I am marrying into a family of very talented musicians and singers. It is a tradition in their family that someone sings and plays the song for the first dance. My future sister & mother-in-law have amazing talent and their singing is beautiful. I agreed with my fiance that we want his mom and possibly his sister to sing a song for our first dance. My mother, however, said no way. She said there is no point in them singing and she doesn't understand why they need to sing. I explained to her that it's a Burns thing and it what they do in their family. Seems like at every wedding, they have sung the first dance song. She keeps saying that it's not going to happen and won't listen to me when I say I want MIL to sing. I am not sure what to do because I know she will be very hurt if I tell her she can't sing.
Re: Advice needed!!! Help!
"This is FI's wedding too, and a tradition that is important to both of us. You are being very unreasonable, Mom. We're doing it. If it is truly that much of a problem, we will pay for our own reception." If she gets huffy, that's on her.
Do you have any sort of idea why she's being ridiculous about this? Is the idea of the "other mom" getting the spotlight at the reception she's hosting making her upset about who will get "credit" for making the more meaningful contribution to the reception?
While it would be tacky for the bride or the groom to perform at their own wedding, it is perfectly OK for family members to perform ONE song. More than that would be overdoing it.
I am a professional musician, and I was thrilled to NOT have to perform at my daughter's wedding. I keep a low profile on our vacation cruises so I don't become the entertainment
Threaten to elope. That will bring Mom back to reality..