So I know some people feel it's rude to pick a date that's close to a sibling, or other close friend or family member's wedding date. Other people think it's selfish and petty to worry about. From an etiquette standpoint though, what do you think?
I have been planning my wedding in Aug. for a few months now. My sister has been engaged much longer than me, but didn't start getting serious about planning a wedding until just recently. My mom thinks all my wedding talk kind of gave her a kick in the butt to get going on it. At first she was thinking next year. Like me, she wants to get married somewhere on a waterfront. That didn't bother me. We have similar taste I guess. Like me, she wants her color to be purple. I know we both have the same favorite color, so that didn't bother me either. But now she wants to do her wedding sometime in the next month after mine instead of next year.
At first. this didn't bother me either. I didn't think anything of it. When I told my fiance' and his mom about it though, they thought it was rude. They said this is my special time, and now I have to share it. They pointed out that everyone is going to be comparing our weddings, especially since they will have some big similarities, and some guests won't be crazy about doing two weddings for one family back to back like this. Some won't want to come to both weddings, and they might downsize their gift spending limits for us both.
These points seem a little petty, but at the same time they do have a point. What do you guys think? Is my sister being rude or improper?