My best friend is getting married this June and I am the MOH and she also has a Man-OH. The Man-OH is pretty flaky, great and creative when you get him to focus but not good at following through with plans. Him and I are also friends. I have tried a number of times to get a hold of him to ask questions about planning the bachelorette party and most times we have shared messages, it has taken him days to respond to me if he responds at all. He has not RSVP'd to the bridal shower or wedding yet (so the bride is annoyed with him) and has not coordinated with the MOB regarding the shower while I have taken care of shower games. The bride recently decided to switch the date of her bachelorette party from Memorial Day weekend to the following one and he has yet to weigh in on this decision (she put it to a vote). I have been holding off posting any official event info on a Facebook invite until I get him involved because I don't want him to feel left out or get mad that I am 'taking over' or anything but he has not responded to my plea for suggestions on what to put on the invite or any design. We have loose plans to look at some places for the party when I am in town later this month but I have been doing background research and planning a bride-approved itinerary. I am afraid I will offend him by having created the potential itinerary and making some decisions with the bride but he hasn't involved himself. I could email him the itinerary the bride has approved but I am not sure if there is anything else I can do to make sure his feelings aren't hurt yet this planning still gets done.
I should mention that he lives about 1.5 hours away from the bride while I live across the country and am planning to attend all events. (MOB planned the bridal shower on a weekend I'd be in town for my future SIL's wedding, which was nice of her).