FB Rant

lyndausvi

So apparently my almost-17 year old niece has been dumped by her cheating  boyfriend.

How I found out was via my SIL on FB.

WTF?  Why would she do that?

 I love my sister, brother/SIL (other one).   They only thing the post about their kids (the same age) are holiday pictures and a happy birthday.  They respect their kids.  The do not post anything about their grades (good or bad), health, relationship information.  Nothing.   If the kids want the FB world to know they will post it themselves.

I get it, this SIL is hurting because her daughter is hurting.   But FB is not the correct venue to vent on things that are your really daughter's issues to have to deal with.

I have not seen anything posted from my niece.   I think that is a sign she isn't interested in the FB world knowing.

JCbride2015

Ouch, your poor neice. Her mom needs to stay out of it!

JennyColada

I would be mortified if my parents posted anything about my relationship status. I mean, it even made me feel a little weird for my mom to post "my daughter got engaged!".

littlepep

People post way too much shit on FB. It's not a fucking journal. Don't share personal stuff, especially if it's not yours to share. 

JennyColada

I have one friend who would rag on her husband BIG TIME on FB. She'd post about how "he obviously doesn't love me enough if he doesn't want to spend time with me" and how "he clearly has better things to do than spend time with his wife" etc. etc. I figured "ok weird, but no harm, since he's clearly not on FB" until one day he REPLIED to her rant saying "Hun, if you're upset then come in the next room and talk to me." but she KEPT GOING with her crazy and he kept replying "COME TO THE NEXT ROOM AND TALK TO ME INSTEAD OF POSTING ON FB!" It was really sad.

minttobemrsb

I would be humiliated for my mom to post that. Although, I wouldn't be a bit surprised. The people on my FB seem to have no issues sharing every detail about their life (no really, I have a cousin that does that). The worst part is the, "Why don't people mind their own business" post that comes about a week later.  

lyndausvi

It's one thing to overshare your own life.  But to overshare your teens is a little over the top.  I would have been mortified that my BF was cheating me.   Even more now that the entire world knows too.

theartistformerlyknownas

Wow, that's terrible. Not only for your niece, but for the boy she's essentially slandering, too.

Blergbot

JennyColada said:

I have one friend who would rag on her husband BIG TIME on FB. She'd post about how "he obviously doesn't love me enough if he doesn't want to spend time with me" and how "he clearly has better things to do than spend time with his wife" etc. etc. I figured "ok weird, but no harm, since he's clearly not on FB" until one day he REPLIED to her rant saying "Hun, if you're upset then come in the next room and talk to me." but she KEPT GOING with her crazy and he kept replying "COME TO THE NEXT ROOM AND TALK TO ME INSTEAD OF POSTING ON FB!" It was really sad.

Are they divorced now?

levioosa

That sucks for your niece. 

I also hate people who are constantly posting passive aggressive videos or articles about their relationship.  If they're that shitty of an SO and you hate it so much, then just break up with them or go to counseling! 

beethery

People need to fucking stay in their lane on facebook shit.

This lady my aunt is friends with kept showing up at the hospice when my grandfather was dying. My grandfather fuckin' LOATHED her, but she is a huge AW and doesn't understand boundaries. I found out she was taking pictures of my grandfather on his death bed and posing pictures of my cousins staring wistfully out the tired-ass hospice window. I was pissed about that to begin with and wanted her the fuck out of there.

So when my grandfather passed, the family all called each other, we cried about it, dealt with it, and then I went to bed.

Well I fucking woke up the next morning and see that I have a FB notification. It's from shitbitch. She fucking posted this big thing making it sound like she is super close with my family (she sure the fuck isn't) and FUCKING TAGGED ME AND MY OTHER AUNT IN IT.

The shit had been up for 7 hours by the time I saw it. Raaaaaaage. HUMONGOUS ANGRY RAAAAAAGE. I'm still fucking mad about it.

ashley8918

Oh, hell no. I hate this shit.

My MIL is like this and it drives me CRAZY. She fucking posted about one of her neices miscarriages on facebook, which is always inappropriate. But, the worst part? THEY HAD NOT EVEN TOLD HIS PARENTS YET. WTF?

blabla89

Oh my gosh, I would be mortified.

littlepep

ashley8918 said:

Oh, hell no. I hate this shit.

My MIL is like this and it drives me CRAZY. She fucking posted about one of her neices miscarriages on facebook, which is always inappropriate. But, the worst part? THEY HAD NOT EVEN TOLD HIS PARENTS YET. WTF?

Oh well because their miscarriage is clearly about her. Duh. 

beethery

ashley8918 said:

Oh, hell no. I hate this shit.

My MIL is like this and it drives me CRAZY. She fucking posted about one of her neices miscarriages on facebook, which is always inappropriate. But, the worst part? THEY HAD NOT EVEN TOLD HIS PARENTS YET. WTF?

banana468

People do not understand boundaries at all.

I have a friend who does this shit with her kids all the time.   I don't need to know about how your kids are doing in school and whether or not your middle daughter needs improvement in Language Arts.   

I really try to keep FB as "puppies and rainbows" as possible.     

littlepep

It also really pisses me off when couples get all lovely in their posts and I'm like I know yall are sitting right next to each other on the couch. Can't yall just talk in real life?? I never post on my FI's fb except like the occasional birthday post. If I want to talk to him or send him something, I show him IRL or email him. Because, you know, we live together. 

JennyColada

Blergbot said:

JennyColada said:

I have one friend who would rag on her husband BIG TIME on FB. She'd post about how "he obviously doesn't love me enough if he doesn't want to spend time with me" and how "he clearly has better things to do than spend time with his wife" etc. etc. I figured "ok weird, but no harm, since he's clearly not on FB" until one day he REPLIED to her rant saying "Hun, if you're upset then come in the next room and talk to me." but she KEPT GOING with her crazy and he kept replying "COME TO THE NEXT ROOM AND TALK TO ME INSTEAD OF POSTING ON FB!" It was really sad.

Are they divorced now?

NO! She's been pulling this shit for YEARS and they are still married.

KatieinBkln

That settles it. When/if I have kids, people will have to actually see me in person if they want to verify that said offspring, do, in fact, exist. Maybe they will get ONE picture per year or some shit. 

Because over-sharing your kids on Facebook isn't just obnoxious, it's actually a breach of your child's privacy. Kids are people too, and they have the right not to have their personal business spread all over the internet. Which is forever, in case anyone forgot.

OwningAHome1981

FB is never the place for personal information. I think people know I am divorced but I never post on FB about it or anything like that. I also have pics of me my new bf, but again, I haven't directly mentioned it.

I think anything personal needs to be kept off FB, but it's so surprising how many people do it. There are so many people on my friend's list whose entire life stories I know. It's really crazy!

Maggie0829

I remember being 17 and I would seriously be completely mortified and would probably not talk to my Mom for weeks if she did that.

lovemesomemonster

littlepep said:

It also really pisses me off when couples get all lovely in their posts and I'm like I know yall are sitting right next to each other on the couch. Can't yall just talk in real life?? I never post on my FI's fb except like the occasional birthday post. If I want to talk to him or send him something, I show him IRL or email him. Because, you know, we live together. 

THIS.. I don't get it! Why in the world do you need to tell your sweetie how AWESOME SOCKS they are on FB, how about you tell them to their face? Mine gets the Happy Birthday post and this year I did post a picture of flowers he had sent to me for my birthday.. only because anyone who knows him knows that it is highly likely someone gave him a brain transplant if he's "wasting" money on flowers. 

ashley8918

OwningAHome1981 said:

FB is never the place for personal information. I think people know I am divorced but I never post on FB about it or anything like that. I also have pics of me my new bf, but again, I haven't directly mentioned it.

I think anything personal needs to be kept off FB, but it's so surprising how many people do it. There are so many people on my friend's list whose entire life stories I know. It's really crazy!

What? That's exactly what it is for.

I don't think there is any thing wrong with posting YOUR OWN personal info (with limits, of course - no on wants to know that you got period pants or anything). The problem is posting other people's personal shit.

The day I got officially divorced I posted some sort of "FUCK YEAH!" status about it. I was excited as fuck. Why should I not share that?  

pinkcow13

That's terrible. At that age there is no way I would want anyone to know that not only I got dumped, but that I got cheated on. I was SO sensitive to those kind of things at 17.

Yes the over sharing on FB is obnoxious. This girl who works at my company (we spoke at the bar for like an hour one night, and she requested me that same night) posted earlier this week that she just had a miscarriage. With a pic stictch of a sonogram pic on the left, and an angel on the right. The pic had some sort of flower border, and she posted this whole paragraph with prayer hands and the angel emoji. First of all, isn't the reason that couples tend to keep pregnancies private early on is in the event of a miscarriage? Who the HELL posts something like that on FB? How big of an attention whore are you to do that? It just seems so bizarre to me. The next day she posted another pic stitch of a bouquet of flowers and of a "wistful" looking with the caption"Thank you for the beautiful flowers and heartfelt note Kristy... feeling loved." That is just so gross to me.

luckya23

ashley8918 said:

OwningAHome1981 said:

FB is never the place for personal information. I think people know I am divorced but I never post on FB about it or anything like that. I also have pics of me my new bf, but again, I haven't directly mentioned it.

I think anything personal needs to be kept off FB, but it's so surprising how many people do it. There are so many people on my friend's list whose entire life stories I know. It's really crazy!

What? That's exactly what it is for.

I don't think there is any thing wrong with posting YOUR OWN personal info (with limits, of course - no on wants to know that you got period pants or anything). The problem is posting other people's personal shit.

The day I got officially divorced I posted some sort of "FUCK YEAH!" status about it. I was excited as fuck. Why should I not share that?  

I think if I had to see all the posts about your wedding and your "awesome hubby," then I am owed a divorce announcement too!  I can't stand it when people just quietly change their name back...

SORT OF kidding... Sure would take the wonder out of it though.

littlepep

ashley8918 said:

FB is never the place for personal information. I think people know I am divorced but I never post on FB about it or anything like that. I also have pics of me my new bf, but again, I haven't directly mentioned it.

I think anything personal needs to be kept off FB, but it's so surprising how many people do it. There are so many people on my friend's list whose entire life stories I know. It's really crazy!

What? That's exactly what it is for.

I don't think there is any thing wrong with posting YOUR OWN personal info (with limits, of course - no on wants to know that you got period pants or anything). The problem is posting other people's personal shit.

The day I got officially divorced I posted some sort of "FUCK YEAH!" status about it. I was excited as fuck. Why should I not share that?  

climbingsingle

OwningAHome1981 said:

FB is never the place for personal information. I think people know I am divorced but I never post on FB about it or anything like that. I also have pics of me my new bf, but again, I haven't directly mentioned it.

I think anything personal needs to be kept off FB, but it's so surprising how many people do it. There are so many people on my friend's list whose entire life stories I know. It's really crazy!

Well, if you had pictures of your husband, and now you have pictures of your boyfriend, I'm pretty sure people have figured out something is up. 

Anything personal needs to be kept off FB? But your name is on there, along with pictures of your boyfriend. THAT is personal. 

ashley8918

littlepep said:

ashley8918 said:

FB is never the place for personal information. I think people know I am divorced but I never post on FB about it or anything like that. I also have pics of me my new bf, but again, I haven't directly mentioned it.

I think anything personal needs to be kept off FB, but it's so surprising how many people do it. There are so many people on my friend's list whose entire life stories I know. It's really crazy!

What? That's exactly what it is for.

I don't think there is any thing wrong with posting YOUR OWN personal info (with limits, of course - no on wants to know that you got period pants or anything). The problem is posting other people's personal shit.

The day I got officially divorced I posted some sort of "FUCK YEAH!" status about it. I was excited as fuck. Why should I not share that?  

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OwningAHome1981

littlepep said:

ashley8918 said:

FB is never the place for personal information. I think people know I am divorced but I never post on FB about it or anything like that. I also have pics of me my new bf, but again, I haven't directly mentioned it.

I think anything personal needs to be kept off FB, but it's so surprising how many people do it. There are so many people on my friend's list whose entire life stories I know. It's really crazy!

What? That's exactly what it is for.

I don't think there is any thing wrong with posting YOUR OWN personal info (with limits, of course - no on wants to know that you got period pants or anything). The problem is posting other people's personal shit.

The day I got officially divorced I posted some sort of "FUCK YEAH!" status about it. I was excited as fuck. Why should I not share that?  

Maybe but I don't want people knowing about my personal life other than some vacation pics and things. Maybe that's me... but even if you are private, you're not really private

ashley8918

OwningAHome1981 said:

littlepep said:

ashley8918 said:

FB is never the place for personal information. I think people know I am divorced but I never post on FB about it or anything like that. I also have pics of me my new bf, but again, I haven't directly mentioned it.

I think anything personal needs to be kept off FB, but it's so surprising how many people do it. There are so many people on my friend's list whose entire life stories I know. It's really crazy!

What? That's exactly what it is for.

I don't think there is any thing wrong with posting YOUR OWN personal info (with limits, of course - no on wants to know that you got period pants or anything). The problem is posting other people's personal shit.

The day I got officially divorced I posted some sort of "FUCK YEAH!" status about it. I was excited as fuck. Why should I not share that?  

Maybe but I don't want people knowing about my personal life other than some vacation pics and things. Maybe that's me... but even if you are private, you're not really private

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littlepep

OwningAHome1981 said:

littlepep said:

ashley8918 said:

FB is never the place for personal information. I think people know I am divorced but I never post on FB about it or anything like that. I also have pics of me my new bf, but again, I haven't directly mentioned it.

I think anything personal needs to be kept off FB, but it's so surprising how many people do it. There are so many people on my friend's list whose entire life stories I know. It's really crazy!

What? That's exactly what it is for.

I don't think there is any thing wrong with posting YOUR OWN personal info (with limits, of course - no on wants to know that you got period pants or anything). The problem is posting other people's personal shit.

The day I got officially divorced I posted some sort of "FUCK YEAH!" status about it. I was excited as fuck. Why should I not share that?  

Maybe but I don't want people knowing about my personal life other than some vacation pics and things. Maybe that's me... but even if you are private, you're not really private


Vacation pics are PERSONAL.