Any truth (or tips) to saying it's your honeymoon for sweet perks?

peachy13

Honeymoon is booked, yay! People keep telling us to "tell them it's your honeymoon." Any truth to this or is that just in the movies? And if it's legit, how do I coolly mention it's my honeymoon without sounding like Monica and Chandler? 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5g9OkhbcR80

katiekessler123

I wore my super corny bride tank top when we were on the airplane to our honeymoon.  We got champagne on the airplane and they upgraded us to the nicest suite at our resort...I'd say it was worth it!

mikenberger

We got a honeymoon package for our resort in Mexico, so they'll know we're already on our honeymoon But if it gets you a better seat on an airline, sure. Why not? I wouldn't just arbitrarily just "Hey, it's my honeymoon. Free stuff? Whatcha got?" 

theartistformerlyknownas

The flight attendant on the plain to Barcelona sneaked us some free booze but that was it. Nobody else cared. 

sal2015

I've been kind of thinking about this too. Our wedding is two weeks from tomorrow and we leave for the honeymoon the Tuesday after (ridiculously early in the morning). I'm not sure how to do it without obnoxiously saying "It's our honeymoon" constantly.

ETA that obnoxiously announcing is the only way I can think of... not advising doing that and won't be doing that myself!

ashley8918

lolo883 said:

The flight attendant on the plain to Barcelona sneaked us some free booze but that was it. Nobody else cared. 

Yep. A nice winery lady gave us a few extra glasses at one of our wine tastings, but that was it. 

And the only reason that she knew it was are honeymoon was because she specifically asked what brought us to lovely MI (after she noticed our IL IDs). I wouldn't have (obnoxiously) brought it up out of nowhere otherwise.

holyguacamole79

When you make reservations, there is often a section for comments; put it there.  On our wedding night, we got upgraded to a whirlpool suite..  We got room service dessert on our actual honeymoon.  We also put it in our online dinner reservations recently for our 2nd anniversary, and we got free desserts at both restaurants.  

Maggie0829

We never mentioned it was our HM unless specifically asked.  And we were rarely, if at all, asked.

To me a HM is a vacation and I don't really see why people deserve special treatment and freebies for something that thousands of people do on a daily basis, which is get married.

theartistformerlyknownas

I think it depends where you go, too. Resort where nearly everyone is on their honeymoon? They probably have a standard free dessert or something they give you but not much more than that because it's old news. Places with a language barrier might not care so much. Someplace where it's actually a novelty, you'll probably have better luck.

ashley8918

Maggie0829 said:

We never mentioned it was our HM unless specifically asked.  And we were rarely, if at all, asked.

To me a HM is a vacation and I don't really see why people deserve special treatment and freebies for something that thousands of people do on a daily basis, which is get married.

Yes, this. Don't be obnoxious.

southernbelle0915

We went to a pretty offbeat town where it was obvious we were tourists. So shop owners and restaurant people would be like "What brings you here?" and we'd tell them we were honeymooning. We got free desserts, drinks, and stuff. The town greeter even paid us a visit...lol. Again, small town off the beaten path. 

We never straight up announced ourselves as honeymooners though. That's pretty obnoxious. If I were working I'd be much happier/likely to give people free shit if they don't expect it or act like they're entitled to it.

ashley8918

holyguacamole79 said:

When you make reservations, there is often a section for comments; put it there.  On our wedding night, we got upgraded to a whirlpool suite..  We got room service dessert on our actual honeymoon.  We also put it in our online dinner reservations recently for our 2nd anniversary, and we got free desserts at both restaurants.  

OP, I would suggest not doing this. Likely, they will just eye roll at your entitlement.

Casadena

Ditto PP's.  We got free drinks at a couple different bars because the bartender asked what brought us to Florida when we showed him our ID's.  But we didn't advertise it otherwise

holyguacamole79

ashley8918 said:

holyguacamole79 said:

When you make reservations, there is often a section for comments; put it there.  On our wedding night, we got upgraded to a whirlpool suite..  We got room service dessert on our actual honeymoon.  We also put it in our online dinner reservations recently for our 2nd anniversary, and we got free desserts at both restaurants.  

OP, I would suggest not doing this. Likely, they will just eye roll at your entitlement.

I didn't see the eye roll, but I saw the jaccuzzi.  And damn it felt good.

ashley8918

holyguacamole79 said:

ashley8918 said:

holyguacamole79 said:

When you make reservations, there is often a section for comments; put it there.  On our wedding night, we got upgraded to a whirlpool suite..  We got room service dessert on our actual honeymoon.  We also put it in our online dinner reservations recently for our 2nd anniversary, and we got free desserts at both restaurants.  

OP, I would suggest not doing this. Likely, they will just eye roll at your entitlement.

I didn't see the eye roll, but I saw the jaccuzzi.  And damn it felt good.

holyguacamole79

ashley8918 said:

holyguacamole79 said:

ashley8918 said:

holyguacamole79 said:

When you make reservations, there is often a section for comments; put it there.  On our wedding night, we got upgraded to a whirlpool suite..  We got room service dessert on our actual honeymoon.  We also put it in our online dinner reservations recently for our 2nd anniversary, and we got free desserts at both restaurants.  

OP, I would suggest not doing this. Likely, they will just eye roll at your entitlement.

I didn't see the eye roll, but I saw the jaccuzzi.  And damn it felt good.

Pretty much.  H got to eat some leftover dinner and I was all

ashley8918

holyguacamole79 said:

ashley8918 said:

holyguacamole79 said:

ashley8918 said:

holyguacamole79 said:

When you make reservations, there is often a section for comments; put it there.  On our wedding night, we got upgraded to a whirlpool suite..  We got room service dessert on our actual honeymoon.  We also put it in our online dinner reservations recently for our 2nd anniversary, and we got free desserts at both restaurants.  

OP, I would suggest not doing this. Likely, they will just eye roll at your entitlement.

I didn't see the eye roll, but I saw the jaccuzzi.  And damn it felt good.

Pretty much.  H got to eat some leftover dinner and I was all

kaitlynmichelle

We didn't get any perks. I did mention it to one place we stayed in Jasper since we based our honeymoon location on their resort. We stayed there 4 years before our wedding and had been dreaming of returning.

She literally didn't even smile or care. And we ended up having lot of issues with our cabin we rented and they still didn't care. I was pretty upset that for years we had dreams of returning to this awesome place and then got terrible service. We aren't entitled to anything being on our honeymoon but she seriously couldn't have cared less.

We did get free coffees from one place, but I think it made more to do with the fact we ate there almost every day on our honeymoon and got to know the locals in there (and tipped very well). But hey, free coffee. And that lady that served us most days was so cool.

Junebug2015

I ask for upgrades from airlines all the time, so I don't think there's any harm in seeing if you can get a bump to first class. Also, in the hospitality industry most places like giving out upgrades because it's free good PR for them ("I went to x resort/restaurant for my honeymoon and they were so great!!"). I wouldn't expect anyone to comp your dinner or entire stay, but I think it can get you some free dessert/drinks or a better room. Just don't be obnoxious about it.

KatieinBkln

I would oddly feel completely fine about asking about upgrades at the airport, but would be too embarrassed to do so anywhere else.

ohannabelle

Former airline employee. 

I never rolled my eyes at people mentioning they were honeymooning, or asking about upgrades.

I assumed they were excited and happy, and letting me know it was a special occasion. I'd note the record, because sure, the FA might buy them a drink or two, just to say congratulations. And yep, I bumped people to preferred seats whenever possible, because why not? I didn't see it as entitled. 

To be fair, most people didn't have to mention it. I was one of those people that asked if you were traveling for business or vacation, or said, oooh, Paris or Puerto Vallarta or wherever, nice destination! And so the subject came up naturally. 

(Fair warning: the odds of getting a free upgrade to first on an international flight are about zero to not. For many reasons. But you might well get moved to preferred seating with more leg room and recline. Domestically, better odds.)

It never hurts to ask politely. Like this: "Are there any last minute sort of specials or discounts on upgrades? We're on our honeymoon, so I thought we might splurge a little, if it's affordable." That never offended me. 

theartistformerlyknownas

KatieinBkln said:

I would oddly feel completely fine about asking about upgrades at the airport, but would be too embarrassed to do so anywhere else.

Yeah I think airport is pretty fair game, because EVERYONE asks if there are upgrades before boarding. It's not even about being your HM or not, it's just what you do. 

For us, the flight attendant asked how we were doing and we were like "REALLY AWESOME WE JUST GOT MARRIED AND WE'RE GOING ON OUR HONEYMOON!!!!!!11!!!1!" because we had left the very next day and were legitimately that excited. So she got us some vodka for bloody marys (it was an overnight flight). 

We asked the desk at the hotel if there were any upgraded rooms available and she looked at us like we had 2 heads each. OK so that's a "no" then. A few people asked "so what brings you to Spain?" and we said we were there on HM but nothing came of it, which is totally fine.

plainjane0415

This isn't honeymoon related, but because we are having a destination wedding...

I'm planning on wearing a bride t shirt of some sort when we go to the airport in hopes of getting to go through the express security line.  Hopefully that and toting my wedding dress on the plane with me will work.

ETA:  If I can get bumped to the express line, AND have a flight attendant hang my dress in their coat closet, I'll be happy as a clam.

 

littlemushroom

We got upgraded to a suite for free at a hotel we stopped at on our road trip back to IL from FL. The desk guy asked us why we were travelling, so we told him for our honeymoon. He was so excited for us and upgraded us on the spot.

Dreamergirl8812

I am not the type to ask for free stuff, and we just paid ahead of time for first class and other upgrades, but it's far from "obnoxious" to try to get honeymoon perks. Calm yourself.

ashley8918 said:

Maggie0829 said:

We never mentioned it was our HM unless specifically asked.  And we were rarely, if at all, asked.

To me a HM is a vacation and I don't really see why people deserve special treatment and freebies for something that thousands of people do on a daily basis, which is get married.

Yes, this. Don't be obnoxious.

katiekessler123

I think it's a pretty harmless thing to mention, especially if it somewhat naturally comes up. Worst thing that happens is nothing. Best thing that happens is you get an upgrade!  My husband was thrilled when we got upgraded to a huge suite and it set the tone for our whole honeymoon.  Wearing a bride tank top was totally worth that.

blabla89

katiekessler123 said:

I think it's a pretty harmless thing to mention, especially if it somewhat naturally comes up. Worst thing that happens is nothing. Best thing that happens is you get an upgrade!  My husband was thrilled when we got upgraded to a huge suite and it set the tone for our whole honeymoon.  Wearing a bride tank top was totally worth that.

Guess I better get on etsy and find me one of those...

ETA: no work is getting done this afternoon.

katiekessler123

ha...I think my mom bought it from good old Target.

labro

We got zero flight upgrades and we mentioned it was our honeymoon to anyone we could. No one cared. Luckily we got free alcohol because of Delta's new international flight policies, and we had already paid for their Economy Confort seating.

Our hotel upgraded us to a nicer room for free when we mentioned it though. There really wasn't any other point on our honeymoon where it made sense to mention it so we could get an upgrade or special treatment.

photokitty

I think it depends where you are going. When I went Sandals for my first wedding HM, we were;t offered any upgrades, but EVERYONE was on their honeymoon. All week I only met one couple that wasn't on their HM. There were at least 2 other couples on our plane going on their HM, we sat with them on the shuttle so that's how we knew.

When DH and I went to Maine for our HM we got all kinds of perks bc we were the only ones on a HM. People we pretty tickled that we came to Maine for our HM. They upgraded our rental to a convertible, we got a hotel upgrade and free desserts at some of our dinners.

We never asked for anything, when they asked "what brings you to Maine?" or "are you celebrating anything special tonight?" we gave them the honest answer. Same deal as telling the waiter "it's my birthday" if they ask if you are celebrating something. The only time I used the HM card for an ask was for early check in. They couldn't do it, but held our stuff behind the desk, so we were pleased.

ashley8918

Dreamergirl8812 said:

I am not the type to ask for free stuff, and we just paid ahead of time for first class and other upgrades, but it's far from "obnoxious" to try to get honeymoon perks. Calm yourself.

ashley8918 said:

Maggie0829 said:

We never mentioned it was our HM unless specifically asked.  And we were rarely, if at all, asked.

To me a HM is a vacation and I don't really see why people deserve special treatment and freebies for something that thousands of people do on a daily basis, which is get married.

Yes, this. Don't be obnoxious.

Lol, I'm perfectly calm, but thanks for your concern.

You not finding something obnoxious doesn't actually matter since it's pretty subjective. I find little yappy dogs obnoxious, for example. You might not. THIS MAKES ME SO UNCALM.