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  • Taco in a Bag up here.  On top of Nacho Cheese Doritos.  Which I never eat, cos once I start, I'm done.  They're so good!!  I love Nacho Cheese Doritos way too much

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    MagicInk said:

    Also, are you really complaining that your H is making dinner?  My FI has made me dinner like 2 times ever (he's not a good cook so it's not terrible that he doesn't). 

    Have you tried, I dunno, asking him to pick up the slack? I mean Wifey makes most of our meals (she's the better cook) but there are times I do more cooking because she's busy. We just eat super simple meals (3 ingredients and a crock pot, I can do it) when I'm in charge.

    Anyways, walking tacos....ew. Sober me would not enjoy these. Drunk me would eat them at least. Drunk me is a dumbass though. I thought walking tacos was like street tacos. I like those. Cause they are small and you can eat many of them.

    Are you guys gonna walk somewhere while eating them? Do you not have like any plates at home right now....?
    No because he does plenty of other stuff and I enjoy cooking :)  He's actually out of town for work 4-5 days a week most of the time and when he's home, he really likes to have a decent home cooked meal since he's eating out a lot.  If I'm too tired to cook or something like that, I will ask him to go pick up a pizza or whatever though.  I just think it's nice that OPs dude is volunteering to make dinner, even if it doesn't sound like the most appetizing thing to her.  PB&J always works too :)
    Why? I mean, I don't expect my wife to praise me just for cooking. I've made some shitty meals. She tells me "Babe, this is not good. I love you. But I don't love this" cause we have a relationship where I don't have to be praised for just cooking even if it's disgusting.

    I mean, sarawifenow's husband might do most the cooking. Or maybe it's 50/50 split with cooking. I don't think it should awe inspiring to hear he's cooking. And honestly I don't think you'd be saying this if Sara's husband was her wife instead. I think it's kind of sexist to be all "Well at least your man is cooking! You know those men! Penis getting stuck in lint traps and ovens all the time! Just eat whatever he cooks with a smile!" which is how your post reads.

    Do you expect your FI to just eat whatever you cook even if he doesn't like it?

    I know, we're not supposed to call out sexism anymore. Just smile and nod. I apologize for calling out sexism in a thread not about sexism. 



    Eh, it's my thread and I say it is fine.

     

    Also I want to point out that if H tried to serve me fish heads and monkey brains, I would tell him to kindly fuck off. Just because I am married to him doesn't mean I have to worship everything he cooks for me.

    Damn...I was hoping the new punishment was gonna be spankings.
  • MagicInk said:

    Also, are you really complaining that your H is making dinner?  My FI has made me dinner like 2 times ever (he's not a good cook so it's not terrible that he doesn't). 

    Have you tried, I dunno, asking him to pick up the slack? I mean Wifey makes most of our meals (she's the better cook) but there are times I do more cooking because she's busy. We just eat super simple meals (3 ingredients and a crock pot, I can do it) when I'm in charge.

    Anyways, walking tacos....ew. Sober me would not enjoy these. Drunk me would eat them at least. Drunk me is a dumbass though. I thought walking tacos was like street tacos. I like those. Cause they are small and you can eat many of them.

    Are you guys gonna walk somewhere while eating them? Do you not have like any plates at home right now....?
    No because he does plenty of other stuff and I enjoy cooking :)  He's actually out of town for work 4-5 days a week most of the time and when he's home, he really likes to have a decent home cooked meal since he's eating out a lot.  If I'm too tired to cook or something like that, I will ask him to go pick up a pizza or whatever though.  I just think it's nice that OPs dude is volunteering to make dinner, even if it doesn't sound like the most appetizing thing to her.  PB&J always works too :)
    Why? I mean, I don't expect my wife to praise me just for cooking. I've made some shitty meals. She tells me "Babe, this is not good. I love you. But I don't love this" cause we have a relationship where I don't have to be praised for just cooking even if it's disgusting.

    I mean, sarawifenow's husband might do most the cooking. Or maybe it's 50/50 split with cooking. I don't think it should awe inspiring to hear he's cooking. And honestly I don't think you'd be saying this if Sara's husband was her wife instead. I think it's kind of sexist to be all "Well at least your man is cooking! You know those men! Penis getting stuck in lint traps and ovens all the time! Just eat whatever he cooks with a smile!" which is how your post reads.

    Do you expect your FI to just eat whatever you cook even if he doesn't like it?

    I know, we're not supposed to call out sexism anymore. Just smile and nod. I apologize for calling out sexism in a thread not about sexism. 



    OK, when did this become about sexism?  I just commented that I thought it was nice that OP's husband was making dinner, and that my FI doesn't do it often.  And, if my FI didn't like what I was cooking, I wouldn't expect him to eat it, he could make himself a sandwich, but I wouldn't like it if he talked about how much he thought it sounded gross without trying it.  If you read anything beyond that, that's your own thoughts, not mine.

    But...sara just commented that it's his night to cook. So he does make her dinner often. Because he has his nights and she has hers. Not all relationships function like yours. The assumption that it's just SO NICE her fella is in that kitchen slaving away for her, feels sexist to me.
  • My husband is the only one to cook dinner.

    I think in all the time that we've been together, I've never once cooked him dinner.

  • MagicInk said:

    MagicInk said:

    Also, are you really complaining that your H is making dinner?  My FI has made me dinner like 2 times ever (he's not a good cook so it's not terrible that he doesn't). 

    Have you tried, I dunno, asking him to pick up the slack? I mean Wifey makes most of our meals (she's the better cook) but there are times I do more cooking because she's busy. We just eat super simple meals (3 ingredients and a crock pot, I can do it) when I'm in charge.

    Anyways, walking tacos....ew. Sober me would not enjoy these. Drunk me would eat them at least. Drunk me is a dumbass though. I thought walking tacos was like street tacos. I like those. Cause they are small and you can eat many of them.

    Are you guys gonna walk somewhere while eating them? Do you not have like any plates at home right now....?
    No because he does plenty of other stuff and I enjoy cooking :)  He's actually out of town for work 4-5 days a week most of the time and when he's home, he really likes to have a decent home cooked meal since he's eating out a lot.  If I'm too tired to cook or something like that, I will ask him to go pick up a pizza or whatever though.  I just think it's nice that OPs dude is volunteering to make dinner, even if it doesn't sound like the most appetizing thing to her.  PB&J always works too :)
    Why? I mean, I don't expect my wife to praise me just for cooking. I've made some shitty meals. She tells me "Babe, this is not good. I love you. But I don't love this" cause we have a relationship where I don't have to be praised for just cooking even if it's disgusting.

    I mean, sarawifenow's husband might do most the cooking. Or maybe it's 50/50 split with cooking. I don't think it should awe inspiring to hear he's cooking. And honestly I don't think you'd be saying this if Sara's husband was her wife instead. I think it's kind of sexist to be all "Well at least your man is cooking! You know those men! Penis getting stuck in lint traps and ovens all the time! Just eat whatever he cooks with a smile!" which is how your post reads.

    Do you expect your FI to just eat whatever you cook even if he doesn't like it?

    I know, we're not supposed to call out sexism anymore. Just smile and nod. I apologize for calling out sexism in a thread not about sexism. 



    OK, when did this become about sexism?  I just commented that I thought it was nice that OP's husband was making dinner, and that my FI doesn't do it often.  And, if my FI didn't like what I was cooking, I wouldn't expect him to eat it, he could make himself a sandwich, but I wouldn't like it if he talked about how much he thought it sounded gross without trying it.  If you read anything beyond that, that's your own thoughts, not mine.

    But...sara just commented that it's his night to cook. So he does make her dinner often. Because he has his nights and she has hers. Not all relationships function like yours. The assumption that it's just SO NICE her fella is in that kitchen slaving away for her, feels sexist to me.

    I'm sorry you feel that way.  That's not at all how I meant it. 
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    Mmkay, I am really freaking hungry right now. I've been walking at a treadmill desk and drinking wine all day, and these tacos are starting to sound AMAZING.
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  • MagicInk said:

    MagicInk said:

    Also, are you really complaining that your H is making dinner?  My FI has made me dinner like 2 times ever (he's not a good cook so it's not terrible that he doesn't). 

    Have you tried, I dunno, asking him to pick up the slack? I mean Wifey makes most of our meals (she's the better cook) but there are times I do more cooking because she's busy. We just eat super simple meals (3 ingredients and a crock pot, I can do it) when I'm in charge.

    Anyways, walking tacos....ew. Sober me would not enjoy these. Drunk me would eat them at least. Drunk me is a dumbass though. I thought walking tacos was like street tacos. I like those. Cause they are small and you can eat many of them.

    Are you guys gonna walk somewhere while eating them? Do you not have like any plates at home right now....?
    No because he does plenty of other stuff and I enjoy cooking :)  He's actually out of town for work 4-5 days a week most of the time and when he's home, he really likes to have a decent home cooked meal since he's eating out a lot.  If I'm too tired to cook or something like that, I will ask him to go pick up a pizza or whatever though.  I just think it's nice that OPs dude is volunteering to make dinner, even if it doesn't sound like the most appetizing thing to her.  PB&J always works too :)
    Why? I mean, I don't expect my wife to praise me just for cooking. I've made some shitty meals. She tells me "Babe, this is not good. I love you. But I don't love this" cause we have a relationship where I don't have to be praised for just cooking even if it's disgusting.

    I mean, sarawifenow's husband might do most the cooking. Or maybe it's 50/50 split with cooking. I don't think it should awe inspiring to hear he's cooking. And honestly I don't think you'd be saying this if Sara's husband was her wife instead. I think it's kind of sexist to be all "Well at least your man is cooking! You know those men! Penis getting stuck in lint traps and ovens all the time! Just eat whatever he cooks with a smile!" which is how your post reads.

    Do you expect your FI to just eat whatever you cook even if he doesn't like it?

    I know, we're not supposed to call out sexism anymore. Just smile and nod. I apologize for calling out sexism in a thread not about sexism. 



    OK, when did this become about sexism?  I just commented that I thought it was nice that OP's husband was making dinner, and that my FI doesn't do it often.  And, if my FI didn't like what I was cooking, I wouldn't expect him to eat it, he could make himself a sandwich, but I wouldn't like it if he talked about how much he thought it sounded gross without trying it.  If you read anything beyond that, that's your own thoughts, not mine.



    Except you asked if I was really complaining that my H was making me dinner not what you said in the first bold.

     

    Second bold, let's go back to my fish head and monkey brain example...if your FI texted you saying that's what's for dinner would you just be like "yayyyyyyyyyy!" or would you be like wtf.... 

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  • @julieanne912 it became about sexism because of the tone of your post. You didn't say "I don't complain if someone wants to cook for me - H, my mom, neighbor down the street". You said (paraphrasing) OP should be glad that her H cooks at all and your FI has cooked for you maybe twice because he's a terrible cook. The implication that several of us got from that (me included, and I responsed accordingly on the first page) was that @sarawifenow should just be glad that her man can at least sling his penis over his shoulder and have two hands free to put together 4 ingredients. Because he's a man and men, especially married men, don't cook.

    @MagicInk are we really not supposed to call out sexism on TK anymore, or was that a general comment on the world?
  • yogapants said:

    @julieanne912 it became about sexism because of the tone of your post. You didn't say "I don't complain if someone wants to cook for me - H, my mom, neighbor down the street". You said (paraphrasing) OP should be glad that her H cooks at all and your FI has cooked for you maybe twice because he's a terrible cook. The implication that several of us got from that (me included, and I responsed accordingly on the first page) was that @sarawifenow should just be glad that her man can at least sling his penis over his shoulder and have two hands free to put together 4 ingredients. Because he's a man and men, especially married men, don't cook.

    @MagicInk are we really not supposed to call out sexism on TK anymore, or was that a general comment on the world?

    There's been some...hurrumphing in other threads about how we should just stay on topic and not point out sexism/vicitim blaming/slust shaming/body shaming/homophobia/ect.

    No actual rule and please continue to do so. Says a person who was wisely never put in charge. :)

    Also everything else @yogapants said I agree with. 
  • I cook for FI all the time. He cooks for the rest of the world, so I figure I can handle the cooking at home.

    Plus when he cooks he spends $80 on ingredients. The man can cook on a shoestring, but he has to be boring all day every day because the restaurant he's at is "uninspired". So he likes to play. It's always the best thing ever, but our budget can't handle $80 dinners more often than every month or so.
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  • yogapants said:

    @julieanne912 it became about sexism because of the tone of your post. You didn't say "I don't complain if someone wants to cook for me - H, my mom, neighbor down the street". You said (paraphrasing) OP should be glad that her H cooks at all and your FI has cooked for you maybe twice because he's a terrible cook. The implication that several of us got from that (me included, and I responsed accordingly on the first page) was that @sarawifenow should just be glad that her man can at least sling his penis over his shoulder and have two hands free to put together 4 ingredients. Because he's a man and men, especially married men, don't cook.

    @MagicInk are we really not supposed to call out sexism on TK anymore, or was that a general comment on the world?

    Again, point taken, I'm sorry the "tone of my post" made it sound that way, because that's not how I meant it.  It was not meant to be a statement towards traditional gender roles, or sexist behavior, or feminism or any other issue that people seem to have taken with it.  So again, I'm sorry that it came across wrong. 
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  • Freaking accidentally hit the post button. Stupid editing issue. Sorry for the double post.

    I think the next time I make tacos they will be all this minus the bag. Because it sounds delicious.
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  • ...This thread is making me really hungry for some Mexican food.


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  • hellohkb said:

    ...This thread is making me really hungry for some Mexican food.

    Me too, I just want to go to the little taco shop around the corner and order one of everything.
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  • I cook for FI all the time. He cooks for the rest of the world, so I figure I can handle the cooking at home.

    Plus when he cooks he spends $80 on ingredients. The man can cook on a shoestring, but he has to be boring all day every day because the restaurant he's at is "uninspired". So he likes to play. It's always the best thing ever, but our budget can't handle $80 dinners more often than every month or so.

    You are a much better chef's wife then I am.   It's rare I cook for him.  I have a few hits, but not many that he likes.    I do cook a lot for myself though.

    At this very moment DH is pounding a pork lion and making schnitzel for us.

       






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    Also, are you really complaining that your H is making dinner?  My FI has made me dinner like 2 times ever (he's not a good cook so it's not terrible that he doesn't). 

    Maybe I'm bad at finding sexism between the lines, but at face value this statement doesn't seem sexist at all. I do almost all the cooking because FI can make pizza and BBQ. This has nothing to do with what is hanging, or in my case not hanging, between our legs. The guy simply can't cook, there is a reason he eats raw eggs unless I make breakfast. 

    When FI does cook great, I get a night off. Now if he tried the fish head and monkey brain idea that was mentioned I may think he lost his mind completely. I'd still try it just in case it turns out BBQ monkey brain or fish head pizza is my new favorite food, but I would also definitely have a quick back up plan in my head for when no one wants to finish their food. 
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  • lyndausvi said:

    I cook for FI all the time. He cooks for the rest of the world, so I figure I can handle the cooking at home.

    Plus when he cooks he spends $80 on ingredients. The man can cook on a shoestring, but he has to be boring all day every day because the restaurant he's at is "uninspired". So he likes to play. It's always the best thing ever, but our budget can't handle $80 dinners more often than every month or so.

    You are a much better chef's wife then I am.   It's rare I cook for him.  I have a few hits, but not many that he likes.    I do cook a lot for myself though.

    At this very moment DH is pounding a pork lion and making schnitzel for us.

       
    Well, part of it is FI's easy to please, plus he's helping me be braver about seasonings and "odd" ingredients and stuff. He's willing to be my guinea pig for any new recipe I want to try, and he's an angel about helping me improve them if they're gross haha. He helped me make my own taco spice blend Saturday night.

    And part of it is if I didn't cook for him, he'd live off tasting crap at work, and then potato chips and beer once he got home on his work nights, and .... that worries me a bit, haha. :/
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  • Back in high school all sports times would have dinner after games. That was a big hit! I used to think they were pretty good. Like a taco salad in a bag minus lettuce.
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  • lyndausvi said:

    I cook for FI all the time. He cooks for the rest of the world, so I figure I can handle the cooking at home.

    Plus when he cooks he spends $80 on ingredients. The man can cook on a shoestring, but he has to be boring all day every day because the restaurant he's at is "uninspired". So he likes to play. It's always the best thing ever, but our budget can't handle $80 dinners more often than every month or so.

    You are a much better chef's wife then I am.   It's rare I cook for him.  I have a few hits, but not many that he likes.    I do cook a lot for myself though.

    At this very moment DH is pounding a pork lion and making schnitzel for us.

       
    Well, part of it is FI's easy to please, plus he's helping me be braver about seasonings and "odd" ingredients and stuff. He's willing to be my guinea pig for any new recipe I want to try, and he's an angel about helping me improve them if they're gross haha. He helped me make my own taco spice blend Saturday night.

    And part of it is if I didn't cook for him, he'd live off tasting crap at work, and then potato chips and beer once he got home on his work nights, and .... that worries me a bit, haha. :/
    I can see that.

    DH has 100% creative control.  He orders anything he wants, cooks anything he wants.  Which means he has to "taste" everything he cooks.  You know, to make sure it tastes okay.






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  • afox007 said:

    Also, are you really complaining that your H is making dinner?  My FI has made me dinner like 2 times ever (he's not a good cook so it's not terrible that he doesn't). 

    Maybe I'm bad at finding sexism between the lines, but at face value this statement doesn't seem sexist at all. I do almost all the cooking because FI can make pizza and BBQ. This has nothing to do with what is hanging, or in my case not hanging, between our legs. The guy simply can't cook, there is a reason he eats raw eggs unless I make breakfast. 

    When FI does cook great, I get a night off. Now if he tried the fish head and monkey brain idea that was mentioned I may think he lost his mind completely. I'd still try it just in case it turns out BBQ monkey brain or fish head pizza is my new favorite food, but I would also definitely have a quick back up plan in my head for when no one wants to finish their food. 
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    Well you should. Guys can't cook cuz their penis gets stuck in the oven.

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  • lyndausvi said:

    lyndausvi said:

    I cook for FI all the time. He cooks for the rest of the world, so I figure I can handle the cooking at home.

    Plus when he cooks he spends $80 on ingredients. The man can cook on a shoestring, but he has to be boring all day every day because the restaurant he's at is "uninspired". So he likes to play. It's always the best thing ever, but our budget can't handle $80 dinners more often than every month or so.

    You are a much better chef's wife then I am.   It's rare I cook for him.  I have a few hits, but not many that he likes.    I do cook a lot for myself though.

    At this very moment DH is pounding a pork lion and making schnitzel for us.

       
    Well, part of it is FI's easy to please, plus he's helping me be braver about seasonings and "odd" ingredients and stuff. He's willing to be my guinea pig for any new recipe I want to try, and he's an angel about helping me improve them if they're gross haha. He helped me make my own taco spice blend Saturday night.

    And part of it is if I didn't cook for him, he'd live off tasting crap at work, and then potato chips and beer once he got home on his work nights, and .... that worries me a bit, haha. :/
    I can see that.

    DH has 100% creative control.  He orders anything he wants, cooks anything he wants.  Which means he has to "taste" everything he cooks.  You know, to make sure it tastes okay.
    Bahahaha yeah I think that's how FI would be if he had any creative control. (Un?)fortunately he doesn't have any right now, despite being sous in title.
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  • What about indian tacos? mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
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  • Missed the sexism.  Moving on because I just want to YAY walking tacos.  They don't have to be soggy.  They shouldn't be sitting around long enough.  The now defunct deli by my work had a walking taco special twice a week - way better than the taco salad they had because mmmm nacho cheese Doritos.

    We do the walking taco for fundraisers at work quite a bit because it's inexpensive, easy, and portable.  If I'm feeling fancy, I'll dump it out on a plate like a taco salad.
  • arrippa said:

    It reminds me of Fritos pie. I love those so much.

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    This is what we call a walking taco where I'm from :) And they are delicious!!! Also, is it weird that I think what your H wants to make sounds good? I love doritos, so any excuse to eat them is good with me.
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    I've never heard of walking tacos or fritos pie. 

    My H does a lot of cooking, even though his penis could very easily get burned by the stove. But he does also take a yoga class with WOMEN. 
  • Well guys, I ate the walking tacos last night. I even ate it out of the bad. They were not my thing at all. I didn't mind it once I separated the ingredients and then scooped them up with the chips but the appeal of the bag is lost on me.
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  • Hm, never really heard of it but it sounds yummy and I want Taco Bell for lunch  now.

    FWIW, I wouldn't to eat it out of a bag though, throw that shit on a plate and I'd be all over it.

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