To the brides who don't really care that much

thisismynickname2

"You're so calm!!"

Well yeah it's not rocket science.

lacqueredlover

Cookie Pusher said:

lacqueredlover said:

Cookie Pusher said:

@lacqueredlover When I crash your wedding, I will bring mead, chocolate chip cookies, and limoncello cake with marscarpone frosting and shaved white chocolate. Deal?

Oh I'm still pushing for a cookie bar as well at the end of the night when people are leaving for the after party back at the hotel :-)

I was going to do cookies for my wedding, but then I got lazy. I make, like, 30 different kinds so once I starting to think about how I'd have to pick and choose varieties (it's like choosing your favorite cheese - it just can't be done), I gave up. No way was I going to be able to bake enough for 30 different kinds of cookies AND finish all the last minute crap for the wedding at the same time. But for you, I'd bring whatever cookies you want.

Oh I will be buying the cookies, as much as I love to bake, there is just no way I am doing that the week before the wedding.  

bride2b71614

The only wedding things I am giving a shit about (not counting the thing with my FMIL because I got over it and found the dress anyway), are the ceremony, booze and food (this includes cake, because cake is important to me).  My guests are getting all the booze, yummy macaroons and hopefully what they consider delicious food. I want the ceremony short and sweet. 'Nuff said. 

JCbride2015

I care-- a lot-- about food, booze, and music.  The aesthetic stuff is all way more flexible to me.  I'm lucky that we chose a mostly all-inclusive venue so I don't have to pick every little thing.  People keep asking me how the planning is going and, besides our recent budget speed bumps, my response is basically, "Well, if we don't do anything from now until the wedding, we can all show up and there will be food, booze, music, and an officiant.  Good enough for me."

Cookie Pusher

lacqueredlover said:

Cookie Pusher said:

lacqueredlover said:

Cookie Pusher said:

@lacqueredlover When I crash your wedding, I will bring mead, chocolate chip cookies, and limoncello cake with marscarpone frosting and shaved white chocolate. Deal?

Oh I'm still pushing for a cookie bar as well at the end of the night when people are leaving for the after party back at the hotel :-)

I was going to do cookies for my wedding, but then I got lazy. I make, like, 30 different kinds so once I starting to think about how I'd have to pick and choose varieties (it's like choosing your favorite cheese - it just can't be done), I gave up. No way was I going to be able to bake enough for 30 different kinds of cookies AND finish all the last minute crap for the wedding at the same time. But for you, I'd bring whatever cookies you want.

Oh I will be buying the cookies, as much as I love to bake, there is just no way I am doing that the week before the wedding.  

Seeing as how I'm known in my circle as the Cookie Pusher, I'm pretty sure people would have revolted if I purchased cookies!

flantastic

thisismynickname said:

"You're so calm!!" Well yeah it's not rocket science.

This was everyone at work in the week before the wedding. It was OOT from where I live, so...

"Why are you still here? Isn't there a lot of stuff to be done?"

"You seem too calm."

Um, I decided against having a lot of unnecessary shit, I finished my one DIY project four months ago, and the venue has a DOC. Why exactly should I be freaking out/running around right now?

badbnagdway

People have a hard time believing that I don't really care what the bms wear. 

I told them "something purple". What shade? What length? What style? Umh, purple. My sister confessed eventually that she was relieved, bridesmaids dresses do not look great on her, even though she is svelte, because of her long torso. 

I care about certain things, but mostly it is because I want them to be good and plentiful - like food and drink.

theartistformerlyknownas

I cared about things in the same way I always care about them - I wanted things to be pretty because I always want everything to be pretty, I wanted yummy food because I always care deeply about food, etc. I didn't care more or differently about anything because now it's WEDDING aesthetics and WEDDING food. I didn't obsess over decisions. I found something I loved and pulled the trigger. People were amazed at my decisiveness, and that I didn't care about things like what color tie FOG wore or whether BM's wife coordinated with anyone else at the head table.

beethery

What kind of flowers are you doing? 

- The kind that costco is going to ship to me on the cheap.

Oh, I bet you're going to do your own invitations! When can we expect to see them?

- Yeah but I've got like.. 4 months before I start screwing with them so that's some backburner stuff.

Can I see your dress?

- Just as soon as I get one, sure.

You haven't picked out a dress yet?

- Nope. Don't like most of them, don't want to bother trying any on until I exorcise the burrito demons from my body.

When are you getting your shoes?

- Got them last year for the 4th of July party and they're in my closet.

Oh my goodness, where are you going to get all your decor?

- Got it all on various sales from Amazon already. Done deal.

The internet? None of it was broken? Your card didn't get stolen?

- No.

just looooooots and loooooooooots of this shit. Tons of food, tons of booze, DJ better turn the god damn party up and everybody gonna have a good time. That's all I care about it. Tear the roof off the sum'bitch and I'll be happy.

WinstonsGirl

This is one of the big reasons we did a DW.  Planning was pick between roses or tropical flowers.  Oh look, we get a Hawaiian guitarist too!!  Cool!!  We're gonna have music other than the IPod.  And I did care about my dress.  I was gonna look damn good and I did. Other than that, we had good food and lots of liquor so people were happy.  Oh, I did care about our photographers, but I had worked with them before, so there wasn't any issue of who to go with.   

charlieyankee03

larrygaga said: "How's the wedding planning? Tell me some things you planned" "I'm not planning" "Is your mom planning it" "No, I'm planning it" "So what have planned?" "Nothing" 6 months to go ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------GAH BOXES!!
You have NO IDEA how glad I am to read this. I'm under 6 months away and I literally have nothing done. I have a dress, a dj, and a venue. That's it. 

Everyone keeps offering help, but there's not really much to be done in my opinion. I need a caterer and a photographer and to sign the contract for a tent rental. I've also been addressing my STDs for weeks...there are only 70. 

This is going to go great. I swear.

drunkenwitch

Oh my Dear Sweet and Fluffy Lord, do I feel your pain.  Here is where it gets really insane, BF and I aren't even engaged.  I repeat, we are not engaged.  And for some crazy reason, a few of my girlfriends honestly started planning our wedding.  We aren't engaged.  Did I mention we're not even engaged? Examples: 

-The most I have said about it is (when asked) "yeah, we're talking about getting married some years down the road, no hurry."

-So when you and BF get married I'll be in the wedding, right? (said two of my girlfriends, completely unsolicited, on different occasions). (Wait, WHAT??!! Slow down! No, just...no)

-So I've been thinking about where you and BF should get married (you have? did I get engaged and forget?)

-So *mutual friend* can legally marry people, are you going to have him do the wedding (WHAT WEDDING???!!!)

-Well, I want to help plan your bridal shower (silly me, I thought I had to be a bride to have one).

I am almost 40, most of my friends had their weddings either over a decade ago or in last five years.  I think they are looking at me as final chance to have a BBW.  I told everyone flat out, not going to happen.  If (IF IF IF IF people) BF and I do decide we are ready, we will have a small, intimate ceremony with only family because neither of us want a big wedding.

This is why I always say people lose every portion of their sanity when it comes to weddings, my friends are losing theirs over an imaginary one.

I love my friends, and normally they are down to earth, rational women, except when they hear the word "wedding".

LadyMillil

lolo883 said:

I cared about things in the same way I always care about them - I wanted things to be pretty because I always want everything to be pretty, I wanted yummy food because I always care deeply about food, etc. I didn't care more or differently about anything because now it's WEDDING aesthetics and WEDDING food. I didn't obsess over decisions. I found something I loved and pulled the trigger. People were amazed at my decisiveness, and that I didn't care about things like what color tie FOG wore or whether BM's wife coordinated with anyone else at the head table.

Exactly this. I was planning my wedding at the same time bridezilla sis was planning hers and we were completely different. Mom helped both of us with stuff and she actually thought I didn't care about anything because I wasn't having freak outs about finding the perfect table clothes or spending an entire afternoon finding the exact type of lace necessary for the "wedding vision". I told mom that as long as everything was pretty (and well hosted) it didn't matter to me if the flowers were pink or red, because none of that stuff was really important. Sis was one of those if-everything-doesn't-match-my-perfect-wedding-vision-my-wedding-will-be-ruined brides.

velvethelicopters

I let my girls pick wedding colors. Gave them my requests for attire, told them to pick a color that doesn't clash with pink. They've decided navy. I said ok, when do you want to go shopping? They figured to get it out of the way, so we're going today.

So pink and navy. Done. Everthing else for the day, I'm paying the resort to deal with it. I don't care, I'm just paying them to deal with everything.

So I need to work on welcome bags, and figuring out what we are looking for with invites. I actually give a fuck on the bags, if people are so awesome to come support us, I'm making their trip as nice as I can on my side.

huskypuppy14

thisismynickname said:

"You're so calm!!" Well yeah it's not rocket science.

Oh I got this all the time. My hair and makeup artist and venue coordinator said I was the calmest bride they ever saw. 
I was talking with the florist when he delivered the flowers and he said the same thing. 

I also did not care about the flowers. My original florist went out of business 2 months before my wedding so I had to find someone else. My mom helped take care of that. I was like, whatever if I don't have flowers I'll still be married. 

huskypuppy14

When we did our detail appointment with the venue, I thought we were just going to tell them what food we wanted. 

Apparently we had to go over how did we want the napkins folded? My husband and I looked at each other, and said normal. What linens did we want (um the ones that were free.) Were we bringing our own cake knife and champagne glasses (no). 

I understand some people care about this stuff, but not me.

amelisha

Everyone IRL thinks there's something wrong with me, yeah (and I bet here too.) I picked a $699 ceremony package off a website, made a dinner reservation, and bought a dress pretty much at random from the $99 David's clearance. I really, really don't care. I'm only on TK to help myself get used the the idea of a wedding so I don't panic completely about having to do this at all, as I'm pretty introverted and uncomfortable with being the centre of attention. I can honestly say that I wish we could just be married and skip this whole wedding thing entirely, but a few months (and the actual day) of anguish seems a fair trade for our parents not complaining about it for the rest of our lives.