Need support please!

novella1186

Every mom needs/deserves to hear, once in a while, that they're doing a good job. Denise, you are doing a good job. You're a good mom. The fact that you can put your own feelings aside and not fly off the handle at your daughter speaks volumes. Just being there to give support is all she needs; not guilt or judgement or arguing or scolding, or emotional appeals, or questions. You're giving her what she needs and doing all you can do.

I already posted something similar to this before, but I feel like when you're in a tough situation sometimes you need to keep hearing something positive to help you through it. So I just wanted to repeat: you are doing a good job.

Denise40

novella1186 said:

Every mom needs/deserves to hear, once in a while, that they're doing a good job. Denise, you are doing a good job. You're a good mom. The fact that you can put your own feelings aside and not fly off the handle at your daughter speaks volumes. Just being there to give support is all she needs; not guilt or judgement or arguing or scolding, or emotional appeals, or questions. You're giving her what she needs and doing all you can do.

I already posted something similar to this before, but I feel like when you're in a tough situation sometimes you need to keep hearing something positive to help you through it. So I just wanted to repeat: you are doing a good job.

Thank you!

novella1186

Denise40 said:

novella1186 said:

Every mom needs/deserves to hear, once in a while, that they're doing a good job. Denise, you are doing a good job. You're a good mom. The fact that you can put your own feelings aside and not fly off the handle at your daughter speaks volumes. Just being there to give support is all she needs; not guilt or judgement or arguing or scolding, or emotional appeals, or questions. You're giving her what she needs and doing all you can do.

I already posted something similar to this before, but I feel like when you're in a tough situation sometimes you need to keep hearing something positive to help you through it. So I just wanted to repeat: you are doing a good job.

Thank you!

I hope you are feeling a little better about the situation.

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mrstrevor15

ashley8918 said:

holyguacamole79 said:

I get the feeling that the guy who told Denise is experiencing some sense of remorse regarding his child, and I assume that this guy doesn't want Denise to have similar remorse. That is just a guess. I'm not saying his telling Denise is wright or wrong, but I see why he was motivated to do It.

Or maybe he is just a shit friend/friend's H for betraying her confidence in such a profound way. THIS IS NOT HIS BUSINESS.

I agree he should not have said anything to her mom, but with that said, I tell my FI everything. But yeah, if he were to off off and tell anyone things we talk about like this, I would be pissed.

rcher912

Oh boy.

I'm sorry you have to go through this, Denise, but you're handling it remarkably well.

It also sounds like the guy who told you has some of his own trauma he still hasn't dealt with, which led him to do a pretty terrible thing. Hopefully, he'll be able to get some peace and closure in his own life, but it wasn't very kind to put your daughter's trust in his wife in jeopardy like that, and to put you through such a difficult situation (to talk to her or not to talk to her?). I hope he realizes this mistake.

wrigleyville

I really respect the way you handled it, Denise. My mom would have nagged and bitched and cried until the end of time. Your daughter is lucky to have a caring mother like you.

Even though she told you she wants to be a mom before she's 30, maybe something changed, or maybe there's some medical reason she can't carry to term right now, or maybe they don't have the finances, etc. There are a thousand reasons why a woman who always said she wanted kids might decide to have an abortion.