Knotties, assemble!

theartistformerlyknownas

*poof*

mikenberger

Facebook is blocked here at work but I'll imagine the ignorance. 

emmaaa

Ew.

theartistformerlyknownas

It's bad. The radio host was even saying "maybe if you have another registry too, but also say something like 'in lieu of a gift, we'd love for you to contribute to our honeymoon! But we appreciate your presence and anything else you choose to give us.'" NO!

onefootinthebayou

Actually, a lot of commenters (including me) answered the question "Is it tacky to ask for honeymoon funds?" in the affirmative.  There were a lot more Yes responses than No.  There's hope!  

emmaaa

lolo883 said:

It's bad. The radio host was even saying "maybe if you have another registry too, but also say something like 'in lieu of a gift, we'd love for you to contribute to our honeymoon! But we appreciate your presence and anything else you choose to give us.'" NO!

A talk show I listen to on the way to work had some sort of wedding topic a few weeks back and a lot of callers were saying having "no children" listed on the invitations was a good idea!

littlepep

I like this quote: You get what you get and you don't throw a fit! 

onefootinthebayou: There's hope!

southernbelle0915

You should call in, lolo. Balance the scales with reason.

Maggie0829

lolo883 said:

It's bad. The radio host was even saying "maybe if you have another registry too, but also say something like 'in lieu of a gift, we'd love for you to contribute to our honeymoon! But we appreciate your presence and anything else you choose to give us.'" NO!

I hate that wording for situations like this.  Hate it so much!  How is giving money towards the HM 'in lieu of a gift'?  That contribution is a gift!!  

jenna8984

Ugh! A few days ago on the radio here they were talking about bringing a date and people were calling in giving the "It's so expensive- I can't be giving my friends plus ones or let their significant others come" and even so many people called on the flip side to say "I understand how expensive it is, so I'm not mad that my boyfriend is not invited". WUT.

theartistformerlyknownas

southernbelle0915 said:

You should call in, lolo. Balance the scales with reason.

I couldn't call because I needed my phone for directions, but I texted from a red light! Glad to see the fb posts are swinging more toward common sense than the callers and hosts. It started out so well, the initial letter writer and one host both thought it was tacky, then the other host convinced the first! She was all "this may be your only chance to get to Hawaii, and you deserve to go right away instead of waiting to save up. If that's what you want, who am I to judge?!" UGH.

littlepep

lolo883 said:

You should call in, lolo. Balance the scales with reason.

I couldn't call because I needed my phone for directions, but I texted from a red light! Glad to see the fb posts are swinging more toward common sense than the callers and hosts. It started out so well, the initial letter writer and one host both thought it was tacky, then the other host convinced the first! She was all "this may be your only chance to get to Hawaii, and you deserve to go right away instead of waiting to save up. If that's what you want, who am I to judge?!" UGH.

A whole lot of nope. Why do you deserve it??? Because you're so speshul?!?

larrygaga

The responses that are most liked are looking much better

flutteringinfl

lolo883 said:

You should call in, lolo. Balance the scales with reason.

I couldn't call because I needed my phone for directions, but I texted from a red light! Glad to see the fb posts are swinging more toward common sense than the callers and hosts. It started out so well, the initial letter writer and one host both thought it was tacky, then the other host convinced the first! She was all "this may be your only chance to get to Hawaii, and you deserve to go right away instead of waiting to save up. If that's what you want, who am I to judge?!" UGH.

I don't understand this sense of entitlement. You know "treat yo'self" is a joke on Parks and Rec, right?

I don't know how y'all listen to the radio without breaking it in a fit of rage. I couldn't handle all that SS attitude on a regular basis.

flantastic

flutteringinfl said:

lolo883 said:

You should call in, lolo. Balance the scales with reason.

I couldn't call because I needed my phone for directions, but I texted from a red light! Glad to see the fb posts are swinging more toward common sense than the callers and hosts. It started out so well, the initial letter writer and one host both thought it was tacky, then the other host convinced the first! She was all "this may be your only chance to get to Hawaii, and you deserve to go right away instead of waiting to save up. If that's what you want, who am I to judge?!" UGH.

I don't understand this sense of entitlement. You know "treat yo'self" is a joke on Parks and Rec, right?

I don't know how y'all listen to the radio without breaking it in a fit of rage. I couldn't handle all that SS attitude on a regular basis.

Also, with "treat yo'self" Tom and Donna never expect anyone else to pay for their fancy shit. Because they are adults, making the decision to plan to treat themselves. Which is what you need to do if you want to go to Hawaii.

thespeshulestsnowflake

@lolo883 I listen to Blaine and Allison. I like them, but they give the WORST wedding advise. Before I switched jobs, their "Wedding Wednesday" would be on during my commute (I miss it now). I would cringe every time.

Another station talked about a new trend in weddings. Standing Receptions! *Gag*

flutteringinfl

flantastic said:

flutteringinfl said:

lolo883 said:

You should call in, lolo. Balance the scales with reason.

I couldn't call because I needed my phone for directions, but I texted from a red light! Glad to see the fb posts are swinging more toward common sense than the callers and hosts. It started out so well, the initial letter writer and one host both thought it was tacky, then the other host convinced the first! She was all "this may be your only chance to get to Hawaii, and you deserve to go right away instead of waiting to save up. If that's what you want, who am I to judge?!" UGH.

I don't understand this sense of entitlement. You know "treat yo'self" is a joke on Parks and Rec, right?

I don't know how y'all listen to the radio without breaking it in a fit of rage. I couldn't handle all that SS attitude on a regular basis.

Also, with "treat yo'self" Tom and Donna never expect anyone else to pay for their fancy shit. Because they are adults, making the decision to plan to treat themselves. Which is what you need to do if you want to go to Hawaii.


You're right! You deserve to "treat yo'self" if you have the means to do so, but you don't deserve it just because you really, really want it.

redoryx

One of the comments is "for those saying it's tacky to ask for anything, it's even more tacky to show up to a wedding empty handed."

Because guests can't be counted on to write checks or give you cash in a card. OKAY THEN.

sarawifenow

I will never understand why people think that honeyfunds are a good idea.

climbingsingle

Oh FFS 

Sandra Wilkins

This question hits home. I am planning a wedding for next year. We are both in our mid 30's. We are both single parents of 1 girl each. Our home is all set. We want to take a family honeymoon to Walt Disney world since all of us have never been. I plan to include a note to guests. The letter will state that their presence is a gift yo us but if they wish to bless us with a gift that family friendly gifts would be prefered. Such as memberships to zoos, musuem or parks. I will ask a member from each side to collect donations for honeymoon. I am not a materialistic person and neither is my fiancee. Spending time as a family with our girls means the world to us and that is a gift we will always cherish.

JCbride2015

Sandra Wilkins

This question hits home. I am planning a wedding for next year. We are both in our mid 30's. We are both single parents of 1 girl each. Our home is all set. We want to take a family honeymoon to Walt Disney world since all of us have never been. I plan to include a note to guests. The letter will state that their presence is a gift yo us but if they wish to bless us with a gift that family friendly gifts would be prefered. Such as memberships to zoos, musuem or parks. I will ask a member from each side to collect donations for honeymoon. I am not a materialistic person and neither is my fiancee. Spending time as a family with our girls means the world to us and that is a gift we will always cherish.

VulgarGirl

I deserve a benz. For reasons. Someone please send me one in lieu of a gift.

arrippa

This is why I listen to music and not talk radio.

climbingwife said:

Oh FFS 

Sandra Wilkins

This question hits home. I am planning a wedding for next year. We are both in our mid 30's. We are both single parents of 1 girl each. Our home is all set. We want to take a family honeymoon to Walt Disney world since all of us have never been. I plan to include a note to guests. The letter will state that their presence is a gift yo us but if they wish to bless us with a gift that family friendly gifts would be prefered. Such as memberships to zoos, musuem or parks. I will ask a member from each side to collect donations for honeymoon. I am not a materialistic person and neither is my fiancee. Spending time as a family with our girls means the world to us and that is a gift we will always cherish.

The bolded sounds materialistic to me.

Cookie Pusher

Every day, I lost a little more faith in humanity...

flutteringinfl

redoryx said:

One of the comments is "for those saying it's tacky to ask for anything, it's even more tacky to show up to a wedding empty handed."

Because guests can't be counted on to write checks or give you cash in a card. OKAY THEN.

NO IT'S BLOODY WELL NOT.

littlepep

redoryx said:

One of the comments is "for those saying it's tacky to ask for anything, it's even more tacky to show up to a wedding empty handed."

Because guests can't be counted on to write checks or give you cash in a card. OKAY THEN.

I saw that too. Ugh. 

southernbelle0915

I deserve a benz. For reasons. Someone please send me one in lieu of a gift.

This. I also deserve a benz and vacations to exotic destinations. 

So I want all my guests to know that, because I expect y'all to give me presents, please make it cash so that I can get these things that I deserve.

NowIAmSyp

climbingwife said:

Oh FFS 

Sandra Wilkins

This question hits home. I am planning a wedding for next year. We are both in our mid 30's. We are both single parents of 1 girl each. Our home is all set. We want to take a family honeymoon to Walt Disney world since all of us have never been. I plan to include a note to guests. The letter will state that their presence is a gift yo us but if they wish to bless us with a gift that family friendly gifts would be prefered. Such as memberships to zoos, musuem or parks. I will ask a member from each side to collect donations for honeymoon. I am not a materialistic person and neither is my fiancee. Spending time as a family with our girls means the world to us and that is a gift we will always cherish.

Good grief!

I am picturing them walking around the reception with boxes, like they do when collecting church donations, lol.

Ugh!

redoryx

arrippa said:

This is why I listen to music and not talk radio.

climbingwife said:

Oh FFS 

Sandra Wilkins

This question hits home. I am planning a wedding for next year. We are both in our mid 30's. We are both single parents of 1 girl each. Our home is all set. We want to take a family honeymoon to Walt Disney world since all of us have never been. I plan to include a note to guests. The letter will state that their presence is a gift yo us but if they wish to bless us with a gift that family friendly gifts would be prefered. Such as memberships to zoos, musuem or parks. I will ask a member from each side to collect donations for honeymoon. I am not a materialistic person and neither is my fiancee. Spending time as a family with our girls means the world to us and that is a gift we will always cherish.

The bolded sounds materialistic to me.

Duh, they are asking for experiences, not money to pay for those experiences so it's totes different.

novella1186

FI and I are not materialistic at all. We have more important values than that. So please do not give us gifts. We do not expect a thing for you. Just give us all your cash. Kthanks. 

princessofgenovia

It's been suggested to us that we set up a honeyfund because we don't "really need" household stuff and we "deserve" a nice honeymoon.

Actually...we do need household stuff. Most of our stuff is 3rd or 4th hand stuff, we'd like some new stuff. 

I was telling someone who was trying to sell us on the honeyfund that if anyone would like to give us money they were of course welcome to and we might put that to a honeymoon. I was then informed that people hate giving money as a gift and there'd be no guarantee we'd use it on a honeymoon. We might use it for something boring. I tried explaining how honeyfunds work but...sometimes you just have to know when to shut up. This was a shut up time.