My groom and I (who aren't actually engaged yet but have started planning) see a pastor for couple's counseling. He's someone my mom who is a pastor knows. I went to school to be a minister and was a minister at one time. Religion, however, is not a significant part of my life anymore. We want to have the pastor who is giving us counseling marry us. He's been so supportive and even dealt with my rants when my man stresses me out and encouraged my man in ways he needs encouragement and also kept me in check from time to time when I become too mothering.
Anyway, we want to also get married in a chapel.
However, as I said, religion is no longer a big part of my life. And my groom is agnostic. If he leans towards any religion, it's Buddhism. How can we tell the pastor to marry us but to (we wouldn't use these words) "Keep the religion to a minimum."