Wedding Night Disaster...HELP!

jaydiva13

Hello Everyone! I’m new to this forum.. a friend of mine suggested it to me, she said this website was a lifesaver for Her wedding! Anyway, me and my hubby to be are worried about our wedding night privacy, and here’s why. A few of our friends have already suggested that we go hang out after the wedding..Uh No! It gets worse!….my best friend suggested we come over her house after the reception for a movie night…I politely declined..and now she’s mad at me, saying im rude for saying no to the movie and drink night. Another one of my bridesmaids said well if we can’t go over my best friends house we can just all chill in me and future hubby’s hotel suite.. Have drinks and order pizza…Am I overreacting?? Should I just let them come into our suite after the reception? honestly me and future hubby just want some alone time after the wedding…my mom even thinks I’m being rude..Help bees! should me and future hubby stay in a different hotel room and not tell anyone where?

flutteringinfl

I think how you spend your time after your wedding is your business, and unless you have some sort of after party, I would expect you'd want to spend some time alone with your new hubby. When does your reception end? Is it maybe early enough that people are thinking, "They won't be sleepy."

No, I don't think you're being rude.

mlg78

Uh, how old are your friends?!?  They sound incredibly immature.  I don't think you need to change hotels...I just wouldn't tell them which room you're in and turn off your cell phones.  The hotel should not give them your room number if asked.

NYCMercedes

jaydiva13 said:

Hello Everyone! I’m new to this forum.. a friend of mine suggested it to me, she said this website was a lifesaver for Her wedding! Anyway, me and my hubby to be are worried about our wedding night privacy, and here’s why. A few of our friends have already suggested that we go hang out after the wedding..Uh No! It gets worse!….my best friend suggested we come over her house after the reception for a movie night…I politely declined..and now she’s mad at me, saying im rude for saying no to the movie and drink night. Another one of my bridesmaids said well if we can’t go over my best friends house we can just all chill in me and future hubby’s hotel suite.. Have drinks and order pizza…Am I overreacting?? Should I just let them come into our suite after the reception? honestly me and future hubby just want some alone time after the wedding…my mom even thinks I’m being rude..Help bees! should me and future hubby stay in a different hotel room and not tell anyone where?

Who are "bees"? Oh, and stay and do whatever your two want to do.

Jells2dot0

NYCMercedes said:

jaydiva13 said:

Hello Everyone! I’m new to this forum.. a friend of mine suggested it to me, she said this website was a lifesaver for Her wedding! Anyway, me and my hubby to be are worried about our wedding night privacy, and here’s why. A few of our friends have already suggested that we go hang out after the wedding..Uh No! It gets worse!….my best friend suggested we come over her house after the reception for a movie night…I politely declined..and now she’s mad at me, saying im rude for saying no to the movie and drink night. Another one of my bridesmaids said well if we can’t go over my best friends house we can just all chill in me and future hubby’s hotel suite.. Have drinks and order pizza…Am I overreacting?? Should I just let them come into our suite after the reception? honestly me and future hubby just want some alone time after the wedding…my mom even thinks I’m being rude..Help bees! should me and future hubby stay in a different hotel room and not tell anyone where?

Who are "bees"? Oh, and stay and do whatever your two want to do.

Perhaps a XP from WeddingBee???

jaydiva13

You were beyond rude with your response! You should have just said nothing if you had a problem with me saying Bees! And to answer your question "Bees" is from Weddingbee I also have an account with them! Forgive me for forgetting this is TheKnot..Jesus you would've thiught I said a curse word..lighten up! That's why I hate this forum anyway..because you all are rude nasty women!

Denise40

jaydiva13 said:

You were beyond rude with your response! You should have just said nothing if you had a problem with me saying Bees! And to answer your question "Bees" is from Weddingbee I also have an account with them! Forgive me for forgetting this is TheKnot..Jesus you would've thiught I said a curse word..lighten up! That's why I hate this forum anyway..because you all are rude nasty women!

Look who's being rude! Nobody said anything rude.

jaydiva13

NYCMercedes said:

jaydiva13 said:

Hello Everyone! I’m new to this forum.. a friend of mine suggested it to me, she said this website was a lifesaver for Her wedding! Anyway, me and my hubby to be are worried about our wedding night privacy, and here’s why. A few of our friends have already suggested that we go hang out after the wedding..Uh No! It gets worse!….my best friend suggested we come over her house after the recep

NYCMercedes

Chill.

jaydiva13 said:

You were beyond rude with your response! You should have just said nothing if you had a problem with me saying Bees! And to answer your question "Bees" is from Weddingbee I also have an account with them! Forgive me for forgetting this is TheKnot..Jesus you would've thiught I said a curse word..lighten up! That's why I hate this forum anyway..because you all are rude nasty women!

mlg78

Uh, who was rude?  What was rude that has been said?

If anyone is rude, it's your friends.  Get back on topic!  How old are these people?

jaydiva13

Okay lets just squash the rude thing.,. But anyway they are between the ages of 27-30

JoanE2012

jaydiva13 said:

You were beyond rude with your response! You should have just said nothing if you had a problem with me saying Bees! And to answer your question "Bees" is from Weddingbee I also have an account with them! Forgive me for forgetting this is TheKnot..Jesus you would've thiught I said a curse word..lighten up! That's why I hate this forum anyway..because you all are rude nasty women!

Wow, that was a completely uncalled for overreaction.  Someone needs a margarita or 10.

Anyway, I digress.  I think you should do whatever the Bees tell you to do.  They always have sage advice.  

Also curious why you're here if you hate this forum so much. 

fieryredsam

jaydiva13 said:

You were beyond rude with your response! You should have just said nothing if you had a problem with me saying Bees! And to answer your question "Bees" is from Weddingbee I also have an account with them! Forgive me for forgetting this is TheKnot..Jesus you would've thiught I said a curse word..lighten up! That's why I hate this forum anyway..because you all are rude nasty women!

If you hate the forum, why'd you post? And all the comments were more of confusion than rudeness. 

wrigleyville

I call MUD.

climbingsingle

If you hate this forum, why are you even here? 

No one was even rude to you. 

mikenberger

jaydiva13 said:

You were beyond rude with your response! You should have just said nothing if you had a problem with me saying Bees! And to answer your question "Bees" is from Weddingbee I also have an account with them! Forgive me for forgetting this is TheKnot..Jesus you would've thiught I said a curse word..lighten up! That's why I hate this forum anyway..because you all are rude nasty women!

What in the actual fuck just happened? 

KatWAG

I thought she said she was new here. How does she hate us already? At least get to know us before you hate us.

arrippa

This is hardly a disaster. Learn to say no.

 

jaydiva13 said:

You were beyond rude with your response! You should have just said nothing if you had a problem with me saying Bees! And to answer your question "Bees" is from Weddingbee I also have an account with them! Forgive me for forgetting this is TheKnot..Jesus you would've thiught I said a curse word..lighten up! That's why I hate this forum anyway..because you all are rude nasty women!

JoanE2012

KatWAG said:

I thought she said she was new here. How does she hat eus already? At least get to know us before you hate us.

Probably because that's what the Bees told her to feel.

slothiegal

jaydiva13 said:

You were beyond rude with your response! You should have just said nothing if you had a problem with me saying Bees! And to answer your question "Bees" is from Weddingbee I also have an account with them! Forgive me for forgetting this is TheKnot..Jesus you would've thiught I said a curse word..lighten up! That's why I hate this forum anyway..because you all are rude nasty women!

jaydiva13 said:

Okay lets just squash the rude thing.,. But anyway they are between the ages of 27-30

I'm dying over here.  This is the most hilarious 0 to 60 and back again I've seen in awhile.

Hi Bees!  Thanks for the troll!

lyndausvi

NYCMercedes said:

jaydiva13 said:

Hello Everyone! I’m new to this forum.. a friend of mine suggested it to me, she said this website was a lifesaver for Her wedding! Anyway, me and my hubby to be are worried about our wedding night privacy, and here’s why. A few of our friends have already suggested that we go hang out after the wedding..Uh No! It gets worse!….my best friend suggested we come over her house after the reception for a movie night…I politely declined..and now she’s mad at me, saying im rude for saying no to the movie and drink night. Another one of my bridesmaids said well if we can’t go over my best friends house we can just all chill in me and future hubby’s hotel suite.. Have drinks and order pizza…Am I overreacting?? Should I just let them come into our suite after the reception? honestly me and future hubby just want some alone time after the wedding…my mom even thinks I’m being rude..Help bees! should me and future hubby stay in a different hotel room and not tell anyone where?

Who are "bees"? Oh, and stay and do whatever your two want to do.

What the hell NYCMercedes?   How dare you ask for clarification on who she was referring to when she said "help Bees"?    

 Geez, you have been here long enough to know asking for clarification = rudeness.

[Deleted User]

Just be honest with your friends and tell them that you appreciate that they want to continue to celebrate with you but that you and your FI are looking forward to some private time to celebrate being husband and wife, because you only get one wedding night. Hopefully they get the hint & drop the issues then.

jess1669

Like everyone else said, just be honest with your friends. They should understand that you two want your privacy on your wedding night. Maybe if the reception does end a little early, you can all go to a lounge or bar near by for an hour or so for a couple of drinks and then sneak away. That's what we did. Our reception ended at 11pm and it was a spur of the moment to go to the lounge next door to our reception with our bridal party and friends. We stayed there for about an hour and left. That's a compromise that maybe everyone will be happy with. But again, it's your night, do whatever you want.

[Deleted User]

Erikan73 said:

Just be honest with your friends and tell them that you appreciate that they want to continue to celebrate with you but that you and your FI are looking forward to some private time to celebrate being husband and wife, because you only get one wedding night. Hopefully they get the hint & drop the issues then.

The answer is, "Hell no, I will not be having movie and pizza night on my WEDDING NIGHT.  I will be having dirty, dirty hotel sex on every flat surface of my wedding suite.  But you guys have fun."

ChemFanatic25

This thread is very bi-polar. I feel like I was taken on an emotional roller coaster. I think I need to get off and throw up.

beachbride1515

I agree, they should respect the fact that this is your big day and you deserve some alone time with your brand new husband. I totally agree with you, thats what I want to do as well. I cant believe all those people are telling you that YOU are the rude one. They are the ones being inconsiderate of your wishes.

Jen4948

Tell them, "FI and I are not being rude in declining to party or hang out further after our wedding reception is over. Grow up and get over the fact that neither we nor our room will be available."

[Deleted User]

what the actual FUDGE did I just read? OP, jaydiva, your name clearly says it all.

KikiMira

I'm confused.... You clearly didn't like the response the Bees gave you, so you came here only to have a fit about people's questions. Your name is correct.. you are definitely a diva. 

You have a right to say no. If you don't want to hang out with your friends after say no. I am more curious on what time your wedding is and reception if your friends have time to have a movie night... 

CMGragain

Just hang a sign on your hotel door that says


GO AWAY!!!!

Tweetiepie19

Wow. Seriously. I've had an account here for a few years, but am definitely new to the forum....and I have to admit, this thread has been one of the worst cases of cyber-bullying I have ever seen. For goodness' sake, girls, grow up and stop over-reacting--ALL OF YOU!!! It's easy enough for a newcomer to get confused about terminology anyway. Stop being "Knotty" snobs! 

As for the actual topic, I definitely do not think it is rude to want to be alone with your husband! If others know which room you'll be staying in, make sure no one has a key and let them suck it up; it's your night. If they don't know the room, don't tell them.