We were just married, and overall everything went great. We received no end of compliments, but there are definitely things I would change or do differently. Here's my advice!
Delegate, delegate, delegate!
~Sure, everybody says "let me know if you need anything", but they won't unless you ask. And be specific. I was up until midnight the night before my wedding making the favors, because nobody helped out.
Lots of bridesmaids, or helpers
~I had one bridesmaid (with no car) and a man of honor (900 miles away), so they were less than helpful. I highly recommend having a hoard of helpers. And make use of them! [see above]
DO NOT PROCRASTINATE.... on ANYTHING!
~I cannot stress this enough. I was up until midnight the night before, the groom spent the morning of burning CDs for the playlist. Not fun. I didn't even pack for my wedding night, so I didn't have PJs or other little things that would have been nice.
Mind your religious requirements
~My husband is Catholic, and we were going to wed in the church. We met with the priest twice about what we would have to do, and we were under the impression that things would be fine. My husband is military, so we were unable to do the prewedding classes, etc. The priest told us this wouldn't be a problem. The diocese disagreed, and TWO WEEKS before the wedding, I suddenly had no ceremony location or officiant, and a very angry side of the family. Get a second opinion on this kind of stuff.
Be very careful with "friendors"
~If Aunt Jane is a photographer and Uncle Joe has been a DJ before, that's great. But make darn sure they will do the job you want. Our DJ was a family friend... we had to provide her CDs, including a list of the songs in order, plus notes about when to announce, etc etc. She still messed up, ran out of music during certain events, it was a mess. Also her speakers kept crapping out. Overall not a great $300 spent. It would have been better to go up in price a little bit and hire a real DJ.
I'm sure I'll think of other things. What would you change or have done differently?
Erin
An indecisive bride-to-be!