Just A Little Bumbed

AddieCake

lace&lemons said:

I really don't think most of you understood what I said at all. That's ok though. A couple of people did and their responses really helped me better understand why I'm feeling this way. So thank you and Merry Christmas everyone!

Your post clearly indicates that you are bummed that you know more about the proposal than you would like to know b/c it is raining on the surprise element. There is nothing we are not "getting." You just don't didn't like that more people weren't bummed right along with you, validating your bummed feelings, and instead told you it doesn't make a lot of sense to be wanting and waiting on a "surprise" when the surprise ship sailed the day you booked a venue. See your post below. 

lace&lemons said:

Back story, We've been dating ten months. We've gone ring shopping so he can get an idea of what I want. At every store he picked the ring I fell in love with so I have no worries about him picking it. He says it'll be next year but I told him I don't want to know exactly when. There's a "plan" that some friends are in on but I said I want to know nothing and be surprised when it happens.  We've started planning the wedding but only a handful of people are involved so that we can still have our surprise. Since we want to get married next October we had to go ahead and book a venue. All the venues in my area that we were interested in (ie big enough) have already booked all their Saturdays in October so we had to book a Sunday. Lately, I think he's been getting excited it's so soon. He's been dropping hints even though I've asked him not to. I think after our talk last night he'll stop. I'm just bummed that I already know so much. He randomly hinted two months ago that when he shaves his beard, that will be the day. So I guessed it would be New Years since we're getting all dressed up and going to dinner. But apparently he was texting with my best friend about the plan and I read really fast. It was an accident but I saw the message say it won't be on New Year's "anymore." So that means I was right. Well I guess my best friend told him I was getting flustered trying not to get excited and plan everything because last night he tried to reassure me. But instead upset me more by telling me more of the plan. I now know it will be after New Year's and before our anniversary on Feb 8th. I KNOW that I should just be excited. And I really am. I can't wait to see the ring he picked out and finally tell EVERYONE that I'm marrying the sweetest man in the world. So I'm just venting. I'll wallow for a minute and then wait in anticipation everyday leading to Feb 8th. But for right now, I'm just a little bummed.

ohannabelle

lace&lemons said:

I really don't think most of you understood what I said at all. That's ok though. A couple of people did and their responses really helped me better understand why I'm feeling this way. So thank you and Merry Christmas everyone!

You said:

We've gone ring shopping 

He says it'll be next year 

There's a plan that some friends are in on but I want to know nothing and be surprised when it happens. (Hint. You already know.)

We've started planning the wedding 

A handful of people are involved so we can still have our surprise 

we had to book a venue Sunday.

I'm just bummed that I already know so much. 

 I guessed it would be New Years 

I saw the message say it won't be on New Year's "anymore." (Probably because you guessed, which would make the non surprise even less of a surprise)

he tried to reassure me. 

I now know it will be after New Year's and before our anniversary on Feb 8th.

So,  the part I don't understand is the surprise. If you've agreed to get married, gone ring shopping, chosen a date, booked a venue, a handful of people know about this..where and what is this big surprise?

Maybe we have a different definition of the word surprise. 

My dictionary says it's an "an unexpected or astonishing event, fact, or thing. "  That applies to nothing you said.

Or do you just pretend to be surprised? Because that I truly don't understand. You know. You're engaged. You're planning a wedding.  Surprise.