I know it's common to host a brunch at the hotel guests are staying at, the morning after the wedding, but is it a "MUST?"
FI and I both agreed that, as guests, we hate feeling obligated to attend a post wedding brunch and we just want to get on the road and travel back home. The brunch will cost around 3k and we think that is a lot to spend. Not that this is an alternative by any means, but the hotel where guests will be staying has a Starbucks adjacent to the lobby. I thought putting a $10 gift card in the welcome bags, would be nice and they can grab their own coffee or muffin on their way home. Not that $10 goes very far at Starbucks, but it's something! I don't anticipate having more than 30 bags to fill, so not a huge expense to do the $10 gift cards.
Will it look rude if we don't have a brunch?