Looking for advice on how to make her the most comfortable. "Ask her what she needs," you may say...but we've already done that and she said absolutely nothing (which every woman since the beginning of time knows is complete bull when you're 6-7 months). To add, her pregnancy is already complicated, as she's been hospitalized multiple times.
Is there anything I can do to make her day more comfortable and manageable??? In addition, we really don't get along, not for lack of trying, but she's never really liked me. (For some real perspective, I was the designated dog babysitter at her wedding last year). SO, extra kudos for any tips on handling that particular type of future sister-in-law who constantly pushes herself, will be at the tail end of a complicated pregnancy. Thanks in advance!!
Re: HELP my future sister-in-law will be in her third trimester at our wedding!
And then I'd stay out of it. When all is said and done, there is nothing you can do about the fact that she may choose to travel to a DW close to her time where medical help that she may need may not be available. It's her pregnancy, her body, and their baby, and it's up to them to work things out like adults without your involvement.
ETA and really... kindly knock off the bull that she'll definitely need some kind of special treatment. Not every woman does at 6-7 months or ever. Even if she's been hospitalized already, it's not uncommon to be hospitalized early and be completely fine through months 6-7. Those are often said to be among the easiest months of pregnancy! She's not handicapped, she's pregnant. Let her make her own calls.
I'm not even touching the rest of your bullshit.
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
Listen, I don't know who the fuck you are, and honestly don't care to. But your perceptions are seriously jacked.
Insisting on providing special treatment to someone who has refused it, even if she still maintains a choice in accepting it or not, IS INSULTING. She doesn't want to be treated like a leper just because she's (gasp!) PREGNANT. She probably won't even come; she doesn't even like you! There is nothing you need to provide a pregnant woman above what you provide to other guests - a seat for the duration of the event, shelter from all elements, ample refreshments and meals suitable for the time of day and safe for their dietary needs.
Get over yourself. You're not a damn martyr.
She's a grown ass woman. Tell her to her know if there's anything she needs then shut the fuck up and get the fuck out of her uterus.
She doesn't want a gift. Accept that and move on with your life, instead of insisting that you need to find make a list of gift ideas. She doesn't need a gift just because she's your sister-in-law.
However, if you really must get gifts for those closest to you, maybe just get her something she would like apart from being pregnant. I'm about 5 months pregnant right now and I would not want that to define me.
You can stop taking gigantic leaps and making generalizations about "people who spend a lot of time on message boards" now.
This is your wedding. She's not going to think it's the most glorious thing ever be cause it's not her fucking wedding.
If you want to thank her for coming because she's coming fine. Buy her a nice gift that's got fuck all to do with her being pregnant. But if you're only doing because she's pregnant you're doing it for the wrong reasons.
Also...what the fuck are you talking about all of our destination weddings? A lot of us here didn't have destination weddings.
FTFY.
FYI, those of us with high post counts do so by developing friendships with people here. That is not in the cards for you.