So a guy I knew from high school recently got married and posted a video of he and his new wife's first dance on Facebook....
It was a fully choreographed waltz. I don't mean like, clearly the couple took some classes to learn to waltz together. I mean this waltz was rife with lifts and spins and dips that were clearly "marked"....not spontaneous.
He was always very showy and a bit AWish in high school.
What say the snarky brides about such a spectacle (I am calling it that because that is exactly how it appeared)?
EDITED: because spelling is hard
Re: Thoughts on a fully choreographed first dance?
Seriously, I'm a dancer and I wouldn't do this.
I'm the fuck out.
Hate it. Hate it hate it hate it.
1. Unless they are professional ballroom dancers, they are never as good as they think they are and it causes me a great amount of discomfort watching them, akin to what I experience when I watch the first few audition episodes of American Idol where perfectly nice people who genuinely believe they have talent get their souls crushed by the icy cold bucket of truth.
2. It's a wedding, not a platform to make up for not being good enough to be the Broadway star you always dreamed of being. If I wanted to see a show, I'd buy tickets to one. I just want to see a sweet 90 second moment between the bride and groom, eat some cake, and drink some bourbon.
I don't have a problem with people who take dance lessons and practice a style of dancing. If you genuinely have no dancing talent, I think it's sweet to try and actually dance instead of swaying in place like you're at your first junior high school dance. But a full on choreographed number makes me think you care more about attention than dancing with your spouse and I just don't find that kind of self-indulgence interesting or attractive.
Also, I recently found out that my friend who's wedding I am in this July is choreographing a dance for the bridal party to do. Lord, grant me patience and at least a fifth of tequila.
Hate it. Too AW-y, and I'm normally pretty forgiving of people being AWs at their own wedding. And personally, I loved that private moment to just snuggle up to my new H and sway. I wouldn't have wanted to give that up, so seeing people put on that spectacle just makes me sad that they're missing out.
It was cute but also just kind of...AWish somehow. I mean, this was a spotlight dance, and they already had everyone's attention, so I'm not sure what the point was. They could have just chosen the second song and had a lot of fun.
So I'm "meh" on choreographed dances. They don't violate etiquette but they don't do anything for me either.
I really wanted to like it, but still blech. But that's mostly because I thought the first guy and blonde woman who started out dancing by themselves were the bride and groom. And I thought "Oh, she changed into this outfit for this performance...ok..." Then they were joined by a bunch of people and I thought "Oh, they brought the wedding party into it. Well, at least they are all good dancers. Hopefully this group dance is the only special dance." And then after 2.5 minutes I was kind of over it...and that's when I realized the bride and groom haven't even come out yet. UGH! After about 30 more seconds of just the bride and groom I was over it, which is a shame because I probably wouldn't have felt that way if the beginning part hadn't been dragged out as long as it had or their portion hadn't dragged on for another 3 minutes after.
So yeah, this video has done nothing to change my opinion of choreographed dances.
Formerly martha1818