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I'm laughing because finance's 94 year old grandma is appalled that he will not be in a tux for our Sunday brunch wedding at 11:30am.

She thinks WE are committing a blunder by not putting him in a tux when she's the one who is actually wrong.

FWIW I give zero fucks / side eyes on a tux at a wedding no matter what time of day it is.

larrygaga

I just ordered all the flowers last night, and snack mix for the cocktail hour. 

I have also been trying to break in my wedding heels by walking around in them around the house until they hurt me. Right now I'm at 3 hours. Doing good. 

They are only 2-3 inches, but still.

Also, my RSVPs are due in 2 days and only 40 out of 100 made it back to me so far. That's why I made the date earlier than I should have. I knew both our families would be stupid and not return them.

I know I still have a few days, but I'm not going to sit here and believe that 60 RSVPs are coming my way in the next 2-4 days.

JaniV123

Sending all the contracts over to the day of coordinator and picking my hairstyles. I also got my NUvaring today. 

We still have to pick music and readings and RSVP due date is the 16th (we will give a few extra days since some invites got out late and other got returned and had to be resent) 

I have to pick up my dress on the 27th, work on the seating chart, find a headpiece, officially plan the rehearsal dinner, finish HM shopping and figure out luggage. Send out some Thank you cards from gifts we have received and idk if I am missing something. 

lurkergirl

Well when we pulled in the neighborhood they were beginning to put up our tent. We're going to see it again after dinner. It should be finished by then, and our chairs should be up too.

hellosweetie1015

lurkergirl said:

Well when we pulled in the neighborhood they were beginning to put up our tent. We're going to see it again after dinner. It should be finished by then, and our chairs should be up too.

Holy crap are you this weekend?! Yay!

I've been calling hotels all day. I found one that will block ten rooms out at a reasonable rate! Yay! May not have to move the date back after all. Still gotta find some other options.

JCbride2015

Welp.  We are May 30th and FPILs just pulled their financial contribution.  This was two days ago and I keep getting angrier.  We can come up with the cash but our relationship with them will never be the same.

lurkergirl

hellosweetie1015 said:

lurkergirl said:

Well when we pulled in the neighborhood they were beginning to put up our tent. We're going to see it again after dinner. It should be finished by then, and our chairs should be up too.

Holy crap are you this weekend?! Yay!

I've been calling hotels all day. I found one that will block ten rooms out at a reasonable rate! Yay! May not have to move the date back after all. Still gotta find some other options.

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Yes we are! We are about to head down. And see the venue again. Our mod range hotels booked up months ago. Thankfully moat people have rented houses. Is your venue near Eufaula by chance?

lurkergirl

hellosweetie1015 said:

lurkergirl said:

Well when we pulled in the neighborhood they were beginning to put up our tent. We're going to see it again after dinner. It should be finished by then, and our chairs should be up too.

Holy crap are you this weekend?! Yay!

I've been calling hotels all day. I found one that will block ten rooms out at a reasonable rate! Yay! May not have to move the date back after all. Still gotta find some other options.

_ _ _ _ _ _ _ _

Yes we are! We are about to head down. And see the venue again. Our mod range hotels booked up months ago. Thankfully moat people have rented houses. Is your venue near Eufaula by chance?

larrygaga

JCbride2015 said:

Welp.  We are May 30th and FPILs just pulled their financial contribution.  This was two days ago and I keep getting angrier.  We can come up with the cash but our relationship with them will never be the same.

WTF. Do they have a good reason at least?

lurkergirl

Chairs and tent are done

huskypuppy14

JCbride2015 said:

Welp.  We are May 30th and FPILs just pulled their financial contribution.  This was two days ago and I keep getting angrier.  We can come up with the cash but our relationship with them will never be the same.

Oh that sucks. Is it a substantial chunk of the budget? I hope you didn't invite tons of their friends and stuff like that.

See people, this is why you don't agree to anything without the cash upfront. My in-laws gave us a little less than they originally said, but it was fine because we had less people than we originally planned for, and what they didn't give us was less than 2% of the budget. 

mj8215

79 days out! 

currently just waiting around for invitations to arrive so we can send them out. should be here next week. 

Just got FI's suit (its a black suit, our wedding is at 4pm and I'm pretty sure thats OK!). 

My dress was supposed to come a few weeks ago - getting mildly annoyed because the bridal store keeps saying it'll be there next week - I know there is lots of time but I just don't like that they keep making shit up. Just tell me it'll be here in a month, I won't mind. Ugh. Originally they said mid March. Then mid April. Since then "next week" every week. Hopefully it does not mean badness... I love the dress and the store has a good yelp reputation  

All the other major stuff is taken care of. The only thing we need to do is pick out and order a Ketubah (did you find one @flutteringinfl? we saw a couple on ketubah.com that we liked - not going the custom route though, we won't have enough time for that). 

most importantly, i have a huge exam in a few weeks, so all wedding planning is put on hold until then (I'm not even really here!! i'm just taking a tiny studying break)

@JCbride2015 that sounds terrible! Did they state a reason, if you don't mind me asking?

hellosweetie1015

lurkergirl said:

hellosweetie1015 said:

lurkergirl said:

Well when we pulled in the neighborhood they were beginning to put up our tent. We're going to see it again after dinner. It should be finished by then, and our chairs should be up too.

Holy crap are you this weekend?! Yay!

I've been calling hotels all day. I found one that will block ten rooms out at a reasonable rate! Yay! May not have to move the date back after all. Still gotta find some other options.

_ _ _ _ _ _ _ _

Yes we are! We are about to head down. And see the venue again. Our mod range hotels booked up months ago. Thankfully moat people have rented houses. Is your venue near Eufaula by chance?

Nope Eufaula is about halfway to PCB from here. There's a beautiful lake place thing I considered early on.... but it's Eufaula haha; it barely registers if we don't hit the Waffle House for coffee or a gas station on the way to/from the beach.

flutteringinfl

mj8215 said:

79 days out! 

currently just waiting around for invitations to arrive so we can send them out. should be here next week. 

Just got FI's suit (its a black suit, our wedding is at 4pm and I'm pretty sure thats OK!). 

My dress was supposed to come a few weeks ago - getting mildly annoyed because the bridal store keeps saying it'll be there next week - I know there is lots of time but I just don't like that they keep making shit up. Just tell me it'll be here in a month, I won't mind. Ugh. Originally they said mid March. Then mid April. Since then "next week" every week. Hopefully it does not mean badness... I love the dress and the store has a good yelp reputation  

All the other major stuff is taken care of. The only thing we need to do is pick out and order a Ketubah (did you find one @flutteringinfl? we saw a couple on ketubah.com that we liked - not going the custom route though, we won't have enough time for that). 

most importantly, i have a huge exam in a few weeks, so all wedding planning is put on hold until then (I'm not even really here!! i'm just taking a tiny studying break)

@JCbride2015 that sounds terrible! Did they state a reason, if you don't mind me asking?

No, haven't had a chance to really look yet. I'm thinking something with watercolors. My mom got a paper cutout one for her wedding a few years ago that was gorgeous but I think a little more intricate than what we want, plus she said she ordered it 6 months ahead of time and it still had to be overnighted, and the seller wasn't that friendly. Was going to go on Etsy and see what grabs me.

NowIAmSyp

JCbride2015 said:

Welp.  We are May 30th and FPILs just pulled their financial contribution.  This was two days ago and I keep getting angrier.  We can come up with the cash but our relationship with them will never be the same.

Oh my goodness, this is terrible!  I'm sorry.  

Did they at least give you a reason??  Your poor FI, too- I can only imagine what he must think?

Hang in there- truly at the end of all this the only thing that matters is being married to each other

classicalandedgy

51 days out here!

I have my dress but still need alterations, so does FI on his tux and our son on his outfit.

Just ordered our champagne favors yesterday, and will deck them out when we get them in a couple of weeks. I ordered our Jones Soda favors for the kiddies too.

Just finalized flowers this week, I had to change florists because the one we had was totally unresponsive and quoted a price that was nearly $500 over budget when she clearly stated that she could do it all within budget when we first met.

Still needing to touch base with the Jazz pianist for the wedding...

Still have to get gifts for the officiant, and two readers. 

We also need to finalize our vows. 

And of course waiting for final numbers to roll in and make final payments. 

I'm sure there a dozen minute things in I'm forgetting in there too. 

Oh and we are planning to have all of our OOT guests and whomever else would like  to come to the house the night before for a 4th of July BBQ.  So we still have to do all the planning for THAT!  Thank goodness my mom is coming into town the week before to help with that. 

 

 

 

 

thisismynickname2

soontobesyp said:

JCbride2015 said:

Welp.  We are May 30th and FPILs just pulled their financial contribution.  This was two days ago and I keep getting angrier.  We can come up with the cash but our relationship with them will never be the same.

Oh my goodness, this is terrible!  I'm sorry.  

Did they at least give you a reason??  Your poor FI, too- I can only imagine what he must think?

Hang in there- truly at the end of all this the only thing that matters is being married to each other

Ditto this!!!

I'm in a wedding this weekend and I'm so damn excited for this couple. This work day is going by so slowly! I have to remember to shove tissues in my bra because I'm going to be weeping through this entire ceremony, I know it. 

hellohkb

I'm in the awkward spot where I've got a lot done, still have a lot to do, and don't REALLY know when to start contacting certain vendors. 

Recently I:

-Ordered and received my dress. I ordered it and 6 days later it came. They told me it'd come in 6-7 months. o.O

-Booked the honeymoon

-Ordered and received my invitations

-Got my guest list in order

charcoalandblush

hellohkb said:

I'm in the awkward spot where I've got a lot done, still have a lot to do, and don't REALLY know when to start contacting certain vendors. 

Recently I:

-Ordered and received my dress. I ordered it and 6 days later it came. They told me it'd come in 6-7 months. o.O

-Booked the honeymoon

-Ordered and received my invitations

-Got my guest list in order

This has been my experience with ALL of the attire I ordered! Store told me to order my dress in January and it would arrive in late April/early May (for an August wedding), it got here before valentines day.

Mentioned that when ordering BM dresses. They said "oh that's because it's a Mori Lee, it was probably already made and sitting in the warehouse and they just have to ship it. these bridesmaids dresses are a house brand and will be made brand new." My estimated delivery date was July 10. Got them on April 27.

Ordered my veil in early April, they said 3-4 months. It took 5 weeks.

ETA: The veil thing was super fortunate. If it had really taken as long as they said, it would have been here in plenty of time for the wedding (~3 weeks early) but not early enough for my hair trial (6 weeks before the wedding in case we need to squeeze in a second). 

JCbride2015

@mj8215 @soontobesyp @flutteringinfl

Yeah... they made some poor financial planning decisions and over-committed themselves.  What bothers me mostis they knew about this problem a few months ago but assured us that they had the wedding money set aside.  Then a few days ago FFIL told Fi that they don't actually have the money.  We are two weeks out from the wedding now.

I never in a million years would have thought this would happen.  Fi and I are both feeling really betrayed and disappointed.  It shocks me that they would go back on their gift, but also that they would wait until the last minute when they've been aware of this problem since at least March.  They went out of their way to assure us about it.

We have the cash to cover the wedding costs without their assistance.  But it kills me that we made decisions on whom to invite based on their insistence about inviting certain people because of that money.  We would have made very different decisions.

Bottom line is that they have lost all trust with both of us.  Our relationship will be very different going forward.  It kind of breaks my heart that they couldn't just keep the damn promise to their son.  Because I don't think either of us is getting over this very soon.

thisismynickname2

JCbride2015 said:@mj8215 @soontobesyp @flutteringinfl
Yeah... they made some poor financial planning decisions and over-committed themselves.  What bothers me mostis they knew about this problem a few months ago but assured us that they had the wedding money set aside.  Then a few days ago FFIL told Fi that they don't actually have the money.  We are two weeks out from the wedding now.
I never in a million years would have thought this would happen.  Fi and I are both feeling really betrayed and disappointed.  It shocks me that they would go back on their gift, but also that they would wait until the last minute when they've been aware of this problem since at least March.  They went out of their way to assure us about it.
We have the cash to cover the wedding costs without their assistance.  But it kills me that we made decisions on whom to invite based on their insistence about inviting certain people because of that money.  We would have made very different decisions.
Bottom line is that they have lost all trust with both of us.  Our relationship will be very different going forward.  It kind of breaks my heart that they couldn't just keep the damn promise to their son.  Because I don't think either of us is getting over this very soon.

And this is on top of other concerns with other costs in your life, if I recall correctly. This is so unfortunate. Very sorry to hear. 

NowIAmSyp

JCbride2015 said:

@mj8215 @soontobesyp @flutteringinfl

Yeah... they made some poor financial planning decisions and over-committed themselves.  What bothers me mostis they knew about this problem a few months ago but assured us that they had the wedding money set aside.  Then a few days ago FFIL told Fi that they don't actually have the money.  We are two weeks out from the wedding now.

I never in a million years would have thought this would happen.  Fi and I are both feeling really betrayed and disappointed.  It shocks me that they would go back on their gift, but also that they would wait until the last minute when they've been aware of this problem since at least March.  They went out of their way to assure us about it.

We have the cash to cover the wedding costs without their assistance.  But it kills me that we made decisions on whom to invite based on their insistence about inviting certain people because of that money.  We would have made very different decisions.

Bottom line is that they have lost all trust with both of us.  Our relationship will be very different going forward.  It kind of breaks my heart that they couldn't just keep the damn promise to their son.  Because I don't think either of us is getting over this very soon.

Hugs to you- and wine!!