I was previously married for 15 years. I have had my current last name for my entire adult/professional life. My two kids have my last name. I want to take my new hubby's name but don't want to "lose my identity" for lack of a better term. Would it be weird to keep my ex husband's last name as my middle name? Then people will still recognize my name if I write all three. What do you think?
Re: Getting remarried- name change dilemma
I know some people are very firmly attached to the concept of their personal identity and that their name reflects that. I, on the other hand, am more in the Shakespearean camp that believes a rose by any other name would still.... you get it. To me, a name is just what someone calls you, and there is so much more to me that makes up my identity than what my last name is. If being Mrs. NewHusband gives you a sense of pride and happiness, then why can't that be your identity now? If you feel you must remain familiar to others as Mrs. ExHusband NewHusband, then I guess you should start practicing a long signature.
You could always keep your current name legally so that as far as HR is concerned and your professional contacts nothing changes, but socially go as Mrs NewLastName.
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For those who say "you will never write out your middle name." Well that also depends on you. I actually use my middle name much more frequently than my surname. Maybe not legally - but my emails, social media accounts, work colleagues, work requests all refer to my middle name rather than my last. Lots of folks don't even know my last name. Actually now that I think about it, my checks omit my last name (though that was a mistake I just never bothered to correct) and I get so much mail that says Firstname Middlename. A cousin of mine always writes all three, legally or not, for no other reason than she prefers it.