Is there a right and/or wrong way?

Cookie Pusher

DH and BIL were not in the wedding party when their sister got married (tho both did readings), and we did not include SIL in our wedding (she was just a guest) even though BIL was best man. There are no "rules" about how has to be included in the wedding party. If this were an actual "thing", my mother would have been screwed being one of twelve kids. She didn't include ANY siblings, and no one had a stroke over it.

hpubride

I would only include family if it means a lot to you. I included all 4 of my brothers and my sister but it was because I seriously consider them to be my best friends, even more than my other friends. Otherwise adding family you're not close with may just add more drama and it's more people to please/work with. Good luck!

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My FH and his friends believe that if you need your brother to be your groomsman you don't have enough friends. 

flantastic

adk19 said:

My FH and his friends believe that if you need your brother to be your groomsman you don't have enough friends. 

I assume this means the bride's brothers (who the groom presumably doesn't just hang out with on his own)?

Otherwise, I feel like this assumes that one's siblings can't also be one's closest friends and/or there's something wrong with you if that's the case. Which I would be offended by.

lyndausvi

adk19 said:

My FH and his friends believe that if you need your brother to be your groomsman you don't have enough friends. 

WTF does that even mean?

I have plenty of friends, but I still had his sisters in my wedding.  And no it was not in order to have more people.

Jen4948

adk19 said:

My FH and his friends believe that if you need your brother to be your groomsman you don't have enough friends. 

Bullshit.

My brother had tons of friends, and he still asked his BIL to be his groomsman. There's no etiquette rule requiring you to ask your FI's siblings of the opposite sex to be your attendants, but there's also no etiquette rule prohibiting it.

lovesclimbing

adk19 said:

My FH and his friends believe that if you need your brother to be your groomsman you don't have enough friends. 

Yea, that's crazy.  My two sisters closest to me happen to be two of my best friends and I had them in my wedding party.

Viczaesar

adk19 said:

My FH and his friends believe that if you need your brother to be your groomsman you don't have enough friends. 

Well that's dumb.

emmaaa

adk19 said:

My FH and his friends believe that if you need your brother to be your groomsman you don't have enough friends. 

That's a pretty asinine way to look at it. I had my SILs and little brother's GF because I love them all dearly.

People can be friends with their siblings...what a concept.