So on a local Facebook wedding "buy/sell" page, a girl asks if you have to tip the photographer. I, and a few others, mentioned that you do not tip any vendor who owns the business (photographer, florist, etc). Hair/makeup artist might be the only exception. However if they're an employee of that business, you tip them. I also posted a link to TK's article about that exact subject (where it says tipping the photographer is optional, and that if they're an employee you should, but if they're the owner, probably not).
Then some other girl comes in and says you absolutely should tip everybody. She told us about how her friend is a part time photographer with her own business, who has her work featured on The Knot and Rocky Mountain Bride etc etc. She talked about how much time before, during, and after the wedding her photographer friend puts into her photos, and that she should be tipped because of all the time she puts in, and she sometimes even has to bring in another photographer and pay them. I responded with, well, she should charge accordingly then. If she's under-charging for her time, then that's her fault. But, a tip is still not required. I mentioned that if my own photographer does an excellent job, I might send her a small thank you gift after the work is completed (ie after I get all my pictures).
I also brought up the fact that most people you tip (for example, waitstaff), you tip them after their job is complete, and the tip is to reward them for a job well done. Your photographer's job isn't complete until the photos are delivered. She then said that if the photographer does a bad job, you ask for a refund (ha ha). Then she basically told me I'm a terrible person because I stand by my thoughts that you don't tip a self employed photographer.
So... what do you think? Was in in the wrong, or is she crazy?
Re: Tipping photographer "argument"
You tip a stylist/MUA who doesn't own the business because you know that a portion of what you're paying for their services doesn't go to them but to the owner for their cut and overhead AND they have little to no say in setting the prices. You tip a server because we live in a ridiculous culture where we pay service employees less than minimum wage so they're at the mercy of individual customers to make up the difference, and individual servers don't have the power to negotiate a higher wage or make prices reflect the true cost of labor and overhead.
Those who own their own business have all the discretion in the world to charge as much as they want for their skills and time over and above the cost of overhead and labor. If they are not charging enough to adequately compensate themselves, it's on their own head. A small gift in thanks for a job well down after all of their work is completed is appropriate; tipping is not, and is in my opinion insulting to those who rely on tips to make up where their fees and wages don't adequately compensate them.
I think our culture has gotten a bit ‘tip happy’ these days.
It seems like everyone wants a tip.
Now do not get me wrong, I tip at a restaurant. However, I
do tip based on service. Average =15-20% Above average over that. Total crap
service? Under that % to nothing. And how I define what is average or not
depends on the place. 5 star restaurant? I expect pretty amazing service. Chili’s?
Please keep my diet coke full and I am happy. In these cases it makes sense, the structure is
set up to depend on tips.
However, I do not think that tipping should extend to
everyone in a service industry, especially if they own their own business. I
work in a service industry. I am a consultant. I produce nothing physical, I simply
offer my time and opinion. I work for one of the largest firms in the country
and my clients include Fortune 100 companies. Should I get tipped? Of course
not. I have chosen of my own freewill to work for the salary offered to me by
my company and can leave if at any point I feel I can make more elsewhere.
So tell me. How is that different than a photographer contracted
out to a national firm? I just do not see a big difference. Especially if you
own your own business you should be charging enough for your time. That is just
common sense. There is no hard and fast rule that says each of your clients
will tip so why would you ever build your business model on the HOPE that they
will? You have to build it knowing what you will make and how much you need to
cover costs.
Would I send my photographer or wedding planner a small gift
if they go above and beyond? Of course. But just showing up and doing what is
in your contract is not going above and beyond. That is the minimum amount
agreed to in a written document.