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Invitation help please

Denise40Denise40 Montgomery County, Tx
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The invitation that I'm thinking of using, has the Bride and Groom's name listed first, and then the invitation wording after, what wording would I use since the names are first?

The wording that they have is: Bride and Groom

                                                  Invite you to share in the joy at the celebration of their marriage


Can this be used or is wrong etiquette wise?

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Re: Invitation help please

  • It is a faux-pas for the bride and groom to directly invite guests to their own wedding.  The wording here doesn't even make it clear that this IS a wedding invitation.  "Celebration of their marriage" sounds like you are already married and you are inviting people to a party to celebrate.

    Who is hosting your wedding?  Is it a church wedding, or will it be held somewhere else?  We need to know these things beffore recommending a wording for you.
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  • Denise40Denise40 Montgomery County, Tx
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    edited February 2015
    We, the bride and groom, will be hosting our wedding.  I didn't think it sounded right.  Thanks for helping. @cmGragain
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 Ravens & Bohs & Crabs & O's
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    The wording "celebration of their marriage" sounds like you are already married and you are just having a party to celebrate that fact.  Not that your guests are actually being invited to watch you and your SO get married in a ceremony.

    Also, some people on here take issue with you assuming that your guests should take joy in attending your event.  Silly?  Yes.  But some people don't like being told how they should feel.

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  • Denise40Denise40 Montgomery County, Tx
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    @Maggie0829 ; I totally understand.  That is why I'm asking.  The invitation actually had that on the sample.
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  • The pleasure of your company is requested
    at the marriage of
    Bride's Full Name
    and
    Groom's Full Name
    Day, Date
    time o'clock
    Venue Name
    Address
    City, State

    Reception to follow (This is if the reception is in the same place as the ceremony.)
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  • Denise40Denise40 Montgomery County, Tx
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    @CMGragain, what if our names come first before "The pleasure of your company" etc how would the wording be?
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  • CMGragainCMGragain
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    I don't really care for this, but you could put your names at the top of the invitation, also.

    Bride and Groom

    The pleasure of your company is requested
    at the marriage of
    Bride's Full Name
    and
    Groom's Full Name
    Day, Date
    time o'clock
    Venue Name
    Address
    City, State


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  • Denise40Denise40 Montgomery County, Tx
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    @CMGragain ; Thank you so much!
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  • hutchslhutchsl
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    edited February 2015

    we hosted our own wedding. Got these from internet searches

    Couple Inviting Verse 7

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    <?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />



    This day we begin

    the adventure of a lifetime...

    Please join us as we

    BRIDE

    and

    GROOM

    are united in marriage

    at an outdoor ceremony

    on DAY

    YEAR


    at TIME

    LOCATION

    ADDRESS

    CITY, STATE

    Couple Inviting Verse 21





    A friendship that was
    shared by two

    has grown into a love so true

    Please share our joy as we

    BRIDE

    and

    GROOM

    exchange marriage vows

    and begin our new life together

    on DAY

    YEAR


    at TIME

    LOCATION

    ADDRESS

    CITY, STATE



    Couple Inviting Verse 23





    BRIDE

    and

    GROOM

    joyfully invite you to share

    in their happiness

    as they unite in marriage

    on DAY

    YEAR


    at TIME

    LOCATION

    ADDRESS

    CITY, STATE






    Couple
    Inviting Verse 24






    The pleasure of your company

    is requested as

    BRIDE

    and

    GROOM

    vow to share their lives

    in a marriage ceremony

    on DAY

    YEAR


    at TIME

    LOCATION

    ADDRESS

    CITY, STATE





    Couple Inviting Verse
    32






    Please share our joy as we

    BRIDE

    and

    GROOM

    exchange marriage vows

    and begin our new life together

    on DAY

    YEAR


    at TIME

    LOCATION

    ADDRESS

    CITY, STATE

    Couple Inviting Verse 35





    Shall I compare thee to a summer's day?

    — William Shakespeare, Sonnet XVIII



    So long as I can breathe or I can see

    so long lives your love, which gives life to me.

    It is with joy that we,

    BRIDE

    and

    GROOM

    invite you to share

    in our happiness

    on DAY

    YEAR


    at TIME

    LOCATION

    ADDRESS

    CITY, STATE

    Couple Inviting Verse 36





    Shall I compare thee to a summer's day?

    — William Shakespeare, Sonnet XVIII



    The eternal summer of our love

    will not fade...

    Please join us as we,

    BRIDE

    and

    GROOM

    begin our new life together

    on DAY

    YEAR


    at TIME

    LOCATION

    ADDRESS

    ITY, STATE

    Couple Inviting Verse 56





    BRIDE

    and

    GROOM

    invite you to share in the joy

    when they exchange marriage vows

    and begin their new life together

    on DAY

    YEAR


    at TIME

    LOCATION

    ADDRESS

    CITY, STATE



    Couple Inviting Verse 59





    BRIDE

    and

    GROOM

    request the honour of your presence

    at their marriage

    on DAY

    YEAR


    at TIME

    LOCATION

    ADDRESS

    CITY, STATE

    Couple Inviting Verse 64





    It is our moment to celebrate

    the love that unites us.

    BRIDE

    and

    GROOM

    invite you to share with us

    this joyous celebration of love

    at our marriage

    on DAY

    YEAR


    at TIME

    LOCATION

    ADDRESS

    CITY, STATE

    Couple Inviting Verse 69





    To everything there is a season

    a time and a purpose

    BRIDE

    and

    GROOM

    invite you to share with them

    a day of happy beginnings

    when they will be united in marriage

    on DAY

    YEAR


    at TIME

    LOCATION

    ADDRESS

    CITY, STATE

    Couple Inviting Verse 71





    Two lives, two hearts

    joined together in friendship

    united forever in love.

    It is with joy that we,

    BRIDE

    and

    GROOM

    invite you to share

    in a celebration of love

    as we exchange our marriage vows

    on DAY

    YEAR


    at TIME

    LOCATION

    ADDRESS

    CITY, STATE

    Couple Inviting Verse 73





    The pleasure of your
    company

    is requested at the marriage of

    BRIDE

    to

    GROOM

    on DAY

    YEAR

    at TIME

    LOCATION

    ADDRESS

    CITY, STATE

    Couple Inviting Verse 104





    This day I will marry my best friend,

    the one I laugh with, live for, love

    BRIDE

    daughter of

    BRIDE'S PARENTS

    and

    GROOM

    son of

    GROOM'S PARENTS

    hope that you will join in this celebration

    on DAY

    YEAR


    at TIME

    LOCATION

    ADDRESS

    CITY, STATE

    Couple Inviting Verse 148





    A friendship that was
    shared by two

    has grown into a love so true.



    Please share our joy as we

    BRIDE

    and

    GROOM

    join in marriage

    DATE at TIME

    LOCATION

    ADDRESS

    CITY, STATE




    Couple Inviting Verse 152





    BRIDE

    and

    GROOM

    request the honour of your presence

    at their marriage

    on DATE

    YEAR


    at TIME

    LOCATION

    ADDRESS

    CITY, STATE

    What I like:

    Two lives, two
    hearts

    joined together in friendship

    united forever in love

    BRIDE

    and

    GROOM

    request the honour of your presence

    at their marriage

    on DAY

    YEAR


    at TIME

    LOCATION

    ADDRESS

    CITY, STATE



  • CMGragainCMGragain
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    Um...well, you can read a lot of things on the internet.  That doesn't make them true.
    Most of these examples are not etiquette approved.

    1.  The bride and groom NEVER directly invite guests to their own wedding which is held in their own honor.  This is a faux-pas!  If no one else is hosting the wedding, the invitations is worded in the passive voice.

    2.  Wedding invitations are traditionally worded in the third person, so no "we".

    3.  Sentimental poetry serves no purpose, and many people find it tacky, icky-poo, barf,  The invitation is a note from the hosts to the guests telling them who, what, when, and where - not WHY!  Save the sentiment for your reception.

    Sorry to burst your bubble, but this is bad advice you have posted.  An invitation company doesn't care if your invitations are correct or not.  They only want to sell you something.  Many companies, notably Vistaprint, seem to know nothing about invitation wording.  I take advice from Crane's Blue Book of Invitations.  They have been giving wording advice for more than 200 years.
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 Houston
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    Aside from the fact that wedding invitations are notes from the hosts to the intended guests conveying what, who, when, where, and how formal, there are two reasons to stick with traditional wording:

    1) Traditional wording makes clear exactly what guests are invited to, whereas other wording can confuse them. As noted above, the word "celebration" suggests that the ceremony has already taken place. Miss Manners writes in the Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior that something worded something like "Bride and Groom invite you to celebrate the joy in the beginning of their new life together as they exchange marriage vows" caused a guest to believe he was not invited to the ceremony and only attended the reception, causing hurt feelings.

    2) Overly romantic wording reads like verbal PDA. Yes, you're getting married, which is presumably a happy occasion. Traditional wording has this premise built into it. In fact, traditionally, if one has to emphasize how "happy" or "joyous" the occasion is beyond using traditional wording, then something is actually wrong.
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  • Personally, I say go with whatever wording you and your FH like. Before we ordered our invites I was scrolling through here looking for ideas. I believe I read that whoever is hosting, that's whose names should go on top. If you and your FH are hosting, then your names. If parents are hosting, then parents. One suggestion I found, that we liked, and went with is "Together with their parents." it's a nice compromise if you and your FH are hosting, as we are. But your parents will still feel included. 
    We also used celebration in our wording. I don't think anyone will be confused as to whether they are invited to the ceremony or just reception. Our reception is at the same place as our ceremony, we mention the reception immediately follows. Plus,the invitation also gives a start time and address. Just my two cents. 
  • Denise40Denise40 Montgomery County, Tx
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    CMGragain said:

    Um...well, you can read a lot of things on the internet.  That doesn't make them true.
    Most of these examples are not etiquette approved.

    1.  The bride and groom NEVER directly invite guests to their own wedding which is held in their own honor.  This is a faux-pas!  If no one else is hosting the wedding, the invitations is worded in the passive voice.

    2.  Wedding invitations are traditionally worded in the third person, so no "we".

    3.  Sentimental poetry serves no purpose, and many people find it tacky, icky-poo, barf,  The invitation is a note from the hosts to the guests telling them who, what, when, and where - not WHY!  Save the sentiment for your reception.

    Sorry to burst your bubble, but this is bad advice you have posted.  An invitation company doesn't care if your invitations are correct or not.  They only want to sell you something.  Many companies, notably Vistaprint, seem to know nothing about invitation wording.  I take advice from Crane's Blue Book of Invitations.  They have been giving wording advice for more than 200 years.




    Thanks for the info,
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 Houston
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    pennydl said:

    Personally, I say go with whatever wording you and your FH like. Before we ordered our invites I was scrolling through here looking for ideas. I believe I read that whoever is hosting, that's whose names should go on top. If you and your FH are hosting, then your names. If parents are hosting, then parents. One suggestion I found, that we liked, and went with is "Together with their parents." it's a nice compromise if you and your FH are hosting, as we are. But your parents will still feel included. 

    We also used celebration in our wording. I don't think anyone will be confused as to whether they are invited to the ceremony or just reception. Our reception is at the same place as our ceremony, we mention the reception immediately follows. Plus,the invitation also gives a start time and address. Just my two cents. 
    I believe that @CMGragain and others have explained why the bolded doesn't fly in this forum.
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  • Denise40Denise40 Montgomery County, Tx
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    @CMGragain I want to go with this invite. It's a sample so I know it's all wrong. Again we are hosting. How would the wording go using this invite?
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  • LtPowersLtPowers Upstate New York
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    Denise40 said:

    @CMGragain I want to go with this invite. It's a sample so I know it's all wrong. Again we are hosting. How would the wording go using this invite?

    In this case I think you would have to limit the fancy "&" names to just first names, while starting the traditional wording below it, as @CMGragain (reluctantly) suggested in an earlier reply. It's borderline, but probably the only way to make this design work.

    Also, is it just me, or do those two kissing birds look like a mustache?


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