We are doing a rock ceremony. I have been going to places I love, finding special rocks and when the people RSVP they wiill have a special rock with their name on it at the door. We are asking that they hold this rock during the ceremony and the officiant will ask them to bless this rock and send with it wishes for us and on the way out they will drop it in a basket. I plan to keep them all as a token of their wishes. It's also in lieu of a guest book.
We are also struggling with this concept.We are having an outdoor ceremony (weather permitting) and a candle flame will more than likely blow out. The sand ceremony is out- he hates the idea and i was only slightly interested in it.We talked about doing something with water. I was raised as a Unitarian Universalist and every year they did a water ceremony where ppl would pour water into a chalice from their varying journeys over the past year to share their experience (joys and sorrows). We were engaged on the edge of a creek and we have a bottle of water from that creek (unless he has accidentally emptied it out.. i will have to check)..I was thinking of doing something with that.we thought of putting a glass inside a bowl (or something like that) and each pouring water into the glass until it overflows ("my cup runeth over") to symbolize our intertwining lives as being enriched and blessed and our happiness at sharing our lives together. It was just an idea we had.. we are not settled on it.. what do people thinl.. too corny?