Be careful when snarking in public.

climbingsingle

Last night, H and I went out to dinner. We had a gift card for a group of restaurants (Peter Kelly's restaurants for those local) so we chose one of the smaller locations that has just 7 tables. 

There was just one waiter/maitre d' working the whole room. And since the place was small, you could pretty much hear everyone's conversations. The waiter was at another table across the room. He was talking to the couple dining there, and he started snarking on a wedding he attended recently. My ears perk up and I start listening. I'm so nosy. 

As he continues, I realize ZOMG I know the couple he's talking about! My two good friends also attended this wedding! So, he's talking shit about the bride (a girl I know, but not very well), divulging some embarrassing things that occurred right up to the wedding (they had a DW in Mexico). At this point, I feel bad for listening in and hearing these things. But honestly, the place was SO SMALL, it was impossible not to hear him. He then starts talking shit about my friend that attended the wedding. Ugh. 

At the end of the story, he says to the couple, "And after all of this, they're now getting divorced!" which I did not know, but now do. 

My face:

LondonLisa

I wish you had just turned to him as you left and said "I'll be sure to send Tom and Diana your best!" just for his reaction, which I'm willing to bet would be something like this: 

novella1186

Yeah people seriously need to keep their mouths shut sometimes. Or just talk quieter. Ugh. 

When I was a kid I got in a really bad car accident. My dad was driving and we got t-boned. I got a concussion, bruised ribs, etc so I had to get to the ER. The lady driving the other car had a broken ankle so she was also in the ER and we ended up in the same room together with just a curtain in between us. 

She recognized my dad because he was a local business owner, so she starts screaming about how he's a rich piece of shit and the accident was his fault, she's gonna sue him for everything he's worth, he'll lose his house, she'll tell everyone in town what a piece of shit he is, on and on and on. 

I was like 9 at the time so I believed her threats, and I'm already scared lying in a hospital bed in serious pain. I started crying. My mom pulled the nurse aside and told her the situation. The nurse went over and whispered something to the lady. Didn't hear one more peep out of that bitch the whole rest of the time. And my dad never got sued. 

climbingsingle

novella1186 said:

Yeah people seriously need to keep their mouths shut sometimes. Or just talk quieter. Ugh. 

When I was a kid I got in a really bad car accident. My dad was driving and we got t-boned. I got a concussion, bruised ribs, etc so I had to get to the ER. The lady driving the other car had a broken ankle so she was also in the ER and we ended up in the same room together with just a curtain in between us. 

She recognized my dad because he was a local business owner, so she starts screaming about how he's a rich piece of shit and the accident was his fault, she's gonna sue him for everything he's worth, he'll lose his house, she'll tell everyone in town what a piece of shit he is, on and on and on. 

I was like 9 at the time so I believed her threats, and I'm already scared lying in a hospital bed in serious pain. I started crying. My mom pulled the nurse aside and told her the situation. The nurse went over and whispered something to the lady. Didn't hear one more peep out of that bitch the whole rest of the time. And my dad never got sued. 

Holy jeez. 

thisismynickname2

Good grief!!!!

How awkward. And seriously, divorce already? Yowza. 

KatieinBkln

novella1186 said:

Yeah people seriously need to keep their mouths shut sometimes. Or just talk quieter. Ugh. 

When I was a kid I got in a really bad car accident. My dad was driving and we got t-boned. I got a concussion, bruised ribs, etc so I had to get to the ER. The lady driving the other car had a broken ankle so she was also in the ER and we ended up in the same room together with just a curtain in between us. 

She recognized my dad because he was a local business owner, so she starts screaming about how he's a rich piece of shit and the accident was his fault, she's gonna sue him for everything he's worth, he'll lose his house, she'll tell everyone in town what a piece of shit he is, on and on and on. 

I was like 9 at the time so I believed her threats, and I'm already scared lying in a hospital bed in serious pain. I started crying. My mom pulled the nurse aside and told her the situation. The nurse went over and whispered something to the lady. Didn't hear one more peep out of that bitch the whole rest of the time. And my dad never got sued. 

Those were seriously the only two beds available in the entire ER? Ugh, what a shit show.

I hope her ankle still bothers her when it rains.

southernbelle0915

Um, that waiter needs to learn about professionalism and boundaries. 

My mom had a TERRIBLE foot in mouth story. In the 90s, my dad got a new job and was invited to the CEO's house for holiday dinner party along with a few other people from the company. We had just moved from New Jersey and the CEO was asking my mom about it. She'd had a glass of wine or three and she goes "You know, John, it was stuffy and a little stuck up.... well, let me just put it this way. It was a lotta plaid and a lotta BMWs if you know what I mean." 

He was wearing a plaid vest (true 90s style) and had JUST finished talking about how terrible his new BMW was in the snow.

wandajune6

People are stupid.

We've talked about jury duty before but I forgot about another jury duty story I had. There was only one bathroom in the jury room so we were told to go to the other bathroom during the hall during a particularly short break. While in a stall, I hear lawyers talking. It was legalese that I didn't understand but it turned out to be lawyers on the case I was assigned to.

I wasn't quite sure what to do so I told the bailiff when I got back to the jury room. I was sent home and I'm assuming the lawyers got in trouble.

thespeshulestsnowflake

This isn't a foot in mouth story, but still pretty funny:

When we got our Samoyed, we had two cats. Well when we brought her home, she started chasing one of the cats around the house, They finally had a stand-off in the living room. My dad, stupidly, got in the middle of them and the cat bite him. That night my parents went out for diner and the bite swelled up to a point he couldn't cut up his food, so the went the emergency room. They were there long enough to be there for the shift change. My mom overheard one of the nurses explaining to the one coming in about the patients in the ER. When she got to my dad she called him "the guy with the lion bite."

l9i

DH and I have gotten in several instances where we've been around people snarking on my brother and his crazy GF at the time.  I just listened and laughed... hilarious.

Note: My brother and I aren't close at all, don't look alike, and other than our last name people wouldn't even guess we are related so it happened many times.

LondonLisa

One of my Icelandic friends was on a tube train here in London with another friend from Reykjavik. They were talking in Icelandic about this really hot guy standing by the door. Icelandic has about 300,000 speakers (max) worldwide, so it often works as a secret code when they want to chat about people. They were debating about how old they thought he was and if he was married because he was so hot.

After about a full (jokingly graphic) 10 minute discussion, he turns to them and says in Icelandic: "I'm 29 and have a girlfriend"

ShesSoCold

LondonLisa said:

One of my Icelandic friends was on a tube train here in London with another friend from Reykjavik. They were talking in Icelandic about this really hot guy standing by the door. Icelandic has about 300,000 speakers (max) worldwide, so it often works as a secret code when they want to chat about people. They were debating about how old they thought he was and if he was married because he was so hot.

After about a full (jokingly graphic) 10 minute discussion, he turns to them and says in Icelandic: "I'm 29 and have a girlfriend"

LOL!!!

My H broke up with his girlfriend when he was trying to date me. She had I had a lot of mutual friends. I was arriving at a party one night when she was outside smoking. She was drunk and crying and talking shit. Saying she doesn't understand how he could leave her for someone so much fatter and uglier than she is. I walked right up and asked her how that made her feel. That he was willing to leave her for someone who was so fat and gross - what did that say about her? 

Shut her up quick. 

southernbelle0915

LondonLisa said:

One of my Icelandic friends was on a tube train here in London with another friend from Reykjavik. They were talking in Icelandic about this really hot guy standing by the door. Icelandic has about 300,000 speakers (max) worldwide, so it often works as a secret code when they want to chat about people. They were debating about how old they thought he was and if he was married because he was so hot.

After about a full (jokingly graphic) 10 minute discussion, he turns to them and says in Icelandic: "I'm 29 and have a girlfriend"

OHHHH!!!!

JennyColada

That seriously needs to be brought to manager attention!

For my story: when we see MIL and FIL for dinner, we like to go for a walk around the neighborhood after eating. Well one time we did this and we started criticing houses (like "I like that color door", "that color is quite loud", etc. nothing horrible!). Well for some reason as our luck would have it, it felt like when we'd start dishing on a house someone would walk out of the house! So of course we'd all do an awkward silence, smile, wave and move on. They probably didn't hear (or care) what we were saying, but It was just so funny with the timing!

theartistformerlyknownas

LondonLisa said:

One of my Icelandic friends was on a tube train here in London with another friend from Reykjavik. They were talking in Icelandic about this really hot guy standing by the door. Icelandic has about 300,000 speakers (max) worldwide, so it often works as a secret code when they want to chat about people. They were debating about how old they thought he was and if he was married because he was so hot.

After about a full (jokingly graphic) 10 minute discussion, he turns to them and says in Icelandic: "I'm 29 and have a girlfriend"

My BFF has had some experiences like that... she and her H are both from Brazil, but she's a fair-skinned blonde so that often surprises people who think everyone from Brazil looks Hispanic. Well she also happens to speak 5 languages, so she's overheard quite a lot that people assumed she couldn't understand, including a cabby in Italy talking a bunch of shit about them assuming they were American.

novella1186

Oh wait I just remembered a story about when I should've kept my mouth shut. We went to a really tacky rude wedding about a year ago (that I've mentioned here before)-- Registry info on the invite and EVERYTHING on the registry was so insanely expensive (like $700 for a set of pans, $300 for a platter, etc etc etc), huge gap, and so on. 

Well towards the end of the gap, my FI and I, his friend, and friend's gf all get into the elevator at our hotel to head to the reception venue and we're holding gifts. An older couple gets in the elevator with us and asks what we're all dressed up for. We tell them a wedding. The lady seemed so excited about it and started asking me about the gift I was holding. I told her what it was and said that I hope the bride likes it because it wasn't from the registry, since everything the bride registered for was stupidly expensive which I thought was ridiculous. The lady made a comment about how she also thought such a thing was ridiculous. I said something about the bride needing a reality check, or some dumb rude thing that I shouldn't have said. 

We got the reception and the old couple from the elevator is there. Turns out, they're the bride's grandparents. The lady was shooting me nasty looks the entire night. Whoops. 

blabla89

novella1186 said:

Oh wait I just remembered a story about when I should've kept my mouth shut. We went to a really tacky rude wedding about a year ago (that I've mentioned here before)-- Registry info on the invite and EVERYTHING on the registry was so insanely expensive (like $700 for a set of pans, $300 for a platter, etc etc etc), huge gap, and so on. 

Well towards the end of the gap, my FI and I, his friend, and friend's gf all get into the elevator at our hotel to head to the reception venue and we're holding gifts. An older couple gets in the elevator with us and asks what we're all dressed up for. We tell them a wedding. The lady seemed so excited about it and started asking me about the gift I was holding. I told her what it was and said that I hope the bride likes it because it wasn't from the registry, since everything the bride registered for was stupidly expensive which I thought was ridiculous. The lady made a comment about how she also thought such a thing was ridiculous. I said something about the bride needing a reality check, or some dumb rude thing that I shouldn't have said. 

We got the reception and the old couple from the elevator is there. Turns out, they're the bride's grandparents. The lady was shooting me nasty looks the entire night. Whoops. 

Well you know what we always say...people might not tell you to your face that you're being rude, but that doesn't mean they aren't thinking it.

snarkymaid

I was in the ER with a head injury after a fall about a year ago and the head nurse was signing off of his shift for the night and taking the oncoming nurse around and giving a run down on all the patients. They stood outside my curtain and said "this one has a headache."

I was vomiting and waiting to be taken for a head CT, you dolt. Thanks for minimizing my concussion. I can tell you really care about your patients.

sarawifenow

That waiter is ridiculous.

 

My experience was when I took my beagle to the dog park. She was running around and playing with the other dogs and would occasionally bay at them while they played.

 

I was standing next to a group of people watching the dogs play. This man next to me turns to me and says, "God I hate beagles. They are so annoying and ugly. Whoever brought that dog here should be put down with the dog". I told him, "I hate people that feel the need to be nasty about everything in life. It must be a really sad existence. By the way, that beagle is my dog. Maybe you should pay more attention to your dog instead of being an asshole". I pointed to his dog who was humping a rock.

novella1186

sarawifenow said:

That waiter is ridiculous.

 

My experience was when I took my beagle to the dog park. She was running around and playing with the other dogs and would occasionally bay at them while they played.

 

I was standing next to a group of people watching the dogs play. This man next to me turns to me and says, "God I hate beagles. They are so annoying and ugly. Whoever brought that dog here should be put down with the dog". I told him, "I hate people that feel the need to be nasty about everything in life. It must be a really sad existence. By the way, that beagle is my dog. Maybe you should pay more attention to your dog instead of being an asshole". I pointed to his dog who was humping a rock.

Omg what an asshole! Who says that?! And the bolded just made me laugh so hard 

[Deleted User]

I was just talking about this concept with my FMIL last week.

I moved to the town where my fiance pretty much grew up.  Middle school and HS, community college for a number of years, and then back after college.  He was the HS football coach for 5 year before I met him.  My FMIL knows quite a few people too because of events she attends and groups she's part of.  While there's 25,000 people in the town, it's still "small" in a way.

You've got to be VERY careful of what you say to whom because so many people know one another!  I went to a massage therapist right behind my apartment last week; her husband coached football with my fiance; I mentioned the husband's name to Fiance and he was like, "that guy's an ass; I can't stand him."  (I was kind of surprised because he doesn't genuinely dislike too many people- his shit list is pretty short...)  Thank God I didn't say any more than I did to this woman.

About 2 years ago I was in the local Best Buy picking out a laptop, and the kid helping me was someone Fiance coached.  I go to the gym and the trainer I'm interested in was someone Fiance coached. 

Tread carefully!

Cookie Pusher

DH and I live in the town I went to middle/high school in. I can't go anywhere without ending up in conversation with someone I went to school with, parents of someone I went to school with, or a sibling of someone I went to school with (it's a pretty small town). DH has learned that if he wants to do anything that he doesn't want me finding out about it, he'd better not do it in a 10-mile radius of where we live.

climbingsingle

That's pretty much like the county H and I grew up in. We still live here, and it's like everybody knows everybody, even though there are 315,000 people that live here. You can't swing a dick without bumping into a friend of a friend. And yes, I swing dicks. 

[Deleted User]

lolo883 said:

LondonLisa said:

One of my Icelandic friends was on a tube train here in London with another friend from Reykjavik. They were talking in Icelandic about this really hot guy standing by the door. Icelandic has about 300,000 speakers (max) worldwide, so it often works as a secret code when they want to chat about people. They were debating about how old they thought he was and if he was married because he was so hot.

After about a full (jokingly graphic) 10 minute discussion, he turns to them and says in Icelandic: "I'm 29 and have a girlfriend"

My BFF has had some experiences like that... she and her H are both from Brazil, but she's a fair-skinned blonde so that often surprises people who think everyone from Brazil looks Hispanic. Well she also happens to speak 5 languages, so she's overheard quite a lot that people assumed she couldn't understand, including a cabby in Italy talking a bunch of shit about them assuming they were American.

A Brazilian friend was visiting a tiny village in France not commonly frequented by tourists.  She was eating in one of the tiny restaurant when a couple loud Brazilian women walked in practically screaming in Portuguese.  One said how she was so happy they could speak Portuguese where nobody could understand them.  The other asked how her friend could be sure.  The bitchy one replied that the only people in the restaurant were that local couple over that and (the female equivalent of) "that old fart" pointing to my friend.  They proceeded to have a long and snarky conversation beating down their friend, Lena, gossiping terribly about her, and just generally being terrible people.  My friend finished her meal, paid her bill, and before walking out the door stopped beside the girls and said in perfect Portuguese, "You should really be careful what you say about people because you never know who can understand you.  And give Lena my love."

PrettyGirlLost

southernbelle0915 said:

Um, that waiter needs to learn about professionalism and boundaries. 

My mom had a TERRIBLE foot in mouth story. In the 90s, my dad got a new job and was invited to the CEO's house for holiday dinner party along with a few other people from the company. We had just moved from New Jersey and the CEO was asking my mom about it. She'd had a glass of wine or three and she goes "You know, John, it was stuffy and a little stuck up.... well, let me just put it this way. It was a lotta plaid and a lotta BMWs if you know what I mean." 

He was wearing a plaid vest (true 90s style) and had JUST finished talking about how terrible his new BMW was in the snow.

Why?

He was talking to people I presume are his friends about a wedding he attended. . . we snark about weddings we attend all.the.time.  What's the difference?  We could be snarking about another user's wedding and not realize it.

It would have been way more awkward if he was snarking on Climbingbride's wedding and she was sitting there, but even then you are still allowed to voice an opinion on something in public.

climbingsingle

PrettyGirlLost said:

southernbelle0915 said:

Um, that waiter needs to learn about professionalism and boundaries. 

My mom had a TERRIBLE foot in mouth story. In the 90s, my dad got a new job and was invited to the CEO's house for holiday dinner party along with a few other people from the company. We had just moved from New Jersey and the CEO was asking my mom about it. She'd had a glass of wine or three and she goes "You know, John, it was stuffy and a little stuck up.... well, let me just put it this way. It was a lotta plaid and a lotta BMWs if you know what I mean." 

He was wearing a plaid vest (true 90s style) and had JUST finished talking about how terrible his new BMW was in the snow.

Why?

He was talking to people I presume are his friends about a wedding he attended. . . we snark about weddings we attend all.the.time.  What's the difference?  We could be snarking about another user's wedding and not realize it.

It would have been way more awkward if he was snarking on Climbingbride's wedding and she was sitting there, but even then you are still allowed to voice an opinion on something in public.

The diners he was talking to were not his friends. When they left, he said to them, "It was nice meeting both of you." 

southernbelle0915

PrettyGirlLost said: southernbelle0915 said: Um, that waiter needs to learn about professionalism and boundaries. 
My mom had a TERRIBLE foot in mouth story. In the 90s, my dad got a new job and was invited to the CEO's house for holiday dinner party along with a few other people from the company. We had just moved from New Jersey and the CEO was asking my mom about it. She'd had a glass of wine or three and she goes "You know, John, it was stuffy and a little stuck up.... well, let me just put it this way. It was a lotta plaid and a lotta BMWs if you know what I mean." 
He was wearing a plaid vest (true 90s style) and had JUST finished talking about how terrible his new BMW was in the snow.
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Why?

He was talking to people I presume are his friends about a wedding he attended. . . we snark about weddings we attend all.the.time.  What's the difference?  We could be snarking about another user's wedding and not realize it.

It would have been way more awkward if he was snarking on Climbingbride's wedding and she was sitting there, but even then you are still allowed to voice an opinion on something in public.

************etf boxes****************

Because he's at work with a job to do. His job is to serve tables. While he was talking shit about people, he should have been filling water glasses, checking on orders, asking if people need anything, getting more drinks, pouring wine, etc. 

Sure, you can voice an opinion in public. I'm allowed to have opinions, but I have opinions and snark I shouldn't say at work because they aren't professional.

PrettyGirlLost

climbingwife said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

southernbelle0915 said:

Um, that waiter needs to learn about professionalism and boundaries. 

My mom had a TERRIBLE foot in mouth story. In the 90s, my dad got a new job and was invited to the CEO's house for holiday dinner party along with a few other people from the company. We had just moved from New Jersey and the CEO was asking my mom about it. She'd had a glass of wine or three and she goes "You know, John, it was stuffy and a little stuck up.... well, let me just put it this way. It was a lotta plaid and a lotta BMWs if you know what I mean." 

He was wearing a plaid vest (true 90s style) and had JUST finished talking about how terrible his new BMW was in the snow.

Why?

He was talking to people I presume are his friends about a wedding he attended. . . we snark about weddings we attend all.the.time.  What's the difference?  We could be snarking about another user's wedding and not realize it.

It would have been way more awkward if he was snarking on Climbingbride's wedding and she was sitting there, but even then you are still allowed to voice an opinion on something in public.

The diners he was talking to were not his friends. When they left, he said to them, "It was nice meeting both of you." 

Oh that's different.  That is unprofessional.

southernbelle0915 said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

southernbelle0915 said:

Um, that waiter needs to learn about professionalism and boundaries. 

My mom had a TERRIBLE foot in mouth story. In the 90s, my dad got a new job and was invited to the CEO's house for holiday dinner party along with a few other people from the company. We had just moved from New Jersey and the CEO was asking my mom about it. She'd had a glass of wine or three and she goes "You know, John, it was stuffy and a little stuck up.... well, let me just put it this way. It was a lotta plaid and a lotta BMWs if you know what I mean." 

He was wearing a plaid vest (true 90s style) and had JUST finished talking about how terrible his new BMW was in the snow.

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Why?

He was talking to people I presume are his friends about a wedding he attended. . . we snark about weddings we attend all.the.time.  What's the difference?  We could be snarking about another user's wedding and not realize it.

It would have been way more awkward if he was snarking on Climbingbride's wedding and she was sitting there, but even then you are still allowed to voice an opinion on something in public.

************etf boxes****************

Because he's at work with a job to do. His job is to serve tables. While he was talking shit about people, he should have been filling water glasses, checking on orders, asking if people need anything, getting more drinks, pouring wine, etc. 

Sure, you can voice an opinion in public. I'm allowed to have opinions, but I have opinions and snark I shouldn't say at work because they aren't professional.

I didn't see anything in the OP to indicate that he wasn't doing any of that.  If he was bullshitting and neglecting people, not cool though.

chibiyui

southernbelle0915 said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

southernbelle0915 said:

Um, that waiter needs to learn about professionalism and boundaries. 

My mom had a TERRIBLE foot in mouth story. In the 90s, my dad got a new job and was invited to the CEO's house for holiday dinner party along with a few other people from the company. We had just moved from New Jersey and the CEO was asking my mom about it. She'd had a glass of wine or three and she goes "You know, John, it was stuffy and a little stuck up.... well, let me just put it this way. It was a lotta plaid and a lotta BMWs if you know what I mean." 

He was wearing a plaid vest (true 90s style) and had JUST finished talking about how terrible his new BMW was in the snow.

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Why?

He was talking to people I presume are his friends about a wedding he attended. . . we snark about weddings we attend all.the.time.  What's the difference?  We could be snarking about another user's wedding and not realize it.

It would have been way more awkward if he was snarking on Climbingbride's wedding and she was sitting there, but even then you are still allowed to voice an opinion on something in public.

************etf boxes****************

Because he's at work with a job to do. His job is to serve tables. While he was talking shit about people, he should have been filling water glasses, checking on orders, asking if people need anything, getting more drinks, pouring wine, etc. 

Sure, you can voice an opinion in public. I'm allowed to have opinions, but I have opinions and snark I shouldn't say at work because they aren't professional.

If other diners were waiting an inappropriate amount of time, I'd agree.

I'm pretty sure no one here is paid to knot, and yet here we are.

blabla89

FeeleyToBe said:

I was just talking about this concept with my FMIL last week.

I moved to the town where my fiance pretty much grew up.  Middle school and HS, community college for a number of years, and then back after college.  He was the HS football coach for 5 year before I met him.  My FMIL knows quite a few people too because of events she attends and groups she's part of.  While there's 25,000 people in the town, it's still "small" in a way.

You've got to be VERY careful of what you say to whom because so many people know one another!  I went to a massage therapist right behind my apartment last week; her husband coached football with my fiance; I mentioned the husband's name to Fiance and he was like, "that guy's an ass; I can't stand him."  (I was kind of surprised because he doesn't genuinely dislike too many people- his shit list is pretty short...)  Thank God I didn't say any more than I did to this woman.

About 2 years ago I was in the local Best Buy picking out a laptop, and the kid helping me was someone Fiance coached.  I go to the gym and the trainer I'm interested in was someone Fiance coached. 

Tread carefully!

This is how it is in my job. We have clients from all over the country, but it's a small world because most of them went to school together and/or they're related. You can't bad-mouth anyone in front of a client, ever (not that I would - that's SO unprofessional) because the person you're talking about might be their cousin. Seriously.

southernbelle0915

chibiyui said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

southernbelle0915 said:

Um, that waiter needs to learn about professionalism and boundaries. 

My mom had a TERRIBLE foot in mouth story. In the 90s, my dad got a new job and was invited to the CEO's house for holiday dinner party along with a few other people from the company. We had just moved from New Jersey and the CEO was asking my mom about it. She'd had a glass of wine or three and she goes "You know, John, it was stuffy and a little stuck up.... well, let me just put it this way. It was a lotta plaid and a lotta BMWs if you know what I mean." 

He was wearing a plaid vest (true 90s style) and had JUST finished talking about how terrible his new BMW was in the snow.

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Why?

He was talking to people I presume are his friends about a wedding he attended. . . we snark about weddings we attend all.the.time.  What's the difference?  We could be snarking about another user's wedding and not realize it.

It would have been way more awkward if he was snarking on Climbingbride's wedding and she was sitting there, but even then you are still allowed to voice an opinion on something in public.

************etf boxes****************

Because he's at work with a job to do. His job is to serve tables. While he was talking shit about people, he should have been filling water glasses, checking on orders, asking if people need anything, getting more drinks, pouring wine, etc. 

Sure, you can voice an opinion in public. I'm allowed to have opinions, but I have opinions and snark I shouldn't say at work because they aren't professional.

If other diners were waiting an inappropriate amount of time, I'd agree. I'm pretty sure no one here is paid to knot, and yet here we are.

***********BOXES*************

But we have no idea what people's jobs are. Some people on here are SAHMs, some work nights, some don't have tasks at work... Sure, some are probably neglecting their jobs. And since that's not known, it's irrelevant to this scenario. Because in this scenario we DO know that he was a waiter and had actively the only working waiter in the restaurant.

When you're the only waiter and you have 7 tables, your job is to tend to those tables. Not chill at one talking shit about people where everyone in the restaurant can hear. If I were that waiter's boss, we'd be having a chat about properly waiting tables and professional conversation.