Hi everyone,
I've never posted here before but I joined a while back to lurk and read posts when I was a bridesmaid in a family member's wedding. I've learned a lot about wedding etiquette (and general hosting etiquette) from these posts, so thanks!
A friend of mine is having a potluck wedding later this summer (I know, I know) and I've committed to bringing a dish. However, I'm feeling a bit lost as to whether to give a separate gift for the wedding or not. They have a cash registry for their house/honeymoon/etc and have stated multiple times, both on their website and in person, that they don't want any physical gifts.
I was planning to make a dish in the largest bowl I own, which would feed about 20-25 people and then put a check in a card for them as a separate gift, but I checked the potluck sign-up recently and it looks like very few people have signed up to bring food. So now I'm thinking I should bring more food than I planned to help out, but I can't really afford to pay for double the food and also a gift.
I know gifts are never expected, and I do consider the potluck dish a gift in itself, but I feel weird showing up without something that the couple can enjoy for themselves after the reception is over. I could put a smaller check in the card, but it would be such a small amount that I would feel cheap. If you were in my place, what would you do?