I've heard of lingerie showers, but this is NOT what I had. Both my showers were just regular ones. Definitely did not want lingerie.
My mom mentioned a few months ago that she was considering getting me lingerie as my shower gift so I could wear it on my honeymoon. Um... no. I immediately shut that down because 1. I really don't want to wear something sexy that my MOM gave me-- to me that's really weird, 2. I don't even like lingerie. I already own more than I need and I never wear it, and 3. I do not want to open fucking lingerie in front of FI's mom and my grandma and whoever else. Maybe I'm being uptight but that's really awkward to me.
Well, apparently I didn't get the point across very well because my mom gave me lingerie at my shower a couple weeks ago. It was weird and awkward, and I will never wear the damn thing but there's no gift receipt. So... cool. My best friend was sitting next to me when I opened it and even she was like "WTF?! That's so awkward!" and my sister did a face-palm.
Fast-forward to this weekend and my FSIL and FMIL threw me a shower (which was awesome!) At the end, FMIL handed me a gift from her. It was fucking lingerie. All the other gifts I got at both showers were kitchen stuff or house stuff. At no point did I say or even imply that I would like lingerie. So once again I had to open this in front of the moms and grandmas (and the dads this time! cuz this was a couples shower), and pretend to like it. It's definitely not a thing I would ever wear and again, no gift receipt. And I have to say, it's even more awkward to me that this time it came from FMIL. Like, "Here's something sexy to wear so you can fuck my son! Enjoy!" Ugh.
In the grand scheme of things, it's really not a big deal. Just made me slightly uncomfortable for a minute or two, be also made me question why both moms did this. Is this a common thing or some sort of tradition that I'm not aware of? Is it normal for moms to want you to own lingerie or something? I'm confused. Has anyone else seen this? Would you get someone a gift like this for a shower that is not a lingerie shower? I really don't get it.
Re: Lingerie for the shower? Is this a thing?
Our moms are just crazy apparently lol. Sorry you had to deal with that in front of all those people.... Twice. I'm glad it was just me there, mortified. Lol.
I would not have liked that one bit. It made me very uncomfortable.
I think your Mom/MIL meant well but I would be a little mortified if I opened something like that in front of the wrong crowd. It didn't phase me that my mom got me "something pretty" (in her words) but I would have HATED to receive something like that from my MIL.
I think it's an old school thought process for that kind of stuff, but thinking more like silky nightgown as opposed to sexy lingerie. But I can't say I've seen anyone give that kind of stuff in the past 10+ years so who knows.
When FI were debating a registry or not and I'd mentioned friends wanted to do a shower he's like well they could just get you lingerie or something. And I was like uhhh no that is NOT a thing anymore, but he actually thought it was.
I've shared this story before but it fits. Back in college, my big sis from my sorority was getting married and so 2 of us were invited to her shower. We had never been to a shower before and thought you were supposed to do lingerie and stuff. I don't remember if they had a registry or maybe we didn't even know about those. We went to Macy's and bought some silk nighty thingie (not slutty though) and something else and then thought well I think you're supposed to do something fun too so we went to an adult store and bought edible underwear and something else random. Everyone else bought kitchen and decorating stuff LOL. Fortunately her family is fun and laid back and thought it was great (I'd be mortified with my family) but yea apparently we didn't really know the difference between bridal showers and bachelorette parties.
I haven't had a shower yet so nothing awkward there, but two awkward moments with my mom regarding lingerie. The first one was right around when I moved in with FI I went to her house and she said she bought something that was the wrong size but would probably fit me. I was excited since half my wardrobe has come to me this way. She came back out with some black see through thing.
It was weird enough that my mom was giving me lingerie. It was mortifying that my sister's bf and my brothers friend were both their. The fact that this was something she bought for herself and therefore to wear for my dad made me wanna die right there in the living room.
The second is ongoing, but not close to as bad. Every year for Christmas she buys all us kids pajamas. The last two times she has told us that even though they are just cute comfy pajamas she picked them based on what she thought FI would enjoy seeing me in. One pair came with a pair of shorts that barely cover my ass in addition to the normal pants. A different pair the button up top didn't button up past the boobs and she made a big point that I could just wear it with cute panties and nothing else.
Might have been worth it just for that.
One of FI's GM's wife bought me an apron and a "matching" pair of undies for my shower gift. Luckily she warned me in advance that I might want to open the second part in advance. I embarrass really easily, and this was at a shower thrown by my very conservative FMIL/FSIL and attended by a bunch of women from our church including the pastor's wife. I can only imagine how that would have gone! Sort of awkward because I don't know this woman very well...and made MORE awkward by her later asking my FI if I'd found the second part of the gift and telling him to enjoy!
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