My battle right now is brewing and brewing badly.
So our venue has a rehearsal always on Thursday, our wedding is on Saturday. I told his mother shortly after we were in engaged that the rehearsal is on a Thursday she asked what time. I told her I would check, she said she would like to have it earlier, meaning the rehearsal so she could have an earlier rehearsal dinner. So I called the venue and I got a 5pm that day. Welp come to find out they cant make it that because they have parent teacher conferences and asked if we could do the whole thing on a different day. We said no. They meaning his sister and mother as they are both school teachers and have to both attend these parent teacher conferences. They asked to have the dinner on Friday, after battling I regretfully said that is fine. I dont want it on Friday, its too much for people to get together on Thursday to rehearse and most likely go to dinner, then have to turn around and go eat dinner again the day before we get married.
I had already planned a full spa day with my mother and maid of honor. We are having a small wedding party as I was trying to keep our wedding as clean and easy as possible.
So I told them fine we can have it on Friday. Well so then his mother asked us to give them restaurants we like, so I gave her 12. She chose none of which were on the list and said she picked this one restaurant that happens to be his sisters favorite, also super inconvenient and in the middle of the city. So a couple weeks have gone by and I finally broke down and was like to my fiance, look I dont want to get together 2 times for something we dont have to do. I want to be relaxing the day before the wedding as does he. So he calls his mother and breaks the news to her. He said she didnt sound that disappointed or upset, but now we are dealing with the wrath of his sister and his text messages about why are we not having it. All we have to do is show up. What is the big problem? This is the only thing mom and dad are involved in which I tried to include them in the taste testing but his sister and mother couldn't because of yet another school event. Also we gave his mother the option that we could maybe do like a dinner the week before or 2 weeks before and she declined and said that we just had one of those.
Please help, what do I do? I really want to keep my foot down and not have it on Friday. It is too many people having to get together all over again.