HELP!!! My wedding is in 9 days and all of my bridesmaids live out of state. Because of this communication is usually only through email or text and it hasn't been consistent. I thought I had addressed this but I've only recently become aware of how bad it's really been. I've been so caught up planning the wedding, but now my one bridesmaid is refusing to help with anything else and my MOH and other bridesmaid are completely oblivious to her feelings. I'm trying to remedy the situation but my MOH isn't responding to phone calls and I'm afraid to send any group emails for fear of exacerbating the issue. I don't want everyone to hate each other, help!!!
Re: One bridesmaid doing all the work, MOH and other bridesmaid clueless...
Your post is very confusing because none of them are required to do anything for your wedding except buy a dress (or other appropriate attire) and show up the day of sober enough to walk in a straight line down an aisle.
So, if the things that the one bridesmaid is doing that the other two are not are in any way connected to the actual planning/crafting of your wedding, then easy peasy the solution for her to realize that she's actually not required to do any of that because it is solely the responsibility of the two people getting married. That should take some stress off of her and help her to realize that the other two are in fact not to be faulted for any reason.
Now, if the things that the one bridesmaid is doing that the other two are not are say throwing a shower or bachelorette for you within the next nine days (both things are entirely optional, can be thrown by anyone, not just people in your bridal party) and ALL THREE had previously agreed that they would co-host this together and chip in and the other two are now slacking off on this, then I could see how your one bridesmaid could be upset. But then that goes back to it not being your responsibility to be their mommy. And this only applies of all three decided to jointly throw the party, not just that one decided to do it and just expected that the other two would contribute.
The Knot is connected with their magazine, which needs advertizing money. This makes it a part of the wedding industry, whose sole purpose is to help you spend more money on your wedding. The posters on this forum are not employed by The Knot. We will tell you the truth, whether you like it, or not. Your friends and family care about you, and they won't want to tell you anything that might make you unhappy. (It sound like one bridesmaid did speak up. Good for her!)
The ladies on ths thread have given you excellent advice.
OP, the Knot gives bad advice on some topics (especially their insane list of bridal party "responsibilities" that mostly seems like a mashup of every bad wedding movie ever made). When you post on the boards, you'll get a dozen-plus replies from actual people living in the real world who have gotten married, are getting married, and/or have been in weddings. If 90% of them are in consensus, I'd follow that advice over whatever the Knot is peddling.