I have an etiquette question that is stumping me.
I am giving Plus One's to all invited guests (including Truly Single Guests) and some of my bridesmaids fall into this category.
I am starting to organize the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner and I had a doubt:
Do the Plus 1's of the "Truly Single BMs" that are also local - meaning less than 15 min drive, no travel required, need to be invited to the rehearsal dinner?
Since it is a smaller and more intimate affair, I was not sure if it was necessary to extend the invite also there?
ETA. for grammar. Haven't had coffee yet.
Re: Invite 'Plus Ones' to Rehearsal Dinner?
I could be totally off base here. I genuinely didn't think anyone but actual social units needed to be invited to the rehearsal dinner.
For example: in my single days I was the +1 at a wedding for a guy friend of mine. We drove in the morning of the wedding, but what if he was invited to the RD the night before and I wasn't? Was I supposed to sit in the hotel room by myself, or find dinner on my own in the podunk town? That's really rude.
Another example: again in my single days I was given a +1 for my friend's DW. I decided not to bring someone but if I did and they weren't invited to the RD what should they have done? Find dinner in Miami on their own or awkwardly try and make friends and dinner plans with the other dates that didn't get invited? Again that's rude.
The main point of giving someone a +1 is so they dont have to attend by themselves. I think the +1 needs to be consitent across all of the wedding events.
For example: in my single days I was the +1 at a wedding for a guy friend of mine. We drove in the morning of the wedding, but what if he was invited to the RD the night before and I wasn't? Was I supposed to sit in the hotel room by myself, or find dinner on my own in the podunk town? That's really rude.
Another example: again in my single days I was given a +1 for my friend's DW. I decided not to bring someone but if I did and they weren't invited to the RD what should they have done? Find dinner in Miami on their own or awkwardly try and make friends and dinner plans with the other dates that didn't get invited? Again that's rude.
The main point of giving someone a +1 is so they dont have to attend by themselves. I think the +1 needs to be consitent across all of the wedding events.
This was what was making me have the doubt. If it were a case of people travelling, I would not have even asked the question because of course their travel companion is invited.
I think "technically" you're off the hook inviting the plus ones of truly single guests. However, I like @MGP 's thinking- if they're invited to the wedding, it's a nice thing to do to consider them a social unit for the entirety of the event and its accompanying activities.
Etiquette is all about making people comfortable, right? So even though it's technically not in the books or whatever, won't it make both your friend and their dates (who are technically your guests too) feel the most comfortable to be included in the RD?
Formerly martha1818