Niece Invite Drama Causing Havoc

Pupatella

I do agree with PP's that if she is over 18, her SO needs to be invited.  

Although, if she is under 18 and you decide to invite him, your niece is probably going to be hanging out with her boyfriend during the reception and having fun!!  You want people having fun at your wedding!!  If you tell her that her boyfriend can not attend, I think there is more risk that she may cause some disruption or have a tantrum at your wedding.

My two cents, invite him and let it go.  Concentrate on you and your FI on your wedding day!! 

TrixieJess

cdutka said:

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Wait! Don't you feel sorry for our husbands/wives/partners? 

Anyone got a BINGO yet?

cdutka

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lyndausvi

Someone didn't read the TOS.

randomslove

cdutka said:

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WOW. I didn't curse at you, nor did many people. This is how you respond? Get off the internet and separate yourself from the rest of humanity. You obviously don't know how to be a part of it.

cdutka

Thank you for the sincere advice instead of calling me names.  I appreciate it

SP29

I also thought this was MUD too, because it's so ridiculous.

1) All adult guests must have their SO invited, regardless if you know them or not. It's pretty rude to expect your family and friends to come out and celebrate YOUR relationship when you are so disrespectful to theirs.

2) There is no way your niece will steal your thunder. Everyone knows you are the bride, no one is going to confuse the two of you. I also don't see how her bringing her bf has any relation to this???

3) It's not like he's going to walk down the aisle with her, so he won't be taking all her time. Does that mean every other person in your WP is single too? If not, how are they able to be appropriate wedding party members, but not your niece?

4) Why did you even ask her to be in your WP when you have spoken so ill about her, calling her a spoiled brat? You come back on her complaining about how posters have talked to you, but look at how YOU talked about your niece!

To summarize: Apologize to your niece for the slight and let her know that of course her boyfriend is invited. And then go focus on what is actually important that day- you and your FI getting married.

Maggie0829

cdutka said:

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HA!  You are pissed at us for calling you names?!  Pot meet kettle.

ETA:  And you complained about the cursing yet have no problem spewing nastiness yourself?

thespeshulestsnowflake

cdutka said:

Thank you for the sincere advice instead of calling me names.  I appreciate it

The quote button is your friend. We don't know who you are talking about.

kimmiinthemitten

So basically what you're trying to say is:

Don't call me names, see you next Tuesday?

randomslove

cdutka said:

Thank you for the sincere advice instead of calling me names.  I appreciate it

Whoever this is to probably does not appreciate you, your language, or anything about this "thanks." How about you apologize to everyone for using severely offensive language? That might be appreciated.

southernbelle0915

cdutka said:

Thank you for the sincere advice instead of calling me names.  I appreciate it

LOL wut? You want everyone to blow glitter up your ass, but you're totally cool with calling everyone cunts? Mmmkay. 

You aren't very good at this trolling business, are you?

cdutka

I am not good at this "Trolling business"  because I am not one.  I was called names first.

NowIamMrsKlein

TrixieJess

cdutka said:

I am not a troll.  I genuinely wanted some advice but apparently some people cannot give that without calling others names.  Damn sucks to want some help from people who troll boards for things to call other people names about.  So you all can fuck off I have had enough and I hope you all need someones advice one day and instead of getting it are called names.  There were plenty of ways to let me know I was wrong without the name calling and judging.  Obviously I had a feeling I was or I would not have asked.  Thanks for nothing cunts

No one trolled you. You may want to look up that meaning as I'm pretty sure you don't quite understand it. You were given good advice. No one called you any names. You personally were not judged, but your attitude and actions were. If you would like to offer clarification rather than calling us names which leads me to:

SP29

^^^ For sure! In the time I typed out my response there was a whole new page of "responses"...

cdutka

Knottie9076833 said:

I do agree with PP's that if she is over 18, her SO needs to be invited.  

Although, if she is under 18 and you decide to invite him, your niece is probably going to be hanging out with her boyfriend during the reception and having fun!!  You want people having fun at your wedding!!  If you tell her that her boyfriend can not attend, I think there is more risk that she may cause some disruption or have a tantrum at your wedding.

Thank you for your advice it is appreciated without name calling

My two cents, invite him and let it go.  Concentrate on you and your FI on your wedding day!! 

speakeasy14

But really, why would you ask her to be a bridesmaid if you think so little of her? 

[Deleted User]

Are you perhaps jealous of her new bf?? Maybe she's happy.. are you not happy with your FI? It sounds like a lot of jealousy going on.

madamerwin

onefootinthebayou

julieanne912 said:

I feel lame, but what does MUD stand for?  I get the meaning.  

And uh yeah to the OP, you're 50-fucking-5 and you're worried about your niece "stealing your thunder"?  Jesus Christ....

Here it stands for Made Up Drama as PP pointed out but I found that it can also stand for "Multiple User Disorder" when an unpopular poster creates AIs to come back and add supportive comments to their own OPs.  In other words, someone with a lot of time on their hands (and a lot of IP addresses).  But I don't want to muddy the waters w/multiple definitions, pun intended, it's "made up drama".  

OliveOilsMom

cdutka said:

Wow all I wanted was an opinion not a judgement.  No need to cuss at me.

You didn't want judgment for yourself but you were sure able to pass judgment on your niece!  Double standard, much? 

It can be hard to hear that something you are so set on is wrong and against etiquette.  But as a 55 year old supposedly mature adult, you should have been able to read the advice given and moved on with your life, hopefully following the advice you were given. 

Liatris2010

onefootinthebayou said:

julieanne912 said:

I feel lame, but what does MUD stand for?  I get the meaning.  

And uh yeah to the OP, you're 50-fucking-5 and you're worried about your niece "stealing your thunder"?  Jesus Christ....

Here it stands for Made Up Drama as PP pointed out but I found that it can also stand for "Multiple User Disorder" when an unpopular poster creates AIs to come back and add supportive comments to their own OPs.  In other words, someone with a lot of time on their hands (and a lot of IP addresses).  But I don't want to muddy the waters w/multiple definitions, pun intended, it's "made up drama".  

We call these sock-puppets

onefootinthebayou

Liatris2010 said:

onefootinthebayou said:

julieanne912 said:

I feel lame, but what does MUD stand for?  I get the meaning.  

And uh yeah to the OP, you're 50-fucking-5 and you're worried about your niece "stealing your thunder"?  Jesus Christ....

Here it stands for Made Up Drama as PP pointed out but I found that it can also stand for "Multiple User Disorder" when an unpopular poster creates AIs to come back and add supportive comments to their own OPs.  In other words, someone with a lot of time on their hands (and a lot of IP addresses).  But I don't want to muddy the waters w/multiple definitions, pun intended, it's "made up drama".  

We call these sock-puppets

I just laughed out loud in the hotel lobby.  How did I miss this?  Sock puppets.  Love it.  

WinstonsGirl

Damn it, why do I always miss the good posts before they get deleted for TOS violations.  I can figure it out but it's not the same.

ETA - Wrong button  

huskypuppy14

What was the violation? Calling us bitches?

I went to a wedding with my now husband when we had been dating for ten weeks. This SO could become your niece's spouse one day and won't you feel like an ass for not inviting them.

julieanne912

Maggie0829 said:

I am still trying to wrap my mind around the fact that OP is acting/thinking this way and is 55.

I know women w/ mothers who act like this... and we all 

WinstonsGirl said:

Damn it, why do I always miss the good posts before they get deleted for TOS violations.  I can figure it out but it's not the same.

ETA - Wrong button  

I know... I go to lunch for an hour and I miss the TOS violations.

thespeshulestsnowflake

huskypuppy14 said:

What was the violation? Calling us bitches? I went to a wedding with my now husband when we had been dating for ten weeks. This SO could become your niece's spouse one day and won't you feel like an ass for not inviting them.

Basically saying fuck you to people and calling people cunts, bitches might have been included too. 

julieanne912

thespeshulestsnowflake said:

huskypuppy14 said:

What was the violation? Calling us bitches? I went to a wedding with my now husband when we had been dating for ten weeks. This SO could become your niece's spouse one day and won't you feel like an ass for not inviting them.

Basically saying fuck you to people and calling people cunts, bitches might have been included too. 

Wouldn't that be considered cussing?  *commence pearl clutch*

WinstonsGirl

julieanne912 said:

thespeshulestsnowflake said:

huskypuppy14 said:

What was the violation? Calling us bitches? I went to a wedding with my now husband when we had been dating for ten weeks. This SO could become your niece's spouse one day and won't you feel like an ass for not inviting them.

Basically saying fuck you to people and calling people cunts, bitches might have been included too. 

Wouldn't that be considered cussing?  *commence pearl clutch*

But if it's directed at specific people it's name calling and against TOS