Was having a random chat with a friend over the weekend, and she brought up the old...So when are you and SO going to FINALLY get married? (First of all, the exaggerated enunciation of the word finally really isn't necessary. The fact that you threw the word in at all makes your opinion clear. Thanks tho!)
I responded with my standard, "Oh you know, we are just going with the flow, but if/when that happens we will be sure to let you know!"
She then shows me the ring on her finger, and begins gushing about how her boyfriend has given her a promise ring, and how very excited she is. I ooohed and ahhed, and joined in on the very excited conversation, but I am a bit baffled. Maybe it is a geographical or cultural difference, but I've always equated promise rings with very young (i.e. teenage couples), and not something that 30 something couples did. She questioned why if SO and I knew we planned on getting engaged at some point, why I didn't have one, so I just said that I hadn't really heard of it before and didn't think it was something we would do. To each their own and all of that.
After all the babbling... Is this a thing? I don't want to sound all judgey McJudgerson, but I feel that at 34 years old I don't need a pre-engagement engagement ring. A promise to get engaged? I can't even think it, without hearing this little scoffing noise inside my head. Ok, I'm mean and judgey, but is this truly a thing that legit adults do?