For FI this will be is 4th marriage, my second. We are talking about a small ceremony and reception. Would you say no/snark on this because it’s his 4th?
FI married his ex’s after only being together for less than 6 months (second wife, 5 weeks), we have been together for almost 3 years, by the time we get married it will be 4 years. We have done everything different than all of his Ex’s (how we met, first date, didn’t sleep together right away, and reason for marring is because of love, not convenience), and he married all his ex’s at the court house so I want to do that different. I thought of just going to one of those wedding chapels and having the “elopement” ceremony, but my father wants to be there when we get married, so if he comes then we feel obligated to invite all close family. He has 18 people with his immediate family; I just have my dad and my BFF.
I feel silly to have a ceremony and reception being that he’s been hitched so many times before but I don’t want to go to the court house to make it different.
My first wedding was super small ceremony and reception. His first and third marriage lasted 4.5 years, to include dating, second lasted 8 weeks including dating, this is the first time he has been engaged.
Re: Would you snark on this:
As far as hosting: I found a place that I like that has it all in packages, though there isn’t a bar and there is no way I am going to do a dry wedding. So Im going to have to find a different local for reception to do a fully seated meal (with options for beef or chicken or vegetarian), open bar, good music with no forced dancing. And I have found some short lace cream colored dresses I am fond of at modcloth.
There will be a plethora of children so music is a must for them to dance away their energy.
No, really, don't worry about it. Everybody is entitled to the wedding they can pay for! Sounds like you are going to host your guests graciously.
My MOH was married for the third time, her H for the first. He invited family and friends, she invited only immediate family (parents, sister & family, daughters), and friends, because her extended family had attended her first wedding and she didn't want to ding them twice for gifts.