Monday Catch Up

Swazzle

@jenjen047 - Ohmygoodness, you are STUNNING! That dress was made for you! When I opened the links of the dress on the model, I was like oh that's nice. And then I got to the links of you in the dress and my jaw dropped. Seriously, stunning. 

@AlPacina - I don't think because one thing is brave, it makes something else not-brave. Caitlyn Jenner choosing to be her true self is brave to me but that doesn't mean that I suddenly think our troops are cowards which is what those comments/posts imply, to me. There isn't just one form/version of bravery. 

AlPacina

@jenjen047 - I agree with everyone else. The dress looks AMAZING. And it makes your boobs look awesome. (Please don't misconstrue based on what I admit below, haha!)

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RE: My mom

So, can anyone think of a nice way to start the conversation? I feel like I know what I want to say, but considering I won't be seeing her in person for a few more weeks is it weird to be on the phone and say something like "So I wanted to talk to you about what you posted on Facebook regarding Caitlyn Jenner not being a courageous individual. I've always respected your opinion because you are such an accepting person, so that really threw me for a loop. Do you really feel like a transgender isn't courageous by finally taking the step to become their true self?" I mean, honestly, I had a girlfriend once. I never "came out" as a lesbian to my parents, because I always knew I was bi, but my mom never had a bad thing to say about it. I would know, because she's a gossiper. I can also tell when she's faking being nice, haha.

I feel like I've opened her mind on many issues, becoming increasingly more left-winged after going to school in Seattle. I want to make sure that she's able to have conversations about this stuff, rather than just re-posting it because people like it on Facebook.

Peaseblossom55

@jenjen047 congrats the dress is so pretty!

jenjen047

@alpacina - no judgement on the boobs comment i think that's a great way to have a conversation with your mom....but i would only do it if you think it will be a constructive conversation. if it's going to result in both of you getting frustrated/angry and no one changing their opinion, i don't see the point. 

speakeasy14

@jenjen047 That dress was made for you! Omg! I love it! 

@alpacina I have no idea how you would start that conversation since you're not in person.  It seems awkward to have that kind of conversation over the phone. How have you started other complicated conversations like this?

@everyone just a little pick me up for all my internet friends on this manic Monday:

AlPacina

@jenjen047 - That's what I love about her. She never gets angry about anything like that. She's so easy to talk to about these things. There have been times that she hasn't changed her mind, but I appreciate her listening and being willing to discuss it. I have a racist homophobic sister. Even she has never gotten angry or frustrated when we have these kinds of discussions, and it makes it easier for me to stay calm when it would be so easy to flip out on her. It's something we've all picked up from my mom.

@speakeasy14 - Never over the phone. Maybe it's something that I can just let lie for now, and see if it ever comes up in person. I just don't want to miss an opportunity to show her that just because a majority of her facebook friends like something doesn't mean it's right............ You are also beautiful.

bethsmiles

jenjen047 said:

@alpacina - no judgement on the boobs comment i think that's a great way to have a conversation with your mom....but i would only do it if you think it will be a constructive conversation. if it's going to result in both of you getting frustrated/angry and no one changing their opinion, i don't see the point. 

Ditto, I don't have these conversations with my mom anymore because it doesn't do any good and just ends in anger and frustration.

speakeasy14

@alpacina well, your mom just sounds awesome.  

jenjen047

@speakeasy14 - thank you for channing.

@evreyone THANK YOU!!!! i love my dress. i want to wear it ALL THE TIME!

doeydo

How was your weekend? It was alright, thanks.  Not too eventful, just stayed home mostly and gamed and drew a little bit.

Best part of the weekend? Getting to spend time with my kitties.  I must sound like a crazy cat lady, but I was away from them for longer than I had ever been before recently, when I had stayed at my GF's.
Crappiest part of the weekend? I worked on a bit of homework, which isn't that fun.  Interesting for sure, though.

Mac and cheese or cheesy potatoes? Mm, mac and cheese, please. 

AlPacina

speakeasy14 said:

@alpacina well, your mom just sounds awesome.  

Yea, I just had to call her and tell her I love her because of this conversation, haha. I didn't bring up Caitlyn Jenner. Just said hi and told her I can't wait to see her soon.

speakeasy14

@alpacina I do that with my mom every so often. I asked her to go shopping with me over the weekend because I missed her.  Apparently that made her cry haha

doeydo

@eilis1228 I love your china.
@jenjen047 That dress really highlights your lovely figure.

I think it did take a lot of courage for Caitlyn Jenner to come out and I loved her acceptance speech.  She is a wonderful inspiration to a lot of people and I think trans visibility and representation is really important.  Lots of people are brave: LGBTQ+ people who come out, fighting soldiers, kids fighting diseases such as cancer, there is lots of bravery to go around!  One person being brave does not take away from the others.

jenjen047

@doeydo - thank you. are you new here? 

doeydo

@jenjen047 pretty new to this board, yes.  I've been on TK for a while, though.