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  • mikenbergermikenberger In a f'n cornfield member
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    And you've been quoted my dear. It will forever stay on the interwebz. No matter how much you DD. Thanks for playing!

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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 Ravens & Bohs & Crabs & O's member
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    my future MIL is the only thing causing me stress. Up until the wedding planning I loved her but she is taking over and I'm starting to see just how childish she is. She has had a few run ins with 2 of my maids/ my matron and she flat out told me she doesn't like them. She turned my 250 invited wedding into 330. My shower from 50 to 80. I feel like people will think I'm greedy because they're invited to the shower and I don't even know them! The wedding is in 4 months and she refuses to go look at dresses because she's going to lose weight (she won't). She told everyone about a special dance my dad and I are planning that was supposed to be a surprise. I talk to her about it and she gets all bent out of shape and then tells people in a bit** and a bridezilla (which I don't think I've been so far). The worst part is that my fiance wants nothing to do with the drama so I can't even ask him to step in. My mom and all my maids dislike her because of how she's acting. She's causing me so much stress and causing tension between everyone involved. How do I handle this?!
    Grow a backbone and tell her to back the fuck off.
    Maybe my original post didn't set this up well enough for y'all. I told her to back the fuck off and she acted like a child and posted on Facebook that I'm a bitch. She tattles to everyone whenever I tell her to back off. Its causing tension all around. If I could show you the texts and posts youd all be changing your responses
    NO. We wouldn't. We'd tell you to get over it. She's an adult that is behaving like a child and you are giving her everything she's going to bitch and moan about. You're digging your own grave. 

    Give back her money, plan your own wedding and keep her out of it. And tell your FI to grow a pair and get involved. 

    And tell your maids to defriend her. Seriously. Y'all sound like a bunch of high schoolers.
    Y'all are so supporive..
    I am guessing you wanted...

    "OMG she is such a bitch!  You deserve so much better then her.  And who cares that she is paying you should get your way on everything because you are a super special bride.  And of course you should have a say over her dress.  In fact you should be able to control her every mood.  If I were you I would tell her that she is dead to you and make your FI cut all ties.  That will show her."

    Yeah, you picked the wrong forum if you wanted shit like that.

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  • KatWAGKatWAG Chicago member
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    The DD was so predictable.
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  • mikenbergermikenberger In a f'n cornfield member
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    KatWAG said:
    The DD was so predictable.
    Predictable DD is predictable.

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  • sarawifenowsarawifenow Denver, baby! member
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    Wait this was a DD?! I would have never guessed!
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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle NYC 'burbs member
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    Yeah, I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that your FMIL isn't the problem. 

    You were given constructive advice. You just didn't want to take it. 
  • loveislouderloveislouder member
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    edited June 2015
    I just looked at OP's profile and it says there has been 3 discussions posted but only this one shows up. Weird. 

    When you marry someone, you marry their entire family. You're stuck with them. If she's acting like this with your wedding hows she going to be with other big life events. Children? Pets? 

  • mikenbergermikenberger In a f'n cornfield member
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    I just looked at OP's profile and it says there has been 3 discussions posted but only this one shows up. Weird. 


    Yeah. I've seen that before as well. I'd ask the mods about it, but I don't have my "read in circles" glasses with me.

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  • I just looked at OP's profile and it says there has been 3 discussions posted but only this one shows up. Weird. 


    Yeah. I've seen that before as well. I'd ask the mods about it, but I don't have my "read in circles" glasses with me.
    I believe reporting a post may appear as "discussion" - although why those two things would be tied together, I'll never know.  But considering I generally don't start threads, but I have reported three posts in my time here (all genuinely abusive direct TOS violations, by the way) and I've seen a profile or two that had hundreds of discussions started but only four or five actual discussions to their name (i.e. "I'm reporting you for not validating me, you big meanies" syndrome) I'm inclined to believe that is where it stems from.
  • mikenbergermikenberger In a f'n cornfield member
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    jacques27 said:
    I just looked at OP's profile and it says there has been 3 discussions posted but only this one shows up. Weird. 


    Yeah. I've seen that before as well. I'd ask the mods about it, but I don't have my "read in circles" glasses with me.
    I believe reporting a post may appear as "discussion" - although why those two things would be tied together, I'll never know.  But considering I generally don't start threads, but I have reported three posts in my time here (all genuinely abusive direct TOS violations, by the way) and I've seen a profile or two that had hundreds of discussions started but only four or five actual discussions to their name (i.e. "I'm reporting you for not validating me, you big meanies" syndrome) I'm inclined to believe that is where it stems from.

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  • jacques27 said:
    I just looked at OP's profile and it says there has been 3 discussions posted but only this one shows up. Weird. 


    Yeah. I've seen that before as well. I'd ask the mods about it, but I don't have my "read in circles" glasses with me.
    I believe reporting a post may appear as "discussion" - although why those two things would be tied together, I'll never know.  But considering I generally don't start threads, but I have reported three posts in my time here (all genuinely abusive direct TOS violations, by the way) and I've seen a profile or two that had hundreds of discussions started but only four or five actual discussions to their name (i.e. "I'm reporting you for not validating me, you big meanies" syndrome) I'm inclined to believe that is where it stems from.

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  • sarahuflsarahufl New York member
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    scribe95 said:
    Yes, OP reported the post twice, which is the other two discussion threads showing up.
    Great use of the report button.
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  • KatieinBklnKatieinBkln (NO SLEEP TIL) Brooklyn! member
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    I didn't even have the chance to get VULGAR! 


    Life isn't fair.
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  • sarahufl said:

    scribe95 said:
    Yes, OP reported the post twice, which is the other two discussion threads showing up.
    Great use of the report button.
    Happily, abusing the report button is itself a violation. We don't want a bunch of false reports any more than anyone wants to be reported falsely.
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  • RezIpsaRezIpsa member
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    OP, you missed a step. After everyone has given you excellent advice you are supposed to call them hags and tell them you are sorry for their husbands (because obviously everyone here is female and marrying a man). THEN you DD.

    This thread feels incomplete without a bingo.
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  • BouxRadleyBouxRadley DFW member
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    my future MIL is the only thing causing me stress. Up until the wedding planning I loved her but she is taking over and I'm starting to see just how childish she is. She has had a few run ins with 2 of my maids/ my matron and she flat out told me she doesn't like them. She turned my 250 invited wedding into 330. My shower from 50 to 80. I feel like people will think I'm greedy because they're invited to the shower and I don't even know them! The wedding is in 4 months and she refuses to go look at dresses because she's going to lose weight (she won't). She told everyone about a special dance my dad and I are planning that was supposed to be a surprise. I talk to her about it and she gets all bent out of shape and then tells people in a bit** and a bridezilla (which I don't think I've been so far). The worst part is that my fiance wants nothing to do with the drama so I can't even ask him to step in. My mom and all my maids dislike her because of how she's acting. She's causing me so much stress and causing tension between everyone involved. How do I handle this?!
    Grow a backbone and tell her to back the fuck off.
    Maybe my original post didn't set this up well enough for y'all. I told her to back the fuck off and she acted like a child and posted on Facebook that I'm a bitch. She tattles to everyone whenever I tell her to back off. Its causing tension all around. If I could show you the texts and posts youd all be changing your responses
    NO. We wouldn't. We'd tell you to get over it. She's an adult that is behaving like a child and you are giving her everything she's going to bitch and moan about. You're digging your own grave. 

    Give back her money, plan your own wedding and keep her out of it. And tell your FI to grow a pair and get involved. 

    And tell your maids to defriend her. Seriously. Y'all sound like a bunch of high schoolers.
    Y'all are so supporive..
    Home slice you didn't ask for support; you asked for advice. And you got it. Obviously you haven't spent any amount of time even lurking on these boards if you didn't think you'd get a nice helping of criticism with a big slice of humble pie.
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  • I think I know why your fiance chose you to be his life partner.  It sounds like you and your FMIL are a good match.  This is not necessarily a bad thing.  You have control over your own behavior.  You do not have control over anyone else's behavior.  It is entirely up to you how you respond to others.

    OP, why did you post this?  What were you seeking?
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  • vikinganna87vikinganna87 Live Free or Die member
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    @mikenberger @TrixieJess YES!!!  Love Bubbles 
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