This is the short version with other wedding details excluded.
H and I offered to host a couples shower to our friends getting married. They accepted. Was mentioned that groom was uncertain of a couples shower. Told them a couples shower and not a bridal shower was our gift. Bride has not taken into account our availability at all when hosting the shower. It's mentioned that the shower needs to also be dependent on our schedule since we are hosting. Bride then mentions that it Has To Be on x day and would be good about x time. I ask for list so we can get invitations out for the couples shower. Bride sends list of guests and tells me "the shower will be x date and at x time". Along with that it will be ladies only. Also, said that I can host the "ladies only" shower at brides mothers home if my location is not available (because bride is dictating date and time). Now this is not the gift we offered and they initially accepted. H is still sleeping and I will need to discuss it with him. This shower has been a joint effort between us as we are playing to our strengths during planning. How would we retract our offer if we are able to? I will be an amazing hostess like always even if I do the "ladies only" shower. We need some guidance.
ETA: Please excuse one of my tickers. It wont go away no matter what I do.
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