NWR: This Baby Shower Rant on FB

AlexisA01

This is worse than Speshul Snowflake.

A coworker of FSIL is sounding off on her FB page about her baby shower. She is ranting to her guests that showed up and saying nasty really nasty things to "no shows" and using guilt to get gifts from them because they were not there.

"I WILL N E V E R GO OUT MY WAY TO INVITE PEOPLE I BARELY SEE ANYWAY TO A PERSONAL EVENT !!" & "Didn't mean to offend anyone but I know who at least TRIED to come n who didn't "

Some people are commenting that they were not invited and she posted her address saying they can send things her way. She posted all of the things  she got as gifts saying how her "squad has her locked and loading with more gifts coming."  

She planned the event herself and she did her "thank you cards" in the comments. I can not get over how she invited people she barely knows to her baby shower trying to gift grab.

novella1186

novella1186

Wait also, how does this awful bitch even have friends? Let alone facebook friends? Eeeeeeew.

AlexisA01

novella1186 said:

Wait also, how does this awful bitch even have friends? Let alone facebook friends? Eeeeeeew.

My FSIL was going to attend the shower but they called her into work. They work in a hospital but at the same time, she sent a text saying they paged her in. As for the others, I am not sure but there will always be no-shows. WHY would you disrespect people you know by posting about them. It's gross. I don't see how she could have ANY friends left with her outburst on FB, she's channeling the bad side of Cookie from Empire. It's not cute. I will dub her Cookie Snowflake.

sophhabobopha

Fucking why.

themuffinman16

I just don't get people.  They post EVERYTHING on facebook.  I have had ugly thoughts before.  I have jumped to conclusions before I have calmed the hell down and grown the hell up. The difference is, I keep my irrational fleeting thoughts away from others, until i get my temper in check.

  EVERY time I cool down, I realize the situation is never as bad as i initially might have thought it was. Other times, I realized I didn't know the whole situation and it was narrow-sighted and egocentric of me to pass judgement.   EVERY time, I am thankful I waited until calmer winds prevailed. 

   People can see these posts. Everyone knows who they are talking about. And the ones they aren't talking about know it's just a matter of time before they are in the crosshairs of public shaming. It's sad how people treat their friends. Ew.

AlexisA01

themuffinman16 said:

I just don't get people.  They post EVERYTHING on facebook.  I have had ugly thoughts before.  I have jumped to conclusions before I have calmed the hell down and grown the hell up. The difference is, I keep my irrational fleeting thoughts away from others, until i get my temper in check.

  EVERY time I cool down, I realize the situation is never as bad as i initially might have thought it was. Other times, I realized I didn't know the whole situation and it was narrow-sighted and egocentric of me to pass judgement.   EVERY time, I am thankful I waited until calmer winds prevailed. 

   People can see these posts. Everyone knows who they are talking about. And the ones they aren't talking about know it's just a matter of time before they are in the crosshairs of public shaming. It's sad how people treat their friends. Ew.

Exactly! Some times things can be very nerve wrecking or even needing a step back. I guess some people don't care but I can't get over the people bending over in guilt tricks by her. Tacky. I should be sleeping now but the train wreck it's juicy.

themuffinman16

And to me, the passive aggressive route on fb is as speshul as having a fight with a best friend with a megaphone.  It is extremely attention whoreish. NOBODY CARES!!!!  I wish people would get over themselves. 

  If you watch reality tv shows, everyone screams at each other over speakerphone.  That is not how to reality.  They have to use a speakerphone, because it is in their contract, otherwise their show would be pretty boring. In real life, no one wants to or needs to hear that drama. If I have a reason to be legitimately pissed off with someone (and an argument will do any good), they will get a personal invitation to a bitchfest. I like not having witnesses

themuffinman16

Now, if they ripped out my baby from my uterus at said baby shower... I might rant on facebook.

jacques27

I am truly grateful for LiveJournal back when I was in college.  I got the need to display the minutiae of my life, write passive aggressive entries with cryptic "moods", and in generally think I'm speshul done and over with very early on in my life.  I have no desire to go back to that or participate in Facebook.  I really have no idea how anyone over the age of 22* would engage in behavior like that.

*Note:  I'm not saying people 22 or younger act like that as a rule, just that in general I give a pass to those who do act like that AND are that age or under because of the tendency to still be a little self-absorbed at that stage of life still and lacking a non-sheltered life experience.  Usually those who are like that when they are younger get a little self-awareness once it comes time to job search after school, realize it's not that easy out there, and are introduced to a bigger and more diverse population who all have their own problems and baggage.

julieanne912

I'm scared that she will be raising a child.  Maybe once baby comes she will calm down and be normal?

lurkergirl

julieanne912 said:

I'm scared that she will be raising a child.  Maybe once baby comes she will calm down and be normal?

Nope.  Her daughter will be on here in 25 years when we're all really old married hags whining about her bridesmaid with pink hair, cash registries, and her VISION. 

ChemFanatic25

AlexisA01 said:

This is worse than Speshul Snowflake.

A coworker of FSIL is sounding off on her FB page about her baby shower. She is ranting to her guests that showed up and saying nasty really nasty things to "no shows" and using guilt to get gifts from them because they were not there.

"I WILL N E V E R GO OUT MY WAY TO INVITE PEOPLE I BARELY SEE ANYWAY TO A PERSONAL EVENT !!" & "Didn't mean to offend anyone but I know who at least TRIED to come n who didn't "

Some people are commenting that they were not invited and she posted her address saying they can send things her way. She posted all of the things  she got as gifts saying how her "squad has her locked and loading with more gifts coming."  

She planned the event herself and she did her "thank you cards" in the comments. I can not get over how she invited people she barely knows to her baby shower trying to gift grab.

Jeez, how did people respond? The ones that were invited but didn't attend? This sounds like craziness.

climbingsingle

That is bananas!

I had a former friend do something similar. Her SIL threw her a baby shower. I wasn't able to make it because I had a wedding the same day at the same time. I let the hostess know (it was a surprise and my friend didn't know about the shower) and I planned to bring her a gift the next day or so. Well, the day after her shower, she posted on Facebook calling out all the people that couldn't make it. She basically said anyone that couldn't be there was an asshole and she now knew who her friends were. She said some other things that were pretty disgusting. So I returned her gift and stopped speaking to her.

RebeccaB88

novella1186 said:

Wait also, how does this awful bitch even have friends? Let alone facebook friends? Eeeeeeew.

Bet she won't anymore after this...

AlexisA01

ChemFanatic25 said:

AlexisA01 said:

This is worse than Speshul Snowflake.

A coworker of FSIL is sounding off on her FB page about her baby shower. She is ranting to her guests that showed up and saying nasty really nasty things to "no shows" and using guilt to get gifts from them because they were not there.

"I WILL N E V E R GO OUT MY WAY TO INVITE PEOPLE I BARELY SEE ANYWAY TO A PERSONAL EVENT !!" & "Didn't mean to offend anyone but I know who at least TRIED to come n who didn't "

Some people are commenting that they were not invited and she posted her address saying they can send things her way. She posted all of the things  she got as gifts saying how her "squad has her locked and loading with more gifts coming."  

She planned the event herself and she did her "thank you cards" in the comments. I can not get over how she invited people she barely knows to her baby shower trying to gift grab.

Jeez, how did people respond? The ones that were invited but didn't attend? This sounds like craziness.

They felt bad someone posted they thought it was next month side she isn't due to June or late May. So far nobody has called her out on her outburst. Everybody is given in and telling her they are sending her stuff and asking for the registry.

@climbingwife She did the exact same thing. She posted she KNOWS who her real friends are and she will never invite people she barely knows. I still can't get out that she thinks her baby is the most important thing to other people and how she wants gifts from people.

I got an update; people who came to the shower that didn't bring gifts are suppose to bring gifts. Well she didn't use people she used her slang N word that she is always using.

kmbay84

themuffinman16 said:

I just don't get people.  They post EVERYTHING on facebook.  I have had ugly thoughts before.  I have jumped to conclusions before I have calmed the hell down and grown the hell up. The difference is, I keep my irrational fleeting thoughts away from others, until i get my temper in check.

  EVERY time I cool down, I realize the situation is never as bad as i initially might have thought it was. Other times, I realized I didn't know the whole situation and it was narrow-sighted and egocentric of me to pass judgement.   EVERY time, I am thankful I waited until calmer winds prevailed. 

   People can see these posts. Everyone knows who they are talking about. And the ones they aren't talking about know it's just a matter of time before they are in the crosshairs of public shaming. It's sad how people treat their friends. Ew.

I second, third, fourth, fifth, and sixth everything you said!  Especially the bolded!  I just don't get it either!  Like you said, everyone can see and they know who they are talking about.  Why can't people be mature and actually TALK to each other if they are upset rather than this passive-aggressive bull crap just to make feel the high of that jab on someone?! Argh!

kmbay84

themuffinman16 said:

And to me, the passive aggressive route on fb is as speshul as having a fight with a best friend with a megaphone.  It is extremely attention whoreish. NOBODY CARES!!!!  I wish people would get over themselves. 

  If you watch reality tv shows, everyone screams at each other over speakerphone.  That is not how to reality.  They have to use a speakerphone, because it is in their contract, otherwise their show would be pretty boring. In real life, no one wants to or needs to hear that drama. If I have a reason to be legitimately pissed off with someone (and an argument will do any good), they will get a personal invitation to a bitchfest. I like not having witnesses

Exactly this as well!  Argh!!