My FI and I are having a dry wedding reception because we don't want to make his very religious family uncomfortable. Our reception will still have plenty of food, cake and non-alcoholic drinks for everyone.
We've decided that following the wedding reception that we would just go to our favorite bar and invite the wedding party or anyone who wants to come to have a beer with us. This invitation would be by word-of-mouth. We are getting suggestions from friends that we should pay for any drinks that are purchased at this "after party" or provide a keg of beer and some bottles of wine for anyone who comes from the wedding reception. These suggestions are from friends who we plan to ask to be in our wedding party and we both feel a little bit of pressure. There is definitely an expectation from them that we will provide alcohol at some point during the day since it's a dry wedding reception.
I'm afraid as time goes on that there's going to be hurt feelings/expectations about this "after party." We can't afford to have an open bar tab for everyone. I thought that by keeping it, "We're going to go to ABC place afterward if you want to join us!" that would be enough to express that this isn't a separate, hosted event. There's no room reservation or no invitations; it's literally FI and I walking from the reception in dress and suit to our favorite bar to have celebratory drinks after the reception wraps up.
I've already stated to a couple of friends that we have a small budge but the suggestions of "but you can at least have a keg for the wedding party!" keeps coming. FI is now worried we may now need to begin to budget for a properly hosted "after party."
Any suggestions as we move forward? Has anyone experienced this before?