about how they wanted to help a friend find a black dress, but they wished their friend would get a traditional one).

velvethelicopters

I have two adopted daughters from China. They showed me EXACTLY what family is - they are my babies, anyone else can jump off a cliff into a sea of piranhas.

To wear white would be simply wrong to me. Granted, red isn't my color either. Blush however. Sure, it's becoming a typical bride color. But it's staying US bride enough for my dear future grandmother in law, but it's throwing in some red for my daughters. Then again, it's dear grandmother who loves her great granddaughters and suggested I go red for them. Yup, the oh so very traditional grandmother wants me out of white. She honestly marched out of a store that only would bring me starkly white dresses.

I'd wear black, but that's every day for me. And I do love pink also. There'd be some clutching of pearls, but the biggest pearl clutching member would be horrified with a white dress.

But dang. Now I want to wear some navy.

hellohkb

Well shit I thought I responded again but I guess I didn't. Thanks all again for the advice and encouragement. Laura Ingalls Wilder rules a lot so that's a plus. Everyone is telling me to start looking for dresses so I guess I better start making appointments.

hyechica81

@hellohkb make lots of apointments but be upfront tell them you want a non traditional dress thats not white or ivory that you want black or color.

theartistformerlyknownas

Yeah. I totally wore a full length black beaded evening gown to the last funeral I went to. :-/

Those off the shoulder examples are FABULOUS.

velvethelicopters

lolo883 said:

Yeah. I totally wore a full length black beaded evening gown to the last funeral I went to. :-/

Those off the shoulder examples are FABULOUS.

Yeah, those ultra formal funerals are so much fun to dress shop for.

I need that second Caroline Herrera gown. I have no place to wear it, but I need it.

climbingsingle

The thought of someone being offended by a bride wearing a black dress is hilarious to me.
My brother has one suit. He wears it to weddings and funerals. And he wore it to my wedding. I didn't know I should have been offended.

Oh - my mother and MIL also wore black dresses to my wedding. You know, I thought they were crying happy tears but maybe I was wrong.

misshart00

My MIL wore black to my wedding and my SIL wore white. Clearly they both hate me.

theartistformerlyknownas

misshart00 said:

My MIL wore black to my wedding and my SIL wore white. Clearly they both hate me.

You might be dead. Do you have a reflection?

velvethelicopters

I thought wearing white meant the bride was a celebrity of some nature? Kate Middleton, Beyonce's sister, etc.

And damn my married friends who felt a need to stick me in the wedding party. 3 had us in black dresses, 1 more had extremely formal black gowns, and 1 had us in gray. I wanted to be happy for them, I showed up on time, was sober enough to walk a (mostly) straight line and not puke, wore my dress and enjoyed the day. But no, they had to ruin everything and require me to be miserable and sad.

mcmahontobe121

I have been wondering about this. I am so glad I have seen this post.  I have seen a dress online (trying to get it shipped to a local bridal store so I can see it in real life) but it is white tulle 1950's style dress and has black lace detail on top.  now peoples first reaction when I have showed then is, no you cant wear black on a wedding dress.  the more they have seen the picture some have started coming round and saying it is very me etc.  is it such a bad thing to have some black detail on the dress?

I may find once I actually go dress shopping that I don't like it in real life or find something totally different but I keep getting drawn back to this dress as really catches my eye.

CMGragain

carolanne121 said:

I have been wondering about this. I am so glad I have seen this post.  I have seen a dress online (trying to get it shipped to a local bridal store so I can see it in real life) but it is white tulle 1950's style dress and has black lace detail on top.  now peoples first reaction when I have showed then is, no you cant wear black on a wedding dress.  the more they have seen the picture some have started coming round and saying it is very me etc.  is it such a bad thing to have some black detail on the dress?

I may find once I actually go dress shopping that I don't like it in real life or find something totally different but I keep getting drawn back to this dress as really catches my eye.

No, there is nothing wrong with black details on a wedding dress. That is silly.  Get the dress you want.
There is a tradition of not wearing a completely black dress as a wedding dress, whether you like it, or not, ladies.  But that doesn't mean that you have to follow that rule.  Just make sure that the groom is wearing his tuxedo in the daytime.  (I'm KIDDING!  Relax!)

misshart00

carolanne121 said:

I have been wondering about this. I am so glad I have seen this post.  I have seen a dress online (trying to get it shipped to a local bridal store so I can see it in real life) but it is white tulle 1950's style dress and has black lace detail on top.  now peoples first reaction when I have showed then is, no you cant wear black on a wedding dress.  the more they have seen the picture some have started coming round and saying it is very me etc.  is it such a bad thing to have some black detail on the dress?

I may find once I actually go dress shopping that I don't like it in real life or find something totally different but I keep getting drawn back to this dress as really catches my eye.

Pictures?

hellohkb

misshart00 said:

I have been wondering about this. I am so glad I have seen this post.  I have seen a dress online (trying to get it shipped to a local bridal store so I can see it in real life) but it is white tulle 1950's style dress and has black lace detail on top.  now peoples first reaction when I have showed then is, no you cant wear black on a wedding dress.  the more they have seen the picture some have started coming round and saying it is very me etc.  is it such a bad thing to have some black detail on the dress?

I may find once I actually go dress shopping that I don't like it in real life or find something totally different but I keep getting drawn back to this dress as really catches my eye.

Pictures?

I would love to see pictures as well, @carolanne121

theartistformerlyknownas

CMGragain said:

No, there is nothing wrong with black details on a wedding dress. That is silly.  Get the dress you want.
There is a tradition of not wearing a completely black dress as a wedding dress, whether you like it, or not, ladies.  But that doesn't mean that you have to follow that rule.  Just make sure that the groom is wearing his tuxedo in the daytime.  (I'm KIDDING!  Relax!)

Only since the 19th century though. Before then, black was a very common wedding dress color. Truly "old school tradition" says there's nothing wrong with this.

mcmahontobe121

@hellohkb @misshart00 I have hopefully attached a picture!

misshart00

carolanne121 said:

@hellohkb @misshart00 I have hopefully attached a picture!

That's so pretty! I want it as a party dress!

CMGragain

lolo883 said:

No, there is nothing wrong with black details on a wedding dress. That is silly.  Get the dress you want.
There is a tradition of not wearing a completely black dress as a wedding dress, whether you like it, or not, ladies.  But that doesn't mean that you have to follow that rule.  Just make sure that the groom is wearing his tuxedo in the daytime.  (I'm KIDDING!  Relax!)

Only since the 19th century though. Before then, black was a very common wedding dress color. Truly "old school tradition" says there's nothing wrong with this.

Very true.  This is because most ladies of the 19th cenury only had one good silk dress, and it was always black so that it could be worn at any time.  Mourning customs were much more elaborate then, and black was required for family members of the deceased.  People also died more frequently in those days.
I'm NOT saying it is an awful, terrible idea to wear a solid black dress at your wedding.  I am just pointing out that it might surprise some people and raise some eyebrows.

ddoane

hellohkb where did you find the dress in the second picture?  I am looking for a similar dress in silver, I just contacted a lady to make me one but a little scared to see what that will cost.