Psycho Kids

mrsk616

MagicInk said:

I'm with @pinkrevenge‌ yep I'm big mean auntie now stop being little assholes and maybe I'll be nice. I called my mom a big meanie when I was a kid and she'd respond "you'll thank me when you aren't in prison". And hey I'm not in prison. @mrsk616‌ I'm wondering what you mean by acting paranoid? When I was young and my parents got divorced I would be paranoid about things. Stupid shit...cause I was a kid. Adults refusing to interact with me wouldn't stop me freaking out. Adults reassuring me did. Even as an adult I have paranoid thoughts that lead to panic attacks. Today I had one in the mall because what if the mall collapsed. Wtf? Why did I even start thinking that? Wifey didn't just walk away from me and leave me to my panic attack. She comforted me. The kids Larry are talking about are acting violent. Not paranoid.

stuck in darn box argh 

one time my youngest niece said she was recording our conversation because daddy told her too. he is one to think everyone is out to get him and conveys that to my nieces. they have gotten better since my sister got them. it was so bad that when my sister asked for them for a family get together or something he'd say no they have plans and make plans for them so they didnt come over. 

we cant even mention his name without the youngest niece getting defensive. it is so annoying. 

mrsk616

MagicInk said:

I'm with @pinkrevenge‌ yep I'm big mean auntie now stop being little assholes and maybe I'll be nice. I called my mom a big meanie when I was a kid and she'd respond "you'll thank me when you aren't in prison". And hey I'm not in prison. @mrsk616‌ I'm wondering what you mean by acting paranoid? When I was young and my parents got divorced I would be paranoid about things. Stupid shit...cause I was a kid. Adults refusing to interact with me wouldn't stop me freaking out. Adults reassuring me did. Even as an adult I have paranoid thoughts that lead to panic attacks. Today I had one in the mall because what if the mall collapsed. Wtf? Why did I even start thinking that? Wifey didn't just walk away from me and leave me to my panic attack. She comforted me. The kids Larry are talking about are acting violent. Not paranoid.

i have also seen violent kids and i know what she was talking about. i just brought up the paranoid stuff because of how my nieces are being parented thats all.

levioosa

I'm with @Pinkrevenge.  Punching a pregnant woman's stomach?  That's so out of line and dangerous it's disgusting.  These children desperately need professional help, and it's heartbreaking that their parents won't acknowledge it. 

Larry, you are not a bad person, and there is nothing wrong with setting boundaries and being the "mean aunt," especially if it means you are protecting yourself.  I know it seems harsh, but if the rest of the family is on board, perhaps you need to start turning away your grandparents too when they show up with the kids.  Maybe that will help them with a wake up call.  What they are doing is exactly the same as enabling any other type of destructive behavior.  It's just more complicated because children are involved (and are the cause).

I'm going to echo PPs too.  The great majority of children don't act out like this without cause.  Are you and your family certain that nothing more is happening at home?  I know you are in the health field, so you probably have an eye out for this sort of thing, but is there anything else physically or in their behavior that is indicative of trauma they might be experiencing at home? 

I'm so sorry you and your family are dealing with this. 

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AddieCake

I wouldn't be anywhere near these children if they are acting like that. My right to safety supercedes their issues.