Pre-made "Will you be my bridesmaid" cards?

BridetoB2016

Exactly what the title says  

I'm looking for some nice pre-made "Will you be my bridesmaid" cards to send out to my girl friends. Can anyone suggest me where to go to get some at a decent price? Thanks!

Nymeru

Check out Etsy.  They've got all sorts of stuff like that there.

JCbride2015

BridetoB2016 said:

Exactly what the title says  

I'm looking for some nice pre-made "Will you be my bridesmaid" cards to send out to my girl friends. Can anyone suggest me where to go to get some at a decent price? Thanks!

Just call them. Really. Big bridesmaid proposals put a lot of pressure on your friends and are basically an invention of the wedding industry.

larrygaga

I sent mine these images with a text and they thought it was so cute! None of us are big phone call people.

sarahufl

JCbride2015 said:

BridetoB2016 said:

Exactly what the title says  

I'm looking for some nice pre-made "Will you be my bridesmaid" cards to send out to my girl friends. Can anyone suggest me where to go to get some at a decent price? Thanks!

Just call them. Really. Big bridesmaid proposals put a lot of pressure on your friends and are basically an invention of the wedding industry.

haha, what JC said.

I was talking to my SIL about what I wanted her to wear and she was like "so, I guess you want me to be a BM?"

I had forgotten to ask her, apparently

larrygaga

sarahufl I forgot to ask my little sister/MOH. We had agreed like ten years ago we would be each others MOH and she didn't realize how binding that pinky swear was. I asked her formally after we bought her dress. 

JoanE2012

JCbride2015 said:

BridetoB2016 said:

Exactly what the title says  

I'm looking for some nice pre-made "Will you be my bridesmaid" cards to send out to my girl friends. Can anyone suggest me where to go to get some at a decent price? Thanks!

Just call them. Really. Big bridesmaid proposals put a lot of pressure on your friends and are basically an invention of the wedding industry.

I agree, just ask them.  No need for formal proposals and cards and such.

theartistformerlyknownas

larrygaga said:

sarahufl I forgot to ask my little sister/MOH. We had agreed like ten years ago we would be each others MOH and she didn't realize how binding that pinky swear was. I asked her formally after we bought her dress. 

Um pinky swears = legally binding covenant.

JessicaB387

I used these:
http://www.advantagebridal.com/wiyoubemybrc1.html
http://www.advantagebridal.com/glwiyoubemym.html

littlepep

I did send my BMs cards, but I it was just handwritten note about how much they meant to me and how I wanted them to stand with me. No need to get super formal.

themuffinman16

I forgot to ask my twin sister, she asked me who was my maid of honor? My reply... um... you've had that in the bag since birth!  

WonderBride519

I asked mine in person first, and after I got their yes I found some cute cards at my local stationary store and mailed those. I signed each one with a personal note. I felt silly sending them, but each one of my girls has commented how much they loved them.

Like I said, I bought mine at a local stationary store, but I've seen these cards all over Pinterest with links to Etsy.

sarahufl

themuffinman16 said:

I forgot to ask my twin sister, she asked me who was my maid of honor? My reply... um... you've had that in the bag since birth!  

lol, same here!

southernbelle0915

Try typing "will you be my bridesmaid cards" into google.

But really, just call them (if not local), take them out to coffee (if local). You're not in the 5th grade asking "will you be my boyfriend? Circle one." You're an adult asking best friends to stand next to you as you say some of the most important vows of your life. It deserves more than just some card from Pinterest.

KatieinBkln

I forgot to ask my sister (MOH, and also my only bridesmaid) officially, too. We were shopping for my wedding dress and she said something really careful about "if you want me to be your bridesmaid" and I was like, DURRR, of course you are!

That said, I think there's no harm in "will you be my bridesmaid" cards as long as you keep the "ask" low-key and don't pressure your friends for an immediate answer. 

The only one I ever saw that I liked was this one, but it definitely caters to a...specific sense of humor: 

thisismynickname2

I have some independent card/gift shops in my area and I've seen cards of this nature. Do you have any unique gift shops you can check? Not the Hallmark stores. 

But, you can also get other "just friends" greeting cards and just write in them yourself. 

BridetoB2016

Gosh sometimes I wonder why I ask questions at all on this site... everyone is so quick to judge and voice their "opinion" 

I didn't ask for anyone's opinion on if I should send out cards or call/ask in person and which is better and why...

I asked WHERE I could find cute "Will you be my bridesmaid cards" for a decent price. Not IF I should. I thought maybe someone used one they liked personally and could link me to it. I guess I should have consulted Google instead of coming here. 

But thanks for those of you that did give me suggestions I appreciate it.

Personally, I don't have many "close" friends... and most of my bridesmaids I'm asking are going to be family members who live out of town. So I thought it'd be nice to send them a cute card instead of calling them, "Hey I haven't seen you since Christmas, but will you be my bridesmaid?" See what I mean?

Each girls wedding/situation is different and obviously everyone wants to do things differently so just because you guys would rather call, or do it in person, doesn't mean it's the best option for me, and I would appreciate it if we could stick to the topic at hand instead of referring to my "choice" as the "5th grade" option, thanks.

theartistformerlyknownas

BridetoB2016 said:

Gosh sometimes I wonder why I ask questions at all on this site... everyone is so quick to judge and voice their "opinion" 

I didn't ask for anyone's opinion on if I should send out cards or call/ask in person and which is better and why...

I asked WHERE I could find cute "Will you be my bridesmaid cards" for a decent price. Not IF I should. I thought maybe someone used one they liked personally and could link me to it. I guess I should have consulted Google instead of coming here. 

But thanks for those of you that did give me suggestions I appreciate it.

Personally, I don't have many "close" friends... and most of my bridesmaids I'm asking are going to be family members who live out of town. So I thought it'd be nice to send them a cute card instead of calling them, "Hey I haven't seen you since Christmas, but will you be my bridesmaid?" See what I mean?

Each girls wedding/situation is different and obviously everyone wants to do things differently so just because you guys would rather call, or do it in person, doesn't mean it's the best option for me, and I would appreciate it if we could stick to the topic at hand instead of referring to my "choice" as the "5th grade" option, thanks.

Gosh, too darn bad you don't get to tell people how to post.

If I got a card in the mail from someone I'm not close with, asking me to drop a few hundred to a thousand bucks on travel to a wedding I might not even want to go to and a dress I'll wear once, I'd be pissed off and throw it away. If you're not close with anyone, you shouldn't be asking anyone, no matter the method.

You sound like a peach, no wonder you don't have friends.

dolewhipper

I agree with lolo, theres no reason why you NEED bms; if you're not that close with these people why ask them in the first place? My BMs were made up of people who could help me at anytime at any moment with practically anything. Don't just have BMs because the industry thinks you need to.

And we give advise because that's kind of what we do here. We're a message board full of advising knotties. We are not Siri. 

FTR, I made my own and they were little post cards. Cost me maybe 50 cents each.

esstee33

Well, if you don't want opinions and you don't like the forums, you could always just try GOOGLING IT YOURSELF. Here's a helpful tutorial! 

BridetoB2016

I have to... my fiance DOES have a bunch of guy friends he's close to and has like 7 guys he wants in our wedding, therefore I need bridesmaids in my wedding. And since I don't have many close GF's I'm going to ask family members. I don't "expect" they'll say yes, but I'm hoping.

And I have lots of friends actually, just not many "close" ones, so what.

I like opinions, just not when I'm not asking for them

I knew I'd get a lot of backlash from that last post. Oh well... 

theartistformerlyknownas

BridetoB2016 said:

I have to... my fiance DOES have a bunch of guy friends he's close to and has like 7 guys he wants in our wedding, therefore I need bridesmaids in my wedding. And since I don't have many close GF's I'm going to ask family members. I don't "expect" they'll say yes, but I'm hoping.

And I have lots of friends actually, just not many "close" ones, so what.

I like opinions, just not when I'm not asking for them

I knew I'd get a lot of backlash from that last post. Oh well... 

No, you still don't NEED them. He can have a hundred people and you could have zero. If you'd be open minded to advice we'd have helped you with that too. Asking people as props just to mirror your FI's actual close friends is atrocious behavior.

hellosweetie1015

Well. That escalated quickly. (Too lazy to Will Ferrell it up in here, someone wanna do it for me?)

If you haven't talked to these people since Christmas, why are you asking them? Bridesmaids aren't a requirement; all they have to do is stand there in an expensive, typically one-time-use dress. (Mentioned in case you're asking them so you can add hands to your DIY parties or whatever.)

And frankly, if I hadn't spoken to someone since Christmas, and then got a card (or hell, even a simple text) asking me to be a bridesmaid, I would ignore it. If I didn't snark back at them. It's May. I am clearly not high enough on your totem pole to get a regular text message from you, and you're not high enough on mine for me to make the effort to send one.

BridetoB2016

lolo883 said:

BridetoB2016 said:

I have to... my fiance DOES have a bunch of guy friends he's close to and has like 7 guys he wants in our wedding, therefore I need bridesmaids in my wedding. And since I don't have many close GF's I'm going to ask family members. I don't "expect" they'll say yes, but I'm hoping.

And I have lots of friends actually, just not many "close" ones, so what.

I like opinions, just not when I'm not asking for them

I knew I'd get a lot of backlash from that last post. Oh well... 

No, you still don't NEED them. He can have a hundred people and you could have zero. If you'd be open minded to advice we'd have helped you with that too. Asking people as props just to mirror your FI's actual close friends is atrocious behavior.

Winner of worlds worst wedding advice goes to you, lol.

Do you really suggest I have 1-2 bridesmaids and him have 7 groomsmen? Because asking a few family members, or friends that aren't as close to me as HIS friends might be to him to be in the wedding just to make the number equal is really "atrocious" behavior? I think you need a dictionary lol. 

hellosweetie1015

God bless. Pretend this is an edit.

IF you are going to ask them, talk to a copy shop. If I'd gone the route you're thinking of going (which I didn't, my sisters were obvious for me and I asked my BFF right before I emailed them to tell them their one bridesmaid dress requirement because I'd forgotten until then), I'd have had a picture of just the two of us printed and written them a note on the back.

hellosweetie1015

BridetoB2016 said:

lolo883 said:

BridetoB2016 said:

I have to... my fiance DOES have a bunch of guy friends he's close to and has like 7 guys he wants in our wedding, therefore I need bridesmaids in my wedding. And since I don't have many close GF's I'm going to ask family members. I don't "expect" they'll say yes, but I'm hoping.

And I have lots of friends actually, just not many "close" ones, so what.

I like opinions, just not when I'm not asking for them

I knew I'd get a lot of backlash from that last post. Oh well... 

No, you still don't NEED them. He can have a hundred people and you could have zero. If you'd be open minded to advice we'd have helped you with that too. Asking people as props just to mirror your FI's actual close friends is atrocious behavior.

Winner of worlds worst wedding advice goes to you, lol.

Do you really suggest I have 1-2 bridesmaids and him have 7 groomsmen? Because asking a few family members, or friends that aren't as close to me as HIS friends might be to him to be in the wedding just to make the number equal is really "atrocious" behavior? I think you need a dictionary lol. 

There is NOTHING wrong with having your two "ride or die" people up there. I'll have three, FI will have one. We will still be just as married as if we both had three, or one.

Yes. It's atrocious to treat people like props for "even numbers". Now I wish I hadn't given you the second comment.

BridetoB2016

Sooooooooo judgemental... I don't have enough close friends as my fiance so if I get the same amount of bridesmaids to be in the wedding as he has groomsmen so we can have a nice looking wedding party (even though most will be made of family members and some friends I've only known a few years) I'm suddenly acting with "atrocious" behavior I mean my god. 

hellosweetie1015

BridetoB2016 said:

Sooooooooo judgemental... I don't have enough close friends as my fiance so if I get the same amount of bridesmaids to be in the wedding as he has groomsmen so we can have a nice looking wedding party (even though most will be made of family members and some friends I've only known a few years) I'm suddenly acting with "atrocious" behavior I mean my god. 

The people standing with you should be your absolute best friends. Not space fillers. What will you do if these people say no? Keep on going through your contacts until someone says yes, all for the sake of even sides?

BridetoB2016

THEY'RE NOT PROPS!! I mean my god, doesn't ANYBODY else consider nice even/equal numbers when creating their wedding party or am I the only one??

JCbride2015

BridetoB2016 said:

THEY'RE NOT PROPS!! I mean my god, doesn't ANYBODY else consider nice even/equal numbers when creating their wedding party or am I the only one??

What does "nice even/equal numbers" mean if not props?

dolewhipper

You are my dear.

There's nothing wrong with having your ride or die with you. No one will look at you funny. No one will question.

Guess what? I had 5, H had 3. No one asked where the other 2 were. Those were the people we wanted up there. 

What doesn't look "nice" is looking back on pictures from your one and only day saying, "I wish I would have just let them be guests"